Learn to listen and say “no”

Knowing how to listen and say “no” can improve any type of relationship, whether with a child, husband, boyfriend, friends or co-workers. Check out some important tips and live better.

Say “no” without hurting

1. Avoid nervousness
That way, you don’t create bad expectations by doing this. The more natural you speak, the greater the chance that the “no” will be accepted.

2. Find the ideal tone
Childlike voice gives the impression of insecurity. But dry and harsh tone does not work either. Find the balance.

3. Act with honesty
Explain the reason for your “no” without trying to deceive the other person. Sometimes, a negative even brings advantages to the other person.

4. Be objective
Do not extend the conversation. Have you ever heard that saying that the more you move, the more it stinks?

5. Exercise
Gradually, you become natural with the situation, without feeling like a monster when you say “no”.

6. Lead by example
By facing a “no” calmly and naturally, we show others how to do it.

7. Disclose your transparency
Whenever you meet someone, make it clear that you mean it.

Know how to listen to a “no” without feeling frustrated

1. Be mature in reaction
Remember that spoiled soap opera character that you hate so much and analyze if your behavior is not similar to hers.

2. Put yourself in the other’s shoes
The tip is old and, precisely because of that, it really works.

3. Reflect
Try to figure out what went wrong and where to improve.

4. See the glass as half full
Many “no” are said for our own good. If you stop to think about it, you’ll find that many of them have already saved your life. Ask your mother.

5. Learn
See in the negative an opportunity to evolve.

6. Don’t brood
While you waste time reliving failure, you stop running after the “yes”.