Those who judge others are driven by their own frustrations

People, regardless of their religion, social status or origin, long for justice to be applied in society.. Talking about justice involves addressing countless issues, but in this article we are going to focus on a level that has nothing to do with Canon Law, but with the psychological feeling of judging others and being judged in daily life.

We could say that certain people do not judge situations in a specific and isolated waybut rather they have assumed the role of judge for the small events of others’ existence without anyone asking them to.

This is obviously a mistake because Not even a judge should be beyond the bench assigned to perform their function. Why is society full of false judges? Why do they assume their value judgments are valid for themselves and for others? How did they get to that point?

How do false judges act?

It will be interesting to see some characteristics that these judges share without a gavel or a long white wig, but who, on occasion, They act as executors of the most harmful and toxic sentences with everyone around them. These are people who judge easily and quickly.

People who judge others They tend to hate a large part of their life and that is why they try, as far as possible, to intoxicate others. They are not satisfied with what they do and it is really difficult for anyone to be satisfied.

These are also people who They are not easy to detect because they are not cold people, nor in general do they have bad feelings. But they are tremendously frustrated and frustration leads to aggression, which manifests itself in very different ways.

And they are people who They are often tormented by the decisions they have made, perhaps imposed from outside without having desired that choice. They maintain a relationship of psychic conflict with these types of events in their life.

Judge others, how do they do it?

Those who judge often share patterns. Although there may surely be many more, we have collected the most common ones. Let’s discover them, because perhaps you identify with them and you haven’t realized it:

they want justify the trajectory of your life by discrediting the lives of others. Sometimes they allude to the famous statement: “I’m not so bad after all, look at X.” Undoubtedly, They talk about people and not ideas.They think about others, but not from a global perspective that can make you understand both the failures and successes committed by that person. They judge based on cognitive biases that anchor them in reductionism, simplicity and subjectivity.They usually have some values that they are not used to give calm to themselves and their surroundings; but to judge others continuously. They are very little self-critical with what they do. They do not like to feel judged in a task that involves demonstrating performance.They get irritated easily.

The successes of others are due to external, unstable and specific causes, and theirs to internal, stable and non-specific causes to the situation. That is to say, their success is justified, that of others is normally the result of chance. They believe that the fact that those around them are busy with judgments against others will postpone the opinions that they themselves have of their own performance.They do not usually express opinions in the presence of many people. They do not find it interesting as a practice, since it can expose them. Their criticisms reflect, in most cases, the longing to experience what life has denied them or they have not been able to achieve.They don’t worry about improving. They consider that the best way to stand out is by dulling the shine of other people. Their judgments can range from mild and private; to public and dangerous.

How to confront those who judge

You should ignore these people and never give them the power to damage your personal or professional reputation in front of a large number of friends, family or any other audience. In the face of these people, only ignorance can be used as a weapon, although we must be alert and prepared so that they do not exceed the limits of our privacy to a level that is more than condemnable.

In the event that you have realized that you are the one who judges without realizing it, we encourage you to solve the frustration that is leading you to act that way. This will improve your life without a doubt! And, above all, that of others.

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