To forgive, you must first forgive yourself.

Forgiveness is an action that not everyone is prepared for.. Of course, those who are capable of forgiving others know perfectly well the feeling of freedom that invades them when they do so. It is not only an act for the person who offended us, but also for us.

It is necessary to be able to move forward, to not drag it around like a weight and even sometimes to reestablish a dialogue that gives us answers to questions that have stayed with us. Questions that only the person we resent can resolve.

On the other hand, many times the damage is not done to us by someone else but rather by ourselves who pull the trigger. Whether deliberate or not, we are ultimately responsible for the injuries and we do not have to nor do we want to blame anyone else for what has happened.

Forgive yourself for having failed

When we ask for forgiveness it is because we have failed another person. or we have made a mistake so big that other people have been affected. But why do you ask for forgiveness without first forgiving yourself?

On more than one occasion, We leave in the hands of others many of the responsibilities for which only we should be responsible. In this case, for example, it is the act of forgiving. A much clearer example would be love. Is it true that if we don’t love ourselves we can’t love someone else? Well, the same thing happens with the act of forgiving.

You may wonder why no one has taught you this before, why no one has told you that you have to forgive yourself and then be forgiven by others. The reality is that we have always been taught to be “irresponsible”, in a certain way, with our actions.

For this reason, we allow ourselves to love others without having loved ourselves beforewe want to be forgiven without first forgiving ourselves, we demand respect without first respecting ourselves… A long etcetera shows, without a doubt, that we constantly fall into the same mistake, over and over again.

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The fear of forgiving yourself

Perhaps this mistake that we made and for which we should forgive ourselves, is just the sample of one of our great fears: being aware of our weaknesses and that we are not perfect. It is very difficult for us to see inside ourselves and accept our mistakes. Perhaps, for this reason, we prefer to look the other way.

Today we want to give you some tips so that you can forgive yourself without fear. So that the next time you find yourself needing to ask for forgiveness, think of yourself first. Well, it’s not selfish to think of yourself as the first option. You are the most important thing and, therefore, only you should be the first to ask for forgiveness.

Why do you need to forgive yourself?: You must be clear if you really should forgive yourself, because sometimes we feel guilty without being guilty. Once you know that you are to blame you should forgive yourself, but how?Failure doesn’t make you a bad person.: We all make mistakes and the fact that we make them does not make us bad people. Therefore, we must accept our failures, learn from them and forgive ourselves. We are human beings and we make mistakes. It’s normal!Start again: sometimes we are afraid to start again, but perhaps this is the first step once you forgive yourself. Think that forgiving yourself is learning, rectifying and realizing where you have failed. From here, a new life will begin for you.Forget the past: Perhaps you feel tormented by those mistakes that you have made and that are still present in the now. Don’t beat yourself up for it, forgive yourself! and start again. Use all those stones in your path to be better as a person.Be responsible for your actions: Asking for forgiveness, sometimes, is an irresponsible act, since we want to “get rid” of that burden in the easiest way. But if you forgive yourself first, this is no longer so simple. Be responsible for your mistakes, because you have made them!

Now you can forgive others

Now that you know what you should do to forgive yourself before others, you can forgive. Of course, keep in mind that you must always be ahead. More than anything because “forgiveness” is something that is said, nowadays, lightly. Something that shows how irresponsible we are for our actions.

It is important that you be compassionate with yourself. We all fail at some point in our lives and we all need, on some occasion, forgiveness from another person. But, don’t make this a constant. Forgiveness must be sincere.

Also, think that asking for forgiveness from yourself will allow you to get to know yourself even more. You will be aware of where you are failing so you can find a solution, you will be able to develop greater self-confidence and you will value yourself more!

Do you ask for forgiveness before forgiving yourself? When was the last time you forgave yourself? We hope that from now on you will put into practice forgiving yourself. An action that will enrich you and that will allow you, later, to ask for a much more sincere and true forgiveness.

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