“My ex does things that he didn’t do before” Does he want to come back or be your friend?

“Getting the hint” is easier said than done.

I’ve been through a situation or two where my ex started doing things I’ve never done before and it made me wonder, does he want me back or does he want to be friends?

The reasons are sometimes unclear and the trust, well, for a reason it became an ex.

If you are going through a similar situation, I will just tell you that it all depends on your relationship.

Here we’ll explore what it means to set limits and when you should show him a stop sign.

Why would your ex want to be friends anyway?

Sometimes it’s about keeping the peace; sometimes it’s about finding a familiar place to hide.

The first thing you should do is try to put all those strange signs and attitudes into context.

Was your breakup complicated and hostile?

In that case, your ex probably needs to make amends. Sometimes it’s just to feel better about the situation.

Clearing your conscience can be a great motivator. But the truth is that seeing your ex do things that he did not do before, can generate more confusion and anger.

You know why the break up happened, and therefore you can decide when you feel it is healthy to make up.

Did you share a circle of friends?

At the end of a relationship there is that awkward moment of “friends claim”.

Sometimes it’s very clear which group each belongs to, but at others the friendships have become so involved that it’s hard to just walk away, for either one.

So sometimes exes act weird and try to clear things up so there won’t be a problem if they cross paths in public. Or because they want to be able to continue attending events without feeling uncomfortable.

Just because they interbreed doesn’t mean they can’t be civilized. However, trying to manipulate you to make him feel good, or treating you like lifelong friends so as not to interfere with his friends’ next dinner party, may not be the healthiest thing for you.

Were you friends first?

When a breakup occurs, it doesn’t mean that it just stops feeling.

Many relationships start out as strong friendships, and your ex may want to get that connection back.

And when it’s friendly, a relationship can return to friendship without having to jump into bed or have long-term expectations.

Why might it be better if you’re not friends with your ex?

The first thing you should ask yourself is:

Do you see him as a friend or is there a part of you that longs for something more?

You have the right to choose what happens with your relationship one way or another.

Don’t feel pressured to be friendly when you don’t feel comfortable doing so.

If you don’t feel it, let him know.

You moved on and don’t want the obstacle of a friendship with your ex?

If you get nervous every time a text from him appears, it’s time to explain that you’ve moved on with your life.

Put your feelings first. It’s not about him and his comfort, or not hurting his feelings. It’s time to prioritize yourself.

Your ex regrets the breakup, but you don’t?

We all say things we don’t mean in the heat of an argument.

However, sometimes you can’t take it back.

Words hurt, and many men regret it when they hurt someone they love. But no amount of pleading can make them just evaporate.

Even if you’re ready to forgive him, you probably won’t be able to forget enough to establish a healthy friendship.

Especially when you think it could turn into something more.

He wasn’t ready to commit, but you were?

Taking the next step in a romantic relationship is sometimes not easy, and other times, both parties are not ready to move on.

When you’re ready for one commitment but the other isn’t, it may be time to move on.

However, later down the road, he might decide that he’s sorry about the breakup and maybe he’s grown up.

Don’t be too quick to jump in headfirst again, even if you want him back too.

You don’t want to get involved in a situation that will play out the same way again.

And until something better comes along…

In general, as social beings, we don’t always enjoy being alone. And there are also those who cannot stand it at all.

But looking for a replacement so you won’t be alone will only lead to hurt feelings and misunderstandings.

After a breakup, it’s hard trying to spend quality time alone. Many spaces are generated where the couple used to be.

The temptation to keep in touch with an ex is about personal comfort and not always what is best for you or for him.

Once you decide to separate, you are no longer supposed to be there to provide emotional support. Let alone a replacement until I find someone better.

Friendships should be a give-and-take relationship, not a one-sided support system.

Feeling like option B can do a lot of long-term damage to your self-esteem and damage any future romantic relationships.

no strings attached

First, there is nothing wrong with a no-strings-attached deal and it can benefit all parties involved. But it requires both parties to communicate very well and come to a mutual understanding.

That being said, though, if you or your ex thinks that bedroom flings will one day turn into a solid relationship again, it’s probably not a good idea.

No strings attached usually means no future.

If you don’t want to be a convenient source of sex, don’t be.

