Tantric lotus meditation to do as a couple or alone

He tantra is a technique that allows us to center ourselves bodily. Whenever we notice that we are caught up in a lot of mental activity and disconnected from the here and now, we can use it as a resource to bring our attention to the senses and what we experience through them. Our sensory experience is always situated in the present moment.

The experience of the senses is, along with breathing, one of our anchors to the present moment.

Normally, while we focus our attention on the senses, our mind keeps wanting to be present in some way. Often their way of intervening is by analyzing our experience, judging it or labeling it. All these are common functionings of the mind and the role of meditation is to go beyond them, go through that mental layer and connect with what we are beyond it.

We can do a guided meditation (like the lotus that we offer in this space) becoming aware of those mental dynamics and letting them go without getting hooked on them, as we focus our full attention on what we are experiencing.

Connect through presence

When we go through the mental layer, with the help of the tantric Meditation, it is when we connect with the quality of presence that is necessary for a deep and authentic connection with ourselves and with the experience of the present moment. It is from that place from where a deep and authentic connection has the opportunity to also be established with another person who shares that state of presence.

In this connection, it is no longer us at the level of our ego or personality who are connecting, but our Being, which is essentially the same as in the other person. It is from this point that we experience ourselves as a unit and from where the connection between two people can become an extraordinary spiritual experience.

How to do this tantric lotus meditation

You can do this meditation as a couple or alone if you prefer.

If you are in a couple, sit comfortably in front of the other person. Otherwise, you can sit in front of a mirror. Close your eyes and start to become aware of your body in the present moment. Now you can visualize a lotus flower with five petals on your chest. Each one of them is a dimension of your heart and each one of them corresponds to one of your senses. Open your eyes and look at the eyes of that other person or at your own eyes in the mirror. rest your eyes on them and open your heart to them. Without analyzing what you see or naming it. Close your eyes and imagine how one of the petals of the lotus flower on your chest opens. Now you can focus your attention on the sounds. Listen to the sounds around you without analyzing or defining them, resting your attention on the sound experience. Imagine how another of the petals of your lotus flower opens.Focus your attention on the sense of smell. Become aware of the smell of the place where you are or are. You can smell your skin, and you can also smell your partner. Focus on the experience of the smell itself, without labels. Little by little visualize how the third petal of your lotus flower opens. You can now focus your attention on the sense of taste. Can move your tongue in your mouth To make yourself aware of the flavor present in it, you can taste the taste of your skin, and you can also taste the skin of your partner. Focus all your attention on the experience of taste, without analyzing it.

Visualize another of your lotus flower petals opening.

Focus your attention on touch. Be aware of the temperature and texture of clothing on your skin. You can caress yourself and you can also touch your partner, becoming very aware of tactile sensations. Visualize as the last of the flower petals lotus in your chest opens. Feel the effect on your body of having your heart open in all its dimensions. If you are in a relationship, you can sit on his lap in such a way that your breasts touch and your hearts are in contact. Just rest here as long as you want.