Understand the feeling of anger |

Anger is one of the most present emotions in modern life. Whether it is very well hidden within us or expressed violently, it bothers us and provokes guilt. After all, who likes someone who feels angry?

Certainly, anger can fill someone with such intense energy that it’s almost impossible to be around it without feeling affected. There are many reactions: feeling angry too, fear, embarrassment or simply uncomfortable. In any case, very few of us would be indifferent or compassionate to her.

Then, when this furious wave goes away, shame, discomfort, consequences remain – broken objects, broken relationships, accidents – and a very strong sense of regret.

It is very likely that, because of this, many try to suppress their anger, hiding it behind complacent smiles, eating quickly, throwing or crushing objects, practicing some kind of sport or even becoming harsh, closed or ironic people. .

anger is something so natural that better than trying to hide it is simply letting it flow freely

In a state of containment, anger just builds up and becomes more and more powerful. Therefore, it will only take one reason, even the most foolish one, for it to be totally liberated. That’s when the person, until then so controlled, will appear in front of his family and acquaintances totally changed, upset, doing unbelievable things. People won’t be able to understand how something so insignificant generated such a stormy reaction.

Even so, anger is something so natural that better than trying to hide it is simply letting it flow freely. Therefore, our effort should not be to contain anger. We must let it express itself and let it go naturally, since its roots are rooted in only one very present will: that of controlling everything.

What generates the most anger within us is our feeling of powerlessness in the face of our failure to control a person, a situation, or ourselves.

It really couldn’t be any different. To control means to generate some kind of tension. This explains why it is so difficult for someone to overcome an addiction, lose weight or even relate when what moves them is the feeling of control.

So when you feel angry, ask yourself: “What am I trying to control?” and accept that it’s not up to you to dominate the situation or anyone else. Try to adapt, relax and find other ways to solve what you need. Check out some tips:

The first thing to do is not to deny the anger. It exists, so accept it; Much of our anger is generated by unimportant things, so assess whether it’s really worth spoiling the moment and even the day, because of a misunderstanding or something out of place; Channel your anger into something positive, like a productive activity or exercise. No taking it out on people, plants, animals, objects or even on tasks that can be “impregnated” with that energy, like preparing food for you or someone else; Finally, don’t blame anyone for what you’re feeling. Anger started with you and will end with you. The outside world is just an excuse.

Anyway, don’t fear anger, don’t hide it. Free her!