A roll in the hay isn’t worth the regret or feeling empty in the morning.

And to gain perspective you can think: What would happen if your ex appeared tomorrow with a new partner? how would you feel?

No-strings-attached sex means there are fewer emotions involved. Breaking the rules of engagement is only okay if everyone involved agrees 100%.

The best of both worlds

Adult relationships are complex, and sometimes not everyone is ready to deal with them.

It is part of human nature to seek emotional support in those familiar places, where we feel comfortable.

However, obsessing over an ex is not healthy and can cause problems in your day to day.

A friendship with an ex can be great, but it is toxic for both parties if it is done only to control the other.

Asking someone where they are, or even what they are doing, keeps a door open that really should stay closed.

Sometimes it’s not just about sex

Relationships are as much about emotional connections as they are about physical ones.

When you are in a relationship you develop habits with each other, and the two lives are intertwined to the point that it is sometimes difficult to imagine yourself on your own.

We form bonds with people, and romantic relationships are one of the strongest.

You or your ex may find that it may be easier to let go than to try to maintain a friendship where sex is not allowed.

If staying in touch causes you or him pain, moving on is the best course of action.

you deserve more than the minimum

Sometimes an ex decides they want to stay friends with you in order to maintain peace or comfort when they are in the same social circles.

However, there are people who exceed the limits. An ex might urge you to start dating again or ask for your advice on currently pursuing him.

You may want to keep some connection without any commitment on your part.

It is this type of situation where limits are imperative.

Inadvertently hurting someone is not what a friendship is about, regardless of how your romantic relationship may have been.

But should I still be friends with my ex?

You have reviewed the possible reasons and examined the totality of your relationship.

And, you’re left wondering, but do I really want to be friends with him?

The answer is: it totally depends on you and how you feel.

Don’t feel pressured just because he wants to be friends with you in some way.

On the other hand, you might want to stay friends with her if you think there might be a chance to rekindle the flame. Maybe you feel breaking up was a mistake and want to give your relationship another try.

But maybe he just wants to be your friend right now.

In this situation, there is only one thing to do: reawaken his romantic interest in you.

So, if you want to get back together with your ex, the most important thing is that they don’t repeat the same mistakes and repeat the same routine. That can only end as it began. Evil.

You have to make both of you forget all the bad things in the relationship and leave it behind. May he long for the good things they shared.

There is a new method created by Samantha Sanders where she teaches you to enter your ex’s subconscious to make him accept his mistakes.

This is a really interesting method. Once you apply it, you will make him come back to you thinking that he can’t let you go anymore.

If you want to attract him back and ignite the spark that used to be between you, watch this video to learn the secrets and techniques that will make him come back.

What you will achieve will not be repeating the same relationship they had, but creating a new, much stronger and deeper bond.

Here is the link to the video once again.

Is it healthy to be friends with an ex?

Well, yes, you have the right to choose your friends.

And don’t let other people in your life make that decision for you, because they will try.

There’s nothing wrong with being Facebook friends or liking an Instagram photo of your kids.

Plus, you probably won’t drop everything to run off and hook up with him or try to rekindle an old flame.

Regardless, choosing to stay friends with an ex requires some care and a lot of thought.

Again, an ex is an ex for a reason.

Ask yourself, what is the advantage of staying friends with my ex-partner?

If you can’t name more than two reasons, don’t bother. The friendship will fail and it will only hurt you or him again.

How do I know if my ex just wants to be friends?

There is no clear answer to that question. Especially since every relationship is unique.

However, there are some clues and even red flags that can guide you through a breakup and beyond.

Remember, every human being is unique, which means so are our relationships.

One of the first significant signs is when an ex approaches you for romantic advice or to discuss their upcoming dates with other people.

First, this is not a topic you want to talk about with an ex, and if he doesn’t have the sensitivity to realize there is already something wrong from the beginning. And what is clear here is that he no longer has any intention of being romantic with you. Otherwise I would never mention the fact of wanting to be with someone else.

At the same time, if he doesn’t get jealous that you’re dating other guys, it’s a sign that he’s ready to just be friends with you. It’s clear he’s not looking for you two to get back together.

How do I know when an ex wants to be more than friends?

Sometimes it’s easier to tell when an ex wants to be more than friends than not.

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