14 possible reasons why he likes me, but doesn’t want anything with me

Warning: there may be a lot of things in this article that you don’t want to hear, but you most likely need to know them to act on your own behalf.

I know, there is no better feeling in the world than meeting a guy you really connect with.

It makes you smile. You laugh non-stop. She makes you feel amazing. Plus, he’s funny, engaging, and the conversation flows beautifully.

He is everything you ever imagined in a relationship. But…

He doesn’t want a serious relationship with you.

Is there anything worse than that?

It’s that we go, it doesn’t make sense. From your point of view, everything seems perfect.

So, you ask yourself: why doesn’t he love me?

First there is something you must do before you plunge down the path of analyzing everything about yourself and thinking about what you are failing.

Before asking if you’re good enough (spolier alert: you are!).

Check out these 14 reasons why he might not love you the way you want.

He loves me, but he doesn’t want a relationship with me

1) He doesn’t love anyone

It’s not that he doesn’t love you, it’s that he doesn’t love anyone. Final point.

He may just not be the type to commit to someone.

While knowing that hurts, at least you can be thankful that in the beginning of your “relationship”, you already have this clear about him.

At least you can make a clean break before you get too involved.

There may be a reason why you don’t like anyone. And it probably has nothing to do with you.

You could be in a difficult time in your life. Perhaps you just got out of a long-term relationship. It may not have finished processing everything yet.

Or maybe you have other things in your life that are taking up your time and attention.

It’s up to you to wait to try. The important thing is that, if you embark on it, you set yourself a reasonable time limit. The truth is, there’s a chance he’ll never be ready. It is important to keep that in mind.

Just remember that you are looking for a partner, not a breakup project.

It is not your job to help him heal or resolve the concerns he has in his life.

No matter how much you like it, you have to take care of yourself first.

If he’s not looking for a relationship with anyone, because of his own problems, it’s probably best to move on.

2) You have spent too much time without a partner

Yeah, they get along great when they hang out together.

But when the date ends, each one goes home.

There are men who have not had a formal relationship for a long time and have gotten used to being alone. They love their independence.

This has created its own tricks and they already feel big enough to change. You don’t feel like having to stop doing things for someone else.

So when they meet a woman they hit it off with, they love dating her. But from the door of her house to the outside.

If you insinuate whether their relationship has the possibility of advancing, they answer no upfront.

It may also be that they shy away from the subject. It may even suddenly disappear.

He is no longer willing to give up his individuality to be in a relationship.

3) He wants a casual relationship

You think you’ve found the love of your life and you’re ready to see where the relationship takes you.

You know he likes you, but not enough for a more serious commitment. She just wants to keep a casual relationship.

Phew! That hurts.

He can keep you around to enjoy sex, but he avoids all the “drama” that can come from dating.

And how do you know that this is what is happening to him?

Here are some red flags to look out for:

Sometimes he acts like you’re his girlfriend, but other times you don’t hear from him for days. She’s nice, but she doesn’t try very hard to impress you. He never asks you to meet his friends or family. Avoid the subject of relationships, like the plague.

Don’t give them a resounding ultimatum, that will only scare them.

Back off a bit and start opening up to other people. Or at least have fun with other men, when he’s around. If he really likes you, a little bit of jealousy will be enough to get him over any fear of a relationship.

Now, there are also many things you can do to win over that man who says he doesn’t want anything serious. At the end of the day we know that if he really connects with someone that will change.

So it’s a matter of knowing what fibers to touch when you interact with him.

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4) They are not right for each other

You like him, you get along well together, you see a future…

But he not.

It’s as simple as that.

It may seem personal, but at the end of the day, if you’re not compatible, you’re just wasting your time.

There are many reasons why this may be happening, here are a few:

One of you is too nervous and the other is too relaxed. You’re messy and he’s a neat freak or vice versa. They don’t have the same sense of humor. They have different ideas about money: how to spend it and how to save it. Appearance is important to one of you, but it doesn’t really matter to the other. One of you feels much more insecure than the other.

