the man in love

If you know a man in love, truly in love, you know the best in this world.

It is easy and common these days to find a woman in love. Women seem to have been made for passion (at least that’s what we’ve been told since we were born). But men, those were made for the bloody battles of everyday life, for financial difficulties, for the struggle for survival, for the silence of feelings (that’s how our society thinks).

Men were so burdened with the responsibilities and stigmas of carrying the world on their backs, that they didn’t even realize their own need for love and passion. They pretend so well not to care, they reduce love to conquests, to disputes, to practical goals to be achieved that, as soon as they reach that goal, the object doesn’t exercise the same fascination.

But what about when Cupid decides to shoot an arrow of love into the male heart? How does that heart, so little used to suffering for love, react to keeping someone in its thoughts 24 hours a day? Guys, it’s beautiful! It’s as beautiful as seeing a child take its first steps, or seeing a bird take its first flight, or like lovers having their first kiss. He (the man) is taken by surprise and reacts in surprising ways.

He becomes vulnerable, emotional, starts to pay attention to song lyrics, flowers, poems, shop windows, squares, children. He suddenly becomes fond of shops, recipes, fashion and perfumery. He becomes a true expert in creams and scents, in books. He becomes an expert in exotic subjects. He wakes up and sleeps humming.

This is all because the beloved has her world and is her world. The mirror begins to exert attraction. He usually changes the haircut, beard and mustache (take it off, if you have it, let it grow, if you don’t). He becomes vain, sensitive and a little idiot. An adorable little bastard. But… he hides!

Ah, it seems to be a sin to fall in love! It must be a terrible faux pas to show feelings. Apparently it is reprehensible to be simply human. You know that “female side” thing? bullshit. There is no such distinction. We all have everything within us. Power, beauty, good, evil, masculine and feminine.

But this passionate man becomes demanding, having needs and vicissitudes. And if you know how to keep that flame lit, know how to deal with this bewitched man, you will be a blessed woman, because he is capable of anything to see you happy. Ah, this man will spare no effort.

There will be no obstacles capable of stopping you in the endeavor that is to build your happiness. He will wake up with the strength of a Hercules, the disposition of an athlete, the perseverance of a monk, and the frailty of a child.

Welcome him. Feel it. Pamper him. love him. Let him feel your love flow. Feed it with affection, with pleasures, with praise. Show him the correspondence of feelings, but don’t hold him. Leave him free to choose you, choose to be with you, prefer you over anything else. But by his will.

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I believe that the mistake of many women is to want to arrest their man, to control his steps, to surround him not with affection, but with distrust. The man in love is his wife’s. He’s in love, enchanted, has a new world and often doesn’t know how to deal with it. He is also insecure, jealous, wants to please, wants to shower her with affection, but wants to maintain her usual freedom.

And in the name of this new love, of this feeling that weakens him so much, perhaps he suffocates this freedom that he always had and that he was always taught that way. But this, over time, will certainly make you limited and tired, leading to a strain on the relationship.

So what to do? There are no magic formulas. There are no recipes for the perfect cake. There is indeed a need for understanding, for space, for mutual respect. We have to deal with freedom as we deal with the delicacy of passion. Limits have to be set. The other is the other, you are you. You cannot love another if you don’t love yourself. The other should not be our mirror or our ideal or goal. Nothing to cancel out for love. This is the difference between a woman in love and a man in love.

He doesn’t love less, he doesn’t feel less, he doesn’t suffer less for love. He just always had his individuality. Society has allowed this since the beginning of time, while we women are gradually gaining ground in equal rights, including the right to love each other, the right to their individual space in the relationship between two.

So, when you come face to face with a man in love, when you fall in love with him, don’t give up your space, your individuality, because only then will you be able to understand his posture and you will enjoy everything that passion and reciprocated love can do. provide healthily to both.

Enjoy your man, spoil him by loving him so much, and be happy!…

Lilian Maial

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