If you care about me, always show me, not one day yes and no day

If you care about me, tell me with your eyes, show me reciprocity and convince me that ours is a complicit and real love.. Because being ignored day in and day out by the person we love the most, leads us to a state of painful uncertainty.

Conscious, mature and authentic love needs commitment. People build bonds with the ones we love: with our children, with our friends and partners. These bonds are based on an emotional and stable security that should not change depending on the day, the mood or our priorities.

I don’t want a love of “today I need you and tomorrow I think about it”, of “today you are everything and the day after I prioritize myself by making you invisible.” If you care about me, give me security, let me grow with you and don’t abandon me on a whim on a tightrope.

It is also clear that by demanding “security” in our relationships, we are not demonstrating a need for control or excessive attachment. Needing security in commitment does not imply control nor that they have to give us constant signs of affection.

In reality, it is something simpler: If you care about me, make me a part of your world and don’t exclude me.

Now, we know that, sometimes, this is not always true: There are those who do not know, do not want or do not have reciprocity strategies. Emotionally intelligent plans that have to be put into motion, based on: emotional complicity, on offering serene love to the other person and not a merry-go-round trip, in which oscillations are repeated.

When I feel like you don’t care about me anymore

No one can always live in a state of uncertainty. We need stability to cling to and a strength to believe in to move forward calmly; knowing that every effort, every gesture, every projected dream or investment is worth it.

When I feel like you no longer care about me, my world falls and slides down the pipes of incomprehension, of despair. And in a moment, you come back mocking my doubts. I don’t want this: if you love me, you must always show it to me, not one day in another.

Something that we must also take into account is that Each person understands and lives love in a different way. However, both parties must reach a balance where there is harmony, in which no one loses and only one wins.

Now, we also know that These small emotional dissonances are what sometimes trigger confrontations. in the relationship:

A couple will not always have internal harmony, without crises and disagreements.. Relationships are built by ironing out differences, reaching agreementsrespecting points of view and knowing how to be good emotional managers. Another aspect that we must understand the thing is Your partner may not have the same form of emotional communication as you. However, just because he doesn’t tell you that he loves you every day, doesn’t mean he has stopped feeling it.Love must be perceived by both parties as something authentic, as something that comforts and edifies us. If one of the two does not perceive it, he does not live it and does not feel it, the problem appears.

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That is when we must talk about it and put our emotional needs out loud. Don’t be afraid to say it out loud “I feel”, “I see”, “I need”, “I hope from you that…”

Love should never be taken for granted

Another aspect that we must take into account when experiencing these moments of crisis, in which the painful sensation of not feeling loved appears, lies in the fact that routinesometimes, It makes us “take our love (almost) for granted.”

Love must never rest on indifference or it will lose its value. Relationships are reborn every day and are nourished by every gesture, every small detail…

Let’s understand that love, just because it is love, does not stop demanding efforts. Small sacrifices that we usually make at the beginning of the relationship without being aware of the cost they entail, since the strength we have is very great. Later, this inertia becomes smaller and the temptation appears to let ourselves fall into comfort, contributing to the relationship only what we want. Let’s think:

We can take it for granted that the sun will rise tomorrow, that spring will be followed by autumn. However, We can never trust that someone who told us yesterday that he loved us will continue to love us today if we do not take care of him.if we do not show him our affection and make him a participant in our life.A stable and happy relationship understands the value of details, of the complicity that knows about gestures, that continues to enjoy the surprises, the dedications. To make the love of his life a reason to be excited about and to excite the other.

Authentic love takes nothing for granted, it is a love that knows how to build, that understands the magic of everyday life and that believes in the dawns experienced together. That is the relationship I want for myself and, if you care about me, we can take care of it between the two of us.