While you may think these are all things you can work on, sometimes it’s best to walk away.

You can try, but again, do it for a reasonable amount of time. Otherwise, you could be wasting your valuable time.

I know, I know, they often say that opposites attract. This may be true! But opposites can also irritate each other and cause tension in a relationship.

The truth is that certain personalities just don’t mesh well. And it is better to realize it as soon as possible.

5) Their values ​​are different

Everything about this guy is perfect, but they want very different things in life.

You want to settle down and have three children. He wants to travel the world and possibly never have children of his own.

You think you can work this out and get him to convert to your values. But is it really fair to him?

He understands that it isn’t, and realizes that tying you down isn’t fair to either of you, either.

Be grateful that he has the prudence to stop him, before you start to get excited.

When the values ​​are so different, no compromise will work.

At the end of the day, one of the two will be giving up what they really want from life.

And this will cause you to not be truly happy.

6) You have been hurt in the past

It may be that this boy has been disappointed too many times in his life so far. Or just once, that he may have marked it.

He really likes you, but he’s not willing to risk it again.

The pain it carries with it is too great.

He just can’t trust another woman again. At least not yet.

You may be screaming on the inside now, wanting to show him that you are different.

You will not hurt him, like other women did.

But you can’t change his past, or convince him to get over his trust issues.

That’s something he has to work on himself.

7) He is still in love with his ex

I know it’s not what you want to hear. But it’s a pretty common reason why a man isn’t ready to move on from another relationship. I have lived it too.

He still has a slight hope for his ex and that automatically leaves you with no chance.

He could have dated her for a long time and be struggling to get over her. Or it could have been her who ended the relationship, when he still loved her.

Perhaps hooking up with you could have been the spark that reminded him how much he loved his ex. The cause that made him regress.

Evidence of this will be that:

He still has photos with his ex-girlfriend on social media. He has some of his former partner’s belongings and hasn’t returned them yet. He constantly checks her ex’s accounts to see how she’s doing. He keeps photos of her at her house.

This is a relationship you don’t want to get involved in. No one wants to be the other woman.

He already faced the truth and realized his feelings. Then all you can do is back off and give him the space he needs to sort out his affairs.

You can’t change the way someone feels about another person, no matter how hard you try.

If he manages to get over her one day in the future, he might knock on your door. Let’s see if you’re still available.

8) You are not his only woman

Welcome to the world of digital dating, where it is very easy to have a couple of relationships at the same time.

A few days ago a friend showed me how he liked all the girls on Tinder without even looking at the profiles. So be careful.

Thanks to social networks and multiple dating applications, your guy could have met you, while he was already chatting with other women.

Time passed and he got to know them all, discovering which ones were of his true interest. And as much as it hurts, you’re not his favorite.

You can be thankful that he is not interested in having a relationship with you, while still seeing other women.

Cut to the chase and walk away, knowing that you’re actually better off without him.

9) He only keeps what they have for sex

You are already having sex with your guy and he refuses to commit to a relationship with you. There is a good reason for it.

You are enjoying the physical part of the relationship, without having to take on the emotional side as well.

Let’s be realistic. There is nothing wrong with being intimate early in a relationship.

However, this can morph into an informal relationship, rather than an intimate one.

In his mind, he’s having fun and that’s okay. He doesn’t want anything else.

It is up to you to determine what you want from this relationship and whether or not you are going to stay.

Do you want clarity?

So, to see if he might be interested in a future relationship, stop having sex. See how he reacts.

In this way you will force him to find out if he has feelings for you, beyond their sexual relationship.

If he realizes that you really care, he will find a way to continue being with you.

10) He does not like to be alone

Although he is not looking for a relationship with you, he enjoys your company and wants to keep you close.

But how do you really realize that what he is interested in is a little company and not a romantic commitment.

There are some signs to find out:

Appears at your doorstep unannounced. It is likely that he got bored and sought you out for entertainment. He always asks if you’re free and wants to hang out, but he doesn’t show much interest in you when you’re together. He never introduces you to his friends. Always…