Little ways to be an unhappy person

Have you ever stopped to think about what it is that doesn’t allow you to be full and complete? Surely you will have some clues about it, but you don’t know for sure, because in many cases, it is something so ingrained in your personality that it is part of your daily life. Do you really know what causes your unhappiness? Take a look at the most frequent and dangerous ones:

First of all, the complaint. There are “chronic complainers” who are always seeing the bad side of things, the glass half empty as they say. If you focus only on the negative, everything around you will be gray and sad, the same as if you insist on remembering the ugly moments of the past. Instead of complaining because you’re too busy with so much work, be grateful for having a job, for example. Remember at the same time that what you say will be a reflection of reality, so, without adding many negative words to your vocabulary, the mind will focus on them continuing to surround you.

Secondly, unhappiness appears when we avoid our problems, that is, when we do not fight or face what happens.. We simply lower our arms or show a white flag. This way you will also be postponing your projects and your dreams. Anything that makes you avoid showing your face or giving up before trying is synonymous with not being happy. If you find excuses or justifications all the time, if pride does not let you see reality or you believe that you are not capable of solving things, you will remain on the path of sadness.

The third way to be unhappy is to compare yourself with others, but above all, to get frustrated when you realize that the rest are better than you at everything. Your friend’s hair is always prettier, your mother’s cake is more delicious, your neighbor’s garden has prettier flowers, and so on. If what you do never seems enough to you, if you do not respect yourself and recognize your virtues, it will be very difficult for you to achieve happiness.

On the other hand, if you are only worried about what will happen in the future (and that will not always happen), you will not be allowing yourself to be happy today. If fear, anguish or uncertainty increase, the energies of the present will be exhausted. If you worry too much and don’t keep perspective on things, if you focus on what can go wrong and paralyze yourself, you will never be able to make smart decisions.
Fifth, those who are truly unhappy are those who do things they do not love or like. Maybe the economy is not there to give you the luxury of working on what you like, however, you can take advantage of some free time to dedicate yourself to what gives you pleasure. If you don’t allow yourself to enjoy, shine or develop your talents, if you settle for what you have, you will stagnate forever.

Another way to keep unhappiness from your life is to maintain toxic relationships, those that really hurt you. If you don’t set boundaries and cling to people who only bring you down or humiliate you, you will never find happiness. Those who steal your energy and good mood, those who make your head hurt, those who blame you for everything, those who complain and those who are never happy about your progress, those are toxic people. It can be painful to move away from them, because in many cases they are family members or very close friends. But for your good mental health and even your well-being, say goodbye to them.

If you want to change everyone and don’t take care to change yourself, you will also be unhappy. When you put the responsibility on others and do not take responsibility for your weaknesses or shortcomings, you are subtracting boxes on the path to happiness. “I would be a better husband if I had a better wife”, “if I had less complicated children I would be a good father”, “If I worked in a better company I would be an excellent salesman”. You are not the victim, change must always be in your hands.

And finally, if you are all the time putting your energy into pleasing others, you will not have any battery left to be happy. What others say should not matter too much to you, since no matter what you do, there will always be someone in charge of criticizing it. So, opinions or gossip should not make a dent in your life.