To shine with my own light I don’t need a partner by my side

Although many people believe otherwise, you don’t need it: it is not necessary to have a partner to shine with your own light. Because you already came into the world with a star inside you, it is the same one that guides you in dark nights and she who, when she wants it and if the opportunity arises, chooses to go out dancing with another star just as bright.

Plato said with great wisdom that “At the contact of love everyone becomes a poet”. Suddenly, we find strengths where we thought they were lost and the world, without further ado, acquires a patina of luminous splendor. This emotional ecstasy is something that is undoubtedly worth experiencing. However, passion is not the only state that human beings live in.. You can also shine in solitude, in that state of calm and personal satisfaction where nothing is left over and nothing is missing.

A partner can give us vitality, happiness, sexuality, tenderness and intimacy. However, and we should be clear about this, the loved one cannot be used as a magic potion to heal our vital dissatisfactions. If you don’t shine inside, you can’t take the light away from another person and expect their energy to be worth it to both of you. It will be valid for a limited time, but soon it will fade away in a slow demise.

To this day, many of us still live encapsulated in certain preconceived ideas about an ideal love that must come to quench our frustrations. However, frustrations do not go out, nor are they destroyed, nor do they escape through the drain of broken dreams, but rather they are overcome in the first person.

We suggest you reflect on it.

Shine with your own light, a gift reserved for a few

Moths are sadly fascinating beings. They present positive phototaxis, that is, they are attracted to light. The Moon, for example, serves as a guide and orientation in their nocturnal migrations and in their mating rituals. However, nowadays, due to the great light pollution of artificial origin, there are fewer and fewer moths. Likewise, in their absolute attraction to light bulbs, it is common to see how they end up losing their lives by fluttering around the light bulbs in our homes.

Something similar usually happens in emotional relationships. There are people who have their own light, they are almost like authentic “lightbulbs” in the middle of the darkness.. They are beings who can shine because they enjoy personal fulfillment, good self-esteem and that fascinating magic that is hypnotic for many. It is common for others to feel captivated and begin a relationship hoping that that calm and that light will alleviate their fears, their dissatisfactions and those private corners of quiet darkness.

It is clear, however, that there are many types of relationship. There are those who join to calm longings, others to enjoy intimacy and there are those who seek an authentic connection with which to build a future. There is therefore no perfect model of relationship, but there are relationships that enrich us or impoverish us.. Those who seek us only to take away our “light” for their own benefit, to console their sadness or insecurities, will cause us to lose all our strengths one by one.

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Your inner light will emerge when you are ready

As we have already pointed out, A partner can make us happy but not give us authentic happiness. This last aspect always depends on oneself.. So much so, that today it is common to see many people who are married or have been in an emotional relationship for many years who declare that they love their spouses or emotional partners and, however, they are still not happy. They feel a emptiness, a discomfort, a kind of inexplicable frustration.

Something we should start to assume is that Happiness, as a state of absolute ecstasy, does not exist. If it is, it turns out to be very brief, as ephemeral as a summer dream. However, this does not mean we should feel more dull or sad. As we noted at the beginning, all of us come from the “factory” with a star inside us. It is there, even if we don’t see it: You just have to know how to turn it on so that it illuminates and guides us..

Now, a light turns on only when it has enough energy. Ours is nourished by those inner strengths that we sometimes neglect: self-esteem, personal security, self-efficacy, emotional autonomy, a good self-concept… Shining with your own light also requires enjoying a good sense of humor, being grateful, being creative and not letting the gloom of fear haunt us. like those motley storm clouds that dare to cover the sun on spring days.

You don’t need others to give you their light. Don’t demand it, don’t turn off someone else’s, and even less steal it in exchange for love. We are all capable of shining first in the solitude of our own planets. Only in this way will we be worthy of creating more beautiful firmaments: places in which authentic love reigns that always begins with oneself, to then radiate in the most full and authentic way in that dedication towards the loved one.

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