Meet the perfect person, but for another time

Meeting the right person at the wrong time. What is true in this idea? Is it true that there are times in our lives when, due to various circumstances, we must let go of that supposed “soul mate”?

Well, the first thing we must say is that There are many who have seen themselves in this emotional situation. We can meet someone who changes all our schemes, just when we already have a family formed. Also, when we have just ended a traumatic relationship and we are not yet ready to embark on a new adventure, no matter how promising it may be.

It is also common that, just when we start a new life in another country for work reasons, that unexpected presence arises. A man or woman whose edges fit into each of our emotional spaces, someone who, at the same time as sowing peace, inspires. However, and due to these professional issues, the relationship is (supposedly) not viable.

Indeed, these types of situations may sound familiar to you. Those in which we end up saying to ourselves “he was the perfect person, but for another time.” Is this really true or is there, perhaps, a good dose of fear behind it? We analyze it.

If we find someone we truly love, we must fight for that relationship.

Meeting the perfect person, but for another time: cliché or reality?

The writer André Gide said that human beings cannot discover new oceans unless they have the courage to lose sight of the shore. The same thing happens with love. We will never have a full, satisfying and happy relationship if we do not dare, if we do not add a pinch of daring to our food.. And this often implies having to take risks and make sacrifices.

In fact, sometimes, even having started a relationship in a simple, magical and spontaneous way with someone, there comes a moment when, to maintain said commitment, you have to leave something behind. We all must adapt to multiple circumstances to keep afloat that relationship in which we believe, that love that is worth it, the desire and the joy.

Therefore, What’s true about the classic idea that we can sometimes meet the right person at the wrong time? The first thing we can say is that a part of the population believes this idea to be true. They believe in it because they have suffered it and that experience, of letting that special presence escape, later becomes a wound. In regret for what was lost, in a longing for what could be and never was…

The right people are timeless

Most of the time (if not all), the love of our lives appears at the least expected moment.. And we know it. Sometimes it comes when we are engaged in a relationship. It may arise when we have more projects in mind: a new job, very high goals… What’s more, that dazzling person can appear just when we are in the middle of a mourning.

Life has an order that for us is chaos; Although we understand some of the mechanisms that produce variations, we miss the total understanding that would allow us to have accurate premonitions of any future. It is our responsibility to know how to act in the face of each event that arises before us.

Therefore, If the right person really comes along, no moment will be the wrong one, because we will both make that love possible.. True loves are timeless. No matter what envelops them, how they arrive, no matter the circumstance; In the end, the couple will face every difficulty to make possible what, for others, was impossible.

If you give greater value to the wrong moment, it means that it was not the right person.

If someone tells us that we have come into their life at the wrong time, let us be wary.. If he closes the door on us justifying that his existence is already tied up, that his goals were already planned and that we have no space in his complicated present, let us also be wary. Let’s turn the page because your priorities are different.

Because for the right person, time does not exist and our single entry into its reality changes everything. Nobody lets go of what they really love and when the affection is deep, there are no inappropriate moments. Old priorities are blurred and new ones are created in which we are first. The rest is accommodated, organized or left behind.

Let’s be brave, let’s not let love go out of fear or indecision.

Don’t let regret eat away at what could have been and wasn’t.

The truth is that for many, sometimes the right person does come along at the wrong time. We cannot deny that there are times when we do not feel emotionally or mentally prepared. to address certain facts. Perhaps, because we are very young and we do not know, for example, how to face those parents who oppose our relationships with certain people.

Also It may be the case that we have just left a stormy relationship. The kind that leaves scars, deep splinters in the heart. If someone special comes up in the middle of that healing process, we may not be prepared. Fear and indecision put their shackles on us. Thus, what we do know will happen later is that a new psychological fracture will appear: regret.

Massey University, in New Zealand, explains in a study that Regret due to inaction is the most common of all. It is the emotional discomfort that grips us when we do not act, when we do not respond to a circumstance that demands a courageous response. Therefore, it is true that sometimes we will not always be prepared to be decisive, determined and even daring.

However, let’s keep it in mind. Love often requires courage and effort. No one can know 100% if that relationship will work out. But It is better to have tried and to have loved, than to take a step back and regret forever what was not experienced.

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