What does anger teach us?

Anger is an altering emotion that we experience with great intensity and that in turn extinguishes our most rational approach.. You can turn. generate multiple somatic sensations, such as a blockage in the stomach or a lump in the throat. In turn, if there is something that usually defines this state, it is the difficulty in managing it and reducing its effect.

In reality, when we feel anger something is happening in our nervous system, in our blood and, therefore, in our entire body. With this emotion our hormones and neurotransmitters are stirred., mobilizing us for action. However, before leading to behavior that we may regret, it is best to take a breath and better understand what this state wants to tell us.

Anger, another emotion

Anger pushes us to release energy, to externalize it because it turns our interior into a kind of pressure cooker. When we do not open a channel for it to evaporate, it can cause us a lot of damage, contaminating the rest of the emotions, thoughts and behaviors that we generate from that moment on.

Like any emotion, We are responsible for it and no one is to blame for it., even though we do associate it or project it onto someone. At the same time, and no less important, there is an aspect that we must consider.

Studies such as the one carried out at the University of Albany, in New York, remind us that this emotion is behind many violent behaviors. Knowing how to control it, channel it and break it down is part of Emotional Intelligence, the key to well-being.

Born as a reaction to something or someone

Anger is an emotion that escapes us, who wants to go out and that’s why, sometimes, we feel like we can’t control her. Often, it is born motivated by someone who does or says something that bothers us.

Many times, We will externalize the anger against that person who caused the trigger of this emotion, behaving impulsively and without control over our words and actions. However, this does not solve what really caused it, causing conflicts and damage, which we will probably regret later.

against oneself

At other times, the anger is against ourselves. This occurs when it is triggered by a situation and not so much for other people. Which means the direct attack on our person, blaming us for the annoying or unpleasant situation.

In any case, anger directed towards ourselves nor does it free us from it, but it will make us feel even worse. Far from the anger dissipating, it will grow more inside us, feeling overwhelmed by so much unresolved and self-destructive emotion.

The rage that destroys

Anger is destructive when we don’t know how to resolve it. If we allow ourselves to be carried away by it impulsively, we harm ourselves or other people. On the other hand, if we repress it as if it were radioactive waste, it remains nested inside us, growing over time and damaging our own image.

It is necessary to learn to resolve and manage it, so that it does not destroy us. However, it is also essential to discover where it comes from and why we feel it. In this way, we will discover the true reason for our anger. So, Only when we know the depth of the emotion can we heal it, banishing it from our interior.

The emotion that teaches us

Anger always tells us that we have some personal dissatisfaction., something unresolved that may even come from childhood. To discover its real origin, it would be convenient to observe in which situations it appears and in which it remains asleep.

It is likely that all situations have something in common, since This emotion frequently hides dissatisfaction, pain, unmet expectations.feelings of inferiority, abandonment, frustration, lack of support, search for perfection, etc.

If we observe our anger, it will show us where we have to work, perhaps to strengthen ourselves, accept failure, respect the way others are or to feel satisfied. Only then will we stop feeling this unpleasant emotion.

Channel and manage

It is important knowing how to manage and confront anger in an appropriate way, when it is already in you. You have to avoid personal and other harm, at the same time that you achieve and feel the relief of being able to express it. This has to do with emotional intelligence, that is, knowing how to express, resolve and cope without hurting anyone.

For it, Look for a physical activity that allows you to “get out your anger” and during physical effort, imagine that you get rid of the anger that hurts you, feeling the relief of the exercise. You can also kick, hit a pillow, and even throw rocks and visualize how your rage ends at the end of these activities.

You can also choose a safe place, where you can shout and express yourself without anyone hearing you.you can say out loud what helps you free it, knowing that no one will receive it.

In addition, More relaxed approaches such as Mindfulness or any other type of meditation are other strategies to consider not to channel anger, but to prevent it.

Transform emotion into learning

Don’t forget to look for the origin of anger, learning from what it has to teach you. Learning with your emotion is a way to grow. Knowing how to manage it is to express it without harming yourself or anyone else and t transforming anger into learning is healing yourself from your deepest internal footprints.

Every day we will be learning if we spend time observing and recognizing our emotions.. It is important to learn to manage them, as well as learn from them, their origin and their reason, so that they do not harm us or cause us discomfort again.

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