Mom-of-two writes honest letter to husband, gets support from many women

According to statistics, 90% of mothers constantly feel guilt. Most of the time, this is because they feel that they are not carrying out their responsibilities effectively. And the saddest thing about it is that they are afraid to talk about it. But that’s not the case for mom of two and blogger Celeste Yvonne. She poured out her heart by writing a letter to her husband asking for help. In a detailed and public way, Celeste spoke about what many women prefer to hide even from their closest relatives.

Next, the incredible.club brings the text of the letter and suggests that you, the reader, reflect on the needs of women and families today. What are the most relevant things for them?

“Dear husband!

Need. Too much. Help.

Last night was difficult for you. I asked you to look after our son so I could go to bed earlier. The baby was crying. Or more specifically, he screamed. I heard everything from up there and, shuddering at that sound, I wondered if I should go down and help you or just close the door and sleep. I chose the last one.

After 20 minutes, you entered our room carrying the baby, who was still crying desperately. You placed him in the crib, gently pushing the piece of furniture to my side of the bed, making it clear that you were done taking care of the boy.

At that moment, I wanted to scream at you and start an epic fight. I spent the whole damn day taking care of the kids. I was willing to wake up in the middle of the night to feed the baby, as many times as necessary. The least you could have done was watch him for a few hours so I could get some sleep. Just a few hours of good sleep. Is it too much to ask?

We both saw how our fathers played the typical mother and father roles. The entire burden of day-to-day child care rested on the mother’s shoulders, while the father was left relatively free. Not that they were bad parents, but they didn’t have to spend a lot of time changing diapers, feeding and taking care of the children. Our mothers were superwomen, who took care of the house and the family. They cooked, cleaned and raised children. Any help from parents would be welcome, but not expected.🇧🇷

I see that we are increasingly immersed in the family routine. My duty is to feed my family, keep the house clean and take care of the children even after I have worked outside the home. Most of the time I blame myself for it. Because I myself created the illusion of being able to handle everything. And, to be honest, I wish I could.

I also see that my friends and other mothers manage to do everything, and even too well. I know you see it too. And if they are able, and If our mothers did so much for us, why can’t I do the same? I don’t know.

Maybe our friends are just bragging and secretly fighting inside their homes. Maybe our mothers suffered in silence for years, but today, 30 years later, they just don’t remember how hard it all was. Or maybe, and this is why I reproach myself daily, I’m just not cut out for this role. And no matter how much I cringe just thinking about it, I still want to say: I really need your help.

In a way, I feel like a failure for asking this. After all, you even help me. He’s a wonderful father who does a great job with the kids. Besides, everything should be easier for me, shouldn’t it? But I’m human, I only sleep 5 hours a day and I’m terribly tired. Need you.

I need you to take care of our eldest son in the morning so that I can stay with the youngest, prepare breakfast for everyone and have a cup of coffee. And no, caring does not mean leaving the child in front of the TV. It means making her go to the bathroom, eat, ask if she wants to drink water and pack her backpack for school.

At night, I need to relax in bed for an hour, knowing that our oldest is sleeping in the bedroom and you are looking after the baby. I know it’s hard to listen to a baby cry. Believe me, I know. But if I am able to take care of our son and calm him down all day, you can do the same for an hour or two a night. Please. Need you.

On weekends, I need more rest, a time when I can leave the house alone and feel like a person again. Even if it’s just to walk down the street or do some shopping. And sometimes, when everything seems to be under control, I need your support too. That you tell me you’re going to give me affection while the kids sleep. Or wash the dishes without me having to ask. Need you🇧🇷

Finally, I want to hear that you recognize and are grateful for what I do. I want to know that you noticed the laundry and the delicious dinner on the table. I want to know that you value the fact that I’m breastfeeding and expressing a lot when I’m at work, when it would be so much easier to give formula. I hope you realize that I never ask you to stay home and skip your professional and sporting commitments. As every mother should do, I will always be at home with all my disposal to take care of the children while you are away. And that’s exactly what I’ve been doing.

I know that everything is different from the time of our parents. I would really like to get everything done, and in a way that looks easy. And I don’t need praise for doing those things expected of me as a mother. But I raise the white flag and admit that I am human. I’m saying how much I need you, and that, If I continue like this, I won’t be able to take it.🇧🇷 And that will suck for you, the kids, and our family.

Because, let’s be honest: you need me too🇧🇷🇧🇷

Thousands of Internet users shared Celeste’s letter, which provoked numerous comments. Some women took the opportunity to thank their husbands for the help given without having to ask. Many, on the other hand, thanked the author for expressing thoughts that many mothers do not even admit to themselves.

And you, what did you think of the text? Do you live or have you lived in a similar situation? Do you know someone who fits this reality? In your opinion, how is it possible to get around the problem? Comment!