I’m so jealous of my boyfriend’s best friend. How should I act?

Jealousy, insecurities, misunderstandings sometimes appear in every relationship… But how should we act? If you’re jealous of your boyfriend’s best friend, you might need some basic tips on how to manage friendship and relationship. This post may help you!

What to do if you’re jealous of your boyfriend’s lifelong best friend?

For starters, we have to ask you, do you also have a best friend or a best friend? We know it’s very difficult to establish hierarchies in friendship, but sometimes it’s very important to have a person in your life who supports you unconditionally.

This person is your best friend or your best friend, and it is certainly not cool for you to see them as a competitor or rival in your relationship.

Now we turn to your boyfriend. He, so charming and with whom you have so many plans for the future, has a best friend. And of course, you wouldn’t mind if he had a best friend, but a best friend…?

You certainly have a annoying little voice that doesn’t get out of your head saying that friendship between men and women doesn’t exist, that there’s always a little bit of ulterior motives, no matter how small.

And you feel terrible about it because, in theory, you have no right to be jealous of your boyfriend’s best friend…

Well, emotions don’t understand rights very well, and if you’re jealous, it’s better to solve it and manage it as best you can. You can start by talking to your boyfriend and telling him what’s going on, that you know it’s all in your head, but you still feel bad.

And what should your boyfriend do?

Well, at this time it is important to better define your spaces, solve all doubts and answer any questions. You also have a lot of work to do, because only you can resolve the insecurity that jealousy produces in you.

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But what about when your boyfriend has a NEW best friend?

So far, we are doing very well, everything is very civilized and it is based on learning to manage emotions better, to practice communication in the best way possible. But what if your boyfriend’s best friend wasn’t always there, but showed up recently?

In this case it is much more difficult to digest and it is a situation where jealousy may not be caused by your insecurity, but by an ambiguous and uncertain situation that your boyfriend is creating with this new friendship.

Of course, it’s nice to make new friends and bond with people you’ve just met. But it must be done carefully, okay?! There has to be transparency, avoiding misunderstandings and ensuring a safe space for everyone.

Because it’s true that the problems of insecurity and self-esteem must be solved by yourself, but it’s also true that your boyfriend has no right to put obstacles in this regard.

And, let’s be honest, if your boyfriend suddenly starts chatting for hours with his new friend, it’s not exactly what one would consider a safe space, is it?! 🤔

In a relationship everything needs to be unmasked and as open as possible and of course, if your boyfriend is paying more attention to his best friend (whether it’s a friendship of years or recent) than to you, there’s something very wrong with that!

Remember that you must be the woman at the center of his life and vice versa. Anything beyond that is not normal.

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