There is no lack of time, there is priority

How many times have we read (and agreed with) the phrase: “there is no lack of time, there is priority”. You think immediately of that person who has been at fault with you, or suddenly the one with whom you have been at fault. You feel guilty or diminished when this sentence makes you conclude that there is a choice and you are not part of it.

Do you know what could be? Work, college, a conversation on the street, a stomachache, a headache, a toothache, a “I’ll answer you soon” or “I’ll call you soon” that doesn’t happen because it falls into oblivion mean that all this was more important than you at that moment.

No, it doesn’t mean you are unimportant. But amazingly, you’re not the most important person in the world. Oh! Live with it! And occupy your mind! Go to work, read a book, listen to (lively) music, walk, cook and forget about waiting.

Understand that people have a life of their own and that you are not ahead of everything. Not even you act like that. Or do you stop eating, sleeping, serving a customer or getting lost in a chat with an old friend because someone is waiting for your attention?

Well, if you answered yes to any of the last questions, go get your self-esteem done. You are confusing dependency with attention and you are making your relationships sick. I read around that we should hug the parents before they leave, that if the other visualized and didn’t respond you have to wake up, blah, blah, blah.

This all seems to me like a cowardly appeal to our conscience to make it feel guilty. Blame it if you were in a meeting and couldn’t answer your mom’s call, guilt if you liked seeing someone texted you and read it as fast as you could, but didn’t respond right away and then routine ran over you.

Well. It is indeed a matter of priority AT THAT MOMENT. And if you weren’t the choice of the time, there’s no harm in that.

You don’t do anything so different from that. And even if you do, each one is each one. For each priority issue, I encourage you to analyze the other with respect and empathy. And if you repeatedly follow in the background, strip empathy and create shame. Prioritize yourself.

After all, everything is a matter of priority. As long as you are first in your own life, you will not project that position into anyone else’s life.

Luciana Marques

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