What does it mean to dream about a boyfriend?

Dreaming of a boyfriend or girlfriend means that our ego is relating to a known aspect of our personality. Something in us is represented by someone with whom we have intimate, affectionate and frequent contact, although it can bring new information that we may not be aware of.

watch your relationships

Every person who crosses our path and with whom we have an affective relationship – whether in a casual encounter or in a serious relationship – brings us precious information about our behavior.

Observing these relationships and how they affect and transform us are interesting ways to get to know yourself, observe yourself and collect projections.

When we dream of people close to us, it is important to ask ourselves what these people represent. This is a good start to thinking about your boyfriend or girlfriend in a dream.

Understand the possible variations of dreaming about a boyfriend:

Dream that your boyfriend is cheating

It may indicate a saboteur animus/anima, which promotes illusion and deceit about life’s circumstances, whether related to the relationship itself or not. The dreamer may be failing to position himself when necessary, or making choices that do not reflect what he truly wants, betraying himself in his purposes or principles.

Dreaming of having sex with your boyfriend

It takes us to a deeper and enriching approximation with this psychic instance. Having sex with the animus/anima can indicate a connection, a deeper involvement of the dreamer with this psychic counterpart, which can manifest itself as an alignment between what one feels and thinks with the way one acts in reality. It can demonstrate that the dreamer feels comfortable with their positions, as they come from a more integrated psychic place.

Dream about fighting with your boyfriend

It can denounce an internal tension between the ego and its counterparts (male or female). The reasons for and results of the fight may shed more light on what the unconscious is trying to make conscious to the dreamer.

Dream that you are dating someone else

A figure totally different from the real image, but which is perceived in the dream as someone intimate and known, could indicate that it is an aspect that is not so well known or that it is perhaps far from the reality that the dreamer projects onto the partner. Often the image comes as a friend of the partner, a stranger or even a public figure. In each case, the understanding will be individual depending on the dreamer’s associations.

Dreaming of a boyfriend: what reflections is your unconscious suggesting to you?

Does my relationship enrich me or subtract me psychologically? Is there an exchange and can we learn from each other, or does the balance tip to one side? Of the characteristics I project in my partner, which ones do I need to work on in myself? Is this a satisfying and harmonious relationship or an abusive one? Do we respect each other as individuals or do we symbiote without preserving our uniqueness? Can I see that my relationships are also a reflection of myself and who I am?

Analyze the context of the dream for a more effective interpretation

Do you have a real relationship with the person you dreamed of? Does the character appear with the same original appearance as the partner or does his appearance change? Does the dream present a relationship that resembles the real relationship or does it portray something that is totally different from reality? What are the interactions that occur between you and the character that appears in the dream, is there any type of conflict that can be identified? What feelings permeate the dream?

Dreams are messages from the unconscious. Knowing how to interpret them can be an important tool for self-knowledge. It is worth mentioning that the meaning will rarely be only positive or negative. If there is dedication to the issues raised by the dream, what initially may have appeared as a “bad omen” can generate positive transformations.

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