The tragedy of meeting the right person at the wrong time

Breakups are always difficult because we have to cry for someone we loved and lost.

But time heals everything, and eventually you will meet someone else. Eventually, this former love will just be a distant memory.

But there is a type of breakup that is not like all the others. It’s a breakup that happened to a person that, no matter how hard you try, you can’t forget.

There isn’t a day that doesn’t go by without that person crossing your mind and making your heart feel heavier.

It usually happens because the relationship is unfinished. But you can’t tell yourself that, and you certainly can’t believe it because it would drive you crazy.

So you tell yourself that you are fine and that you can move on. It even comes very close to deceiving yourself.

That is, until you hear that song, see that picture, feel like sharing something, or just wake up thinking about him or her.

So you’re back to square one.

There are so many people who come in and out of your life. Some you fall in love with for a while but it never comes to anything, and others you even try to like but nothing comes of it.

There are also those people who destroy you, and it takes months or years to forget.

But this feeling is different; this is the feeling you get when you know something has to end right now but it’s not quite finished yet.

You can’t just say, “I wish you the best,” and move on. You can’t finish this chapter of your life because you know you can’t give up yet. Not now, and maybe never.

And then you’re sent to what I like to call “love purgatory.” It’s a place where you know the love of your life is, but the two of you are not currently together.

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Maybe they dated for a short time, maybe they had a complete relationship, or maybe they weren’t even officially together.

The connection with this person is so real and strong and magnetic that you are constantly pulled towards them. The relationship hasn’t reached its potential yet, so it can’t end.

In fact, this could be the person you will be with one day. But they’re not together now because of time, schedule, missed opportunities or blablabla.

So you’re sitting in love’s purgatory spending your time until you both can meet again. You don’t just sit around listening to sad music and waiting.

You encounter distractions and move away from what you really feel in order to continue to be a functioning human in life.

He meets other fantastic, beautiful people that he would like things to work out with, but it never does. He or she is simply not _____________ (fill in your person’s name).

“She’s not Rachel,” is the famous line from the series “Friends”. And that’s what the person who keeps you in love’s purgatory makes you feel; no one compares to her.

Because when you know, you know. This connection happens once, maybe twice, in a lifetime.

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Your friends think you’re crazy or crazy, and you start to believe that crazy thing. Why, in a world with billions of other people, are you letting one keep you from moving forward? Even you can’t answer that question.

“The heart has reasons that reason does not know.” – Blaise Pascal

Some people meet someone, date, fall in love and live happily ever after.

Many others are not so lucky. Some have to fight, break up, come back and go through hell with the other person until finally it all works out.

Perhaps the problem is, again, time. Maybe you have to learn and grow more before it can work. Whatever the problem, you know that eventually the two of you will meet again.

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Because like Ross and Rachel, Bonnie and Clyde and all the great love stories in movies and television, there’s always someone you can’t forget and never will.

But until you find your way back, you sit miserably in love’s purgatory hoping to find someone or something that will keep you busy long enough not to self-destruct.

People are very complicated and love is sometimes complicated.

If it’s not that way for you, it doesn’t mean you’re loving the wrong way. It simply means that your path was easier.

For those currently in love’s purgatory, one day you will be with that person, too.