Love is paid with love

We all deserve true love that allows us to be better every day, without frills and with honesty.: that kind of feeling that calms fears and nourishes from within. This lets us be in essence, makes us happy and does not deliberately harm us.

We deserve to find ourselves in another heart and feel that we are capable of communicating with it without pretending, that there is no constant struggle to keep it close: that love flows and that reason and emotion complement each other.

Find the love of your life, every day, in the same person

If it is allowed to grow, love is the most full and rewarding sensation, in any of its representations. That’s why, Falling in love can never be a bad thing if it is reciprocated, sincerely and openly..

Love is commitment and freedom, that stimulus that would lead someone to choose the same person over and over again to share their life. It is understanding complicity in a relationship and taking advantage of it to create a separate world where you feel safe.

It is realizing that the most beautiful thing costs three times as much and not forgetting it as the years go by: renewing emotions, putting together a puzzle in which the common points fit with the dissonances and taking the risk of jumping into the void even knowing that it is you will probably fall.

Love only understands tenderness, respect, eroticism and mutual affection: it is warmth, impulse, idealization, meaning and life. So, why do we accept that sometimes it becomes cruel? Why do we continue to call it “love” if there is nothing left of it?

“If life ever mistreats you,

remember me,

who can’t get tired of waiting

“the one who never gets tired of looking at you”

-Luís García Montero, poem Dedication-

The love that harms is not love

The simple and at the same time complicated experience of being in love means that sometimes unacceptable situations are accepted in the name of love. The love that forces you to suffer to try to achieve a true ending like the one usual in movies is not real: loving sometimes hurts, but it never hurts on purpose.

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When two people love each other, the only intention that exists is to see the other happy, even if they decide to separate for some reason. It is not reciprocal love if it is toxic, it is not healthy if you have to give up what you are in order to maintain it..

“You can’t stay in a place where you can’t flourish, even if you like it”

-M. Mountain range-

The love that harms with sought jealousy, with ignorance, with psychological abuse and/or with physical abuse cannot be called that because True love is paid with reciprocal love and affection.

To love well, you have to love yourself

There is a social conception according to which one tends to think that a person loves another to feel fulfilled and not feel alone: it is the idea of finding “the other half” that is missing, in order to build and be happy. . However, this notion seems wrong and dangerous.

Some of the great thinkers in history, in fact, have defended the impossibility of loving another without loving oneself first. That would mean seeing ourselves as “complete oranges”, that is, complete beings who have to cultivate self-love before being able to share it with others.

“When you understand that love is not about looking in another person for what you lack, but for someone who understands you, who makes you feel, finding that look… where you can stay and live.”

-Sergio Sa-

If we want an honest relationship, in which one is able to offer another the possibility of knowing him, we first have to know ourselves: understand what exactly we are looking for, what our fears and desires are, how we can grow individually and to what extent another person would change their path. In other words, to love well it is necessary to love yourself and be prepared for both.

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