Learn to overcome life’s frustrations and turn around

At home, at work, dating… It’s inevitable to experience the bitter taste of frustration in some moments of life. That’s when, instead of “yes”, you get a “no” when carrying out your plans. And here comes sadness, discouragement and even anger. “Frustration is linked to our expectations. It occurs when reality does not correspond to what is idealized”, says psychologist Clodine Janny Teixeira. Believe: adversity plays an important role in life. Despite the suffering, they make you mature. “If the world granted our every wish, we would forever remain in a childlike state of development,” says Clodine. If you can’t avoid obstacles, friend, the way is to react. “Getting well is a decision. There will always be situations that make us feel bad. But there is a difference between living from dramas and dealing with them”, recalls psychotherapist Riecken. “Facing reality is an invitation to reinvent yourself. A lot of people complain, but few propose changes”, says . React!

Don’t put yourself as a victim

You can even whine and play the victim, but that won’t solve anything. “This behavior only makes you feel bitter”, says psychologist Tatiana Alvares. The way to face frustrations, by the way, is your choice. makes a practical comparison: when you crush a can, it stays the way you left it. A sponge, on the other hand, returns to its original shape even after being squeezed. “We can choose between absorbing the ‘blows’ as irrecoverable marks and moving forward with the thought that ‘it’s the whole thing that moves forward’”, she says. Think about it!

Ever heard of Resilience?

In Physics, the word resilience summarizes the ability of materials to return to their original shape after suffering deformation. Among human beings, the resilient are those who have the ability to remake themselves after frustrations, using them in their favor. Riecken, author of the book SobreViver – Instinto de Vencedor (Ed. Saraiva, R$ 40), highlights some important characteristics of these people:

– Positivity: They want everything to improve and seek solutions.

– Flexibility: In life you have to be flexible, babe!

– Good self-esteem: They recognize their own worth and know how to defend themselves against those who try to lower them.

– Openness: They share problems with other people, one of the best ways to overcome them.

– Energy: More than wanting to look good, these people are willing to act to get there.

What to do with frustration

on the diet

Has losing weight been too difficult? Calm. It is important to be aware of the limits of your body, which even involve physical structure. “Not all people manage to meet the beauty standard imposed by the media. One way out is to find options that go beyond appearance and bring well-being, ”she says. That is, losing weight can make you happy, but life is not just that. And if the diet doesn’t solve it, look for a doctor to do tests and see if everything is ok.

At work

You worked hard, but your colleague got the promotion. Of course, injustices happen, but if that’s not the case, “pay attention: what diplomas does this friend have? Did she relate better with the team?”, asks . At the very least, you’ll see where you can improve your performance.

In an attempt to get pregnant

You want but can’t have a child. Again, Clodine says that it is necessary to differentiate what is imposed by society from personal desire. “Who said that it is only a woman who is a mother? If having a child is really a wish, think of alternatives that are within your reach.” How about seeking medical treatment or adopting a child?

in love

Is your relationship over? “It is common for people to place a lot of expectations on the other in search of a solution to their problems with their partner. But it is the person himself who has to fulfill himself”, says Clodine. Find out what makes you happy and live well!