The meaning of erotic dreams |

Sexual intercourse can have infinite representations, even negative ones, depending on the dreamer. It all depends on each one’s relationship with their own sexuality, sensuality, body, sex, fantasies and relationships. For some, sexuality can be extremely problematic, painful and associated with a negative feeling. For others, sexuality can mean energy, vitality, pleasure, lust and ecstasy.

The Myth of Eros and Psyche

Eros is the personification of love, he was linked to lust, the desire of the senses, ardent love and delight. He was a perverse god, who with his arrows played with the hearts of humans, making them fall in love. Sent by his mother Aphrodite to stop Psyche’s fame – since she, a mortal of incredible beauty, was attracting her devotees – he wounded himself in one of his arrows, falling in love with that beauty himself.

He married Psyche on the condition that she would never see his face. She lived in a magnificent temple with all the best. Eros only visited her at night and this made Psyche feel very lonely. Under the evil influence of the envious sisters, Psyche sneakily decides to see the bridegroom’s face and drops a drop of oil on his shoulder. Awakened by the pain, he notices his wife’s intentions and runs away to never see her again, as he had promised.

Heartbroken and hopeless, Psyche looks for Aphrodite to help her get her beloved husband back. Aphrodite suggests arduous and impossible tasks in an attempt to intimidate her decision, but Psyche now has nothing to lose. When falling asleep, the tasks are carried out by beings of nature and she also has the help of her husband in the last of the tasks. Penalized by all Psyche’s sacrifice, Eros decides to ask Zeus to intercede for his beloved.

Zeus, as he owes Eros a debt, makes Psyche a goddess and decrees the eternal union of the two lovers, who thus become complete. Psyche is also the personification of the soul, meaning “breath” or “vital principle”.

We perceive through the myth that Eros only finds happiness beside Psyche, that is, true feeling can only exist when love and soul are present, when the union of the body of pleasure with the vital mind takes place. Eros, before Psyche, was a playful, childish, promiscuous and sometimes perverse god. Psyche, apparently fragile when still mortal, was worshiped as a goddess. She faces all stages to deserve to rise to Olympus with her beloved. She truly loves, she is committed by the soul. This myth speaks of the marriage of body and soul, desire and commitment.

Interpreting erotic dreams

In this article I explained that the dream is a symbolic way to relate to aspects of ourselves. The act of dreaming is also a way to compensate, balance the psyche and fulfill unconscious desires. If we take these three dream functions, we can apply them to erotic dreams.

A psyche that dreams an erotic dream is a psyche that is more vitalized, energized, full of intensity and desire (which is not necessarily sexual, but symbolizes how desire manifests itself in one’s life). One of the aspects that can be understood in the context of an erotic dream is that of “having sex” with one’s own life. That is, it indicates that the person is engaged in his own process of knowledge and pleasure with himself.

One of the aspects that can be understood in the context of an erotic dream is that of “having sex” with one’s own life. That is, it indicates that the person is engaged in his own process of knowledge and pleasure with himself.

Another possibility is that the erotic dream is the demand for attention and energy directed to the psychic aspects represented in each dream.

For this understanding to become more concrete, it is essential to place oneself in an entire life story, as well as to raise the associations made by the dreamer of what is erotic, what type of contact is this, what is the scenario in which this occurs , what are the feelings that permeate the dream, in short, a set of factors that complete the understanding of the symbolic brought from the unconscious of this dreamer.

Examples of erotic dreams

For example, a woman dreams of having sex with a familiar male figure, in her own home, and with a deep feeling of pleasure.. It is possible to say that she is looking for or is already relating in a closer and more intense way with her Animus (the male part that inhabits the female psyche, in the same way that every man will be inhabited by an Anima). There is an intimate contact with this aspect. This contact is fertile, productive, promotes balance between the feminine and the animus that make up this woman. She will likely experience moments of receptivity and affection, in harmony with moments of expression of ideas and strong positions in life.

Another example: a heterosexual woman dreams that she has sex with a very close friend, and the feeling of the dream is one of pleasure and affection.. Does this indicate that this woman is homosexual? Not necessarily. Remember that we must consider the context of the dreamer. Such a dream can mean the symbolic manifestation that this woman is well connected and relating to her own feminine, her sensuality and her body. She can be a friend who stimulates creativity (not necessarily sexual), who is more connected with her own instinct and this contact is beneficial for this dreamer’s psyche.

One more situation to illustrate: a homosexual man dreams of having sex with a woman in an unknown, unpleasant place and his feeling is of disgust. First, the dream is not putting your sexual condition in check. This may simply reveal impaired and very unconscious contact with your anima (the feminine in your psyche). Life, creativity, affection and sensitivity are paralyzed or appear in a restrained and uncomfortable way. This man, regardless of being interested in other men, is talking about his own psyche, he is talking about his own incompleteness.

It is important to understand that both men and women have their psychic counterparts and here it is worth noting that this fact is independent of sexual identity.

In the compensatory function of the dream, the dreamer may be wanting to relate more, both sexually and internally, to aspects of himself. This can occur at a time when the dreamer is devitalized, needing more commitment to his own will, lust and desire, the unconscious comes to nourish this psyche, eliminating part of the tension that this subject generates, even if temporarily.

Erotic dreams also symbolize lust for life

In any case, erotic dreams usually show a vivified psyche that is in touch with both the feminine and the masculine, both emotions and reason. Having sex in a dream shows the full potential of employing libido (as vital energy) in one’s own life, even outside a relationship or sexual context. It may be related to a good professional project or a trip that is generating some anxiety and tension.

We don’t have horny, desire and pleasure only with sex. If that happens, there is something wrong. Our horny, will and energy can be directed to various sectors of our lives. Those who are horny are alive. Who seeks completeness is alive. Having sex with life is finding pleasure in psychic integration.

Eros is not complete until he marries Psyche. It is not possible to develop consciousness without uniting the will of the body with the will of the soul. To do this, sometimes it is necessary to overcome one’s distrust and fear of being fully present in life, whatever direction one chooses to take it.

eroticism and pornography

Eroticism is today widely confused with pornography, but they are very different from each other. In pornography there is no sensuality. There is the sexual act in its most mechanical and trivialized form. Everything is very obvious and without enchantment. Pornography is the exploitation, including commercial, of several more explicit aspects of sex. It is the sexual act without any discretion or limit, if we think of bizarre pornography that has nothing erotic about it. In general, pornography is more inaccessible and caters to a certain audience, generally male.

We can watch an erotic scene in a movie or soap opera, where sex is implied, nudity can appear, but the message is always more important than the act itself. It is contextualized, there is sensuality. The erotic is indeed linked to sex, to the body, but we cannot forget that it is linked to love and desire as well. In eroticism there is a certain charm, there is no obviousness and nothing is so explicit. In general, it is connected to the artistic and not to the concrete. Eroticism can be contained in a scene, a poem, a photo, a sculpture and, despite the exposure of the body, there is a message that goes beyond. There is delight, something implied and often even caricatured. For the most part, the female audience prefers the erotic to the pornographic, without generalizations