The changes that happen when we become grandparents

Turns and moves, they ask me about what changed in my life after I became a grandmother… Do you know what I answer? I gained new people to love! Grandchildren come into the world and are a sign that things have worked out for our children. It’s too satisfying to see that the family has grown! Otherwise, little has changed in my routine. Being a grandmother is not what it used to be… I’m not saying that it’s bad to be that lady with white hair, sitting in the rocking chair, who spends the day knitting waiting for her grandchildren, but the reality is different. We, today’s grandparents, work, get ready, go out to dinner and dance, date… And that must be it: grandson is not a son, it is the responsibility of our children🇧🇷 It is obvious that thousands of grandmothers act as mothers out of necessity, but it is not fair to place expectations of happiness on the fact of becoming a grandmother. We deserve to have multiple sources of satisfaction and joy.

But I’m not judging anyone, no… It’s just that each family creates a different relationship. There is no rule to be followed. I myself have not seen my grandchildren grow day by day, because they have always lived in the United States. I’ve learned to love them from a distance and enjoy them a lot when we’re together. The best part is that we meet on vacation when everyone is relaxed. Then I do everything you can imagine with them. Fun is guaranteed!

I try to pass on values, such as respect, not with advice, but through my life example

But with me, there’s no such thing as grandparents only serving to spoil the grandchildren. I’m a disciplinarian and call them to their attention when I see something wrong. Now, the role of educating belongs to the parents! I try to pass on values ​​– such as good character, discipline and respect – not with advice, but through my life example, showing that an honest person earns a living by working, that sometimes we have to give up things we like to conquer others, that We need to value what we already have.

I am still concerned with opening the eyes of the new generations to the danger of exaggerated consumerism, of this fad for brands, which add nothing and leave young people increasingly distant from reality. We need to be aware of waste, lack of care for nature, for others and for life. It is our role, as experts, to rescue and keep alive the notion of generosity. Because we learn from the new generations, but we still have much more to teach. You bet!

PS: Don’t be sad if your grandchildren don’t show up as often as you’d like. The affectionate look they give you when they’re together is what matters. Enjoy these moments!

A very big kiss,