What is masturbation: understand from puberty to maturity |

Incredible as it may seem, masturbation is still a taboo, even in the solitude of the search for pleasure. There are many prejudices and beliefs that surround the practice and most of them are associated with moralistic and religious issues. Other times, they are misconceptions regarding health, believing that the practice can cause harm or illness. Does not cause!

Masturbation is the healthiest way to recognize your body’s sources of pleasure. At the onset of puberty we are flooded with an avalanche of hormones that are preparing the body for reproduction.

Nature is wise. For life to continue, nothing is more appealing than providing the body with pleasurable sensations so that peers seek each other out with the aim of satisfying this pleasure, which will lead to the preservation of the species.

In the animal kingdom as a whole, it is the preservation instinct that governs sexual contact and in the case of human beings it is no different. The body asks for this discharge of energy that accumulates from time to time.

It’s organic, it’s physiological as much as the need to drink water is when you’re thirsty. But we go beyond physiological need. We recognize the pleasure that the body can provide and we can consciously seek it.

There is no masturbation in childhood

Since babies, the body signals pleasures that begin with breastfeeding. After all, it is a great pleasure to satisfy hunger! As time goes by, children find other pleasures that go through sphincter control. Winning praise from parents when the child signals that he wants to pee or poop is an extra stimulus to control his functions. And so, naturally, children explore their bodies.

Around the age of three or four, the body is available to be explored and children will touch their genitals, but this should not be seen as sexualization or masturbation. This practice can become embarrassing for parents because the child does not choose time or place to touch himself, so the best thing to do is guide the child, not prohibit him.

It is negative to use religion as a form of repression or to say that it is ugly, since sexualization is only in the adult’s head. The child is innocent and linking pleasure to sin and parental disapproval can have dire consequences in adult life.

This phase will pass around the age of 6, when curiosity about exploring the body gives way to exploring the world around them and interests migrate to learning to read, sports and friendships.

Child Care – A Warning!

It is very important that the little ones are well oriented regarding who can and who cannot touch their bodies. At each stage in appropriate language, children should know that no one “big” can touch their genitalia, except for mom and dad to clean up and at bath time. From an early age, from the age of two or three, children should have an idea of ​​what the intimate parts of the body are, that is, those that adults are not allowed to touch or caress. The mother, especially, must make it clear that she will always believe in the child, so when any adult wants to go somewhere “secret”, “hidden”, the child must always refuse and tell the parents or teachers. Parents should make it clear that there is no secret between a child and an adult and that the child should always tell Mom anything that any adult – uncle, cousin, grandfather, stepfather, neighbor, family friends – says is a secret. What you can’t: the adult asks to take off his clothes, film, photograph, touch, spy, touch his body, kiss and everything else that parents understand as a risk to the integrity of their children.

masturbation at puberty

From puberty, sexuality begins to develop. Pleasure in the genital region starts to be consciously sought and the practice of masturbation begins. In this way, it will not be necessary to warn the children so that this is not done in public, the children will naturally understand that this pleasure must be satiated in intimacy.

I want to open a parenthesis here with regard to children with disabilities, whether physical or mental. All children go through the same phases with regard to the discoveries of their body and their guardians cannot be oblivious to this.

It is the clarifying conversations at each stage of development and the insistence and patience in guiding the children that can make them develop more naturally and with less prejudice.

It is not because the child is a disabled person that he should be treated eternally as a child. This behavior does not protect, on the contrary, it limits and causes more harm than good. There are specialized and trained professionals to guide parents in all stages of development. Count on these professionals.

Teenagers, adults, ladies and gentlemen masturbate. Or should…

The exercise of sexuality is healthy. It is not necessary to have a partner to enjoy the pleasures that the body can provide. If teenagers are not dating or dating someone, this does not mean that the body is inert, it is producing an infinity of hormones that appeal to the pursuit of pleasure. So… why not masturbate?

Why not give wings to your imagination and let go of your intimacy and take the opportunity to explore this body and its possibilities even more? It is in masturbation that the teenager is also prepared to live his sexuality without hindrance and to guide his future partner towards his sources of pleasure. Without knowing his own body, its limits and horizons, young people can, on the one hand, be the target of abuse and, on the other, be trapped in fears and prejudices.

Adults, even if they have an active sex life, also don’t need to put aside the practice of masturbation, either as a solitary act or as a couple. We know that the visual appeal is stimulating and the couple can use masturbation in foreplay or even as a sexual practice with an end in itself.

What about people who are no longer of reproductive age and who have already gone through a new hormonal revolution? Even if the appeals for pleasure are calmer, they do not cease to exist. Nothing a stimulus can’t handle!

Sexual pleasure is not just guided by incredible orgasms. Touching, caressing, prolonging the feeling of sexual well-being, whether alone or with the partner/partner of a lifetime, is always a practice that relaxes, strengthens intimacy and reinforces bonds. It is prejudice that often makes us “forget” that the body can continue to be a playground.

Each stage of life with its peculiarities, masturbation is and will always be healthy from youth to maturity! It’s a practice fully aligned with self-knowledge.

Knowing and taking advantage of the possibilities of the body is also getting closer to the mind and emotions.