Not showing your face: an irresponsible decision that causes deep disappointment

We have all come across those types of people who generate expectations. they make promises or commit to something and then refuse to show their face. You see it in couples, when one of them disappears and the other doesn’t know what to think. Also in business or work, when you give in and spend time reaching an agreement and then the other person does not respect it.

Not showing your face is the style of some people. They create a conflict and then they leave. Later, when responsibilities have to be shared, it is difficult to find them. This is the usual way that some criminals also act: they want to obtain the benefit, but they are not willing to pay the price associated with the risk they run.

This type of behavior They are very harmful to the person or people who are victims of them. They cause deep confusion. You can spend long periods of time trying to piece together the puzzle to figure out why someone acted the way they did. In the end it is possible that all that remains is a great distrust of others and an accumulation of recriminations towards oneself. Thus, it is in our power not to allow this to happen.

Not showing your face is shame and cynicism at the same time

He who does not dare to show his face is because he knows or senses that he has done something reprehensible. Furthermore, he is somehow aware that the means he has used are not justified by the end he intended. Thus, the reasons he had for acting in a negative way are not valid. They lack weight, logic, honesty or consideration for others. There is awareness regarding the negative of the act and its motivation.

The person acts against ethics or values, consciously. At the same time, an ambivalence appears: is unable to admit to others that his behavior is reprehensible. That he made a mistake. Yours is a shameful attitude.

However, at the same time, this attitude denotes a lack of modesty. Not showing your face is a way of resolving the matter by ignoring the other, removing from them a consideration that at least deserves. Giving him to understand that there is no interest in repairing the damage or that there is a certain contempt for him (“it’s not a big deal”). Let the affected person bear the consequences and accept that he cannot do anything. In that sense, not showing your face is also a form of cynicism. Act incorrectly knowingly and let the person affected resolve everything as they can.

The inability to take responsibility

Not showing your face is also, of course, an obvious sign of lack of responsibility.. Societies are built on collective agreements, implicit or explicit. Laws, religions and ideologies are some of the ways in which the importance of those pacts necessary to live together as a group is transmitted. We benefit from others and in return we must provide benefits to them. That is the basic agreement.

Responsibility refers to the ability to respond. It is learned from the first years of life. It implies awareness regarding the commitments and obligations we have towards others. Some manage to learn that Responsibility is a personal and autonomous choice. You don’t need someone watching you for you to comply with what was agreed.. It does not depend on the reward or punishment of others, but on one’s own conscience.

By not showing your face, what is precisely evaded is the obligation to answer for what was done. This attitude breaks commitments and, of course, also breaks trust. This is, evidently, a behavior that denotes a lack of autonomy. Those who prefer to hide remain prisoners of the reward-punishment scheme. They act like they did when they were children, hiding when they commit a mistake.

What to do with those who do not show their face

A person who does not show his face can cause a lot of harm to others. It can be very painful to be hurt and then not even offered an apology.. It is something that makes you feel enormous helplessness. Keeping the proportions, it is something like an emotional scam.

These types of attitudes are also a form of manipulation. By leaving the resolution of the situation in the hands of only one party, additional discomfort is introduced. That absence of those who do not want to show their face creates ties and maintains them. The conflict remains in limbo and in one way or another continues over time, with all the negative emotions that result.

When you are left with the responsibility of closing a situation that involved two or more, you have no choice but to take on the challenge.. It is advisable to quickly renounce the fantasy of “bringing the other back” so that they respond, so that they are present. That fantasy is part of the networks of manipulation. Let go of the one who doesn’t want to show his face. Solve what can be solved and turn the page. It is the wisest thing.

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