Blindness in the face of reality: what happens when we do not accept what happens to us?

The most significant changes begin to occur when we accept things as they are; both the acceptance of what is given to us by life, and the acceptance of ourselves.

In our changing lives There are many situations in which we have no choice but to accept things as they are given to us, What happens when we refuse to accept things as they are?

When we resist changes, what is no longer part of our control, we cannot do anything to avoid it because it is something that has already happened or is happening. Denying it only causes us to fall into suffering..

The clearest circumstances where acceptance plays a fundamental role are death, love and heartbreak.

How to deny death, how to deny falling in love, how to deny heartbreak? – Well yes, we insist on denying these realities that we can do nothing if they occur.

It’s not about good or bad situations., these are realities that are typical of human beings, they are part of our lives; Whether they produce joy or sadness, the emotion and its intensity tells us how significant that experience is for us.

“If you do not have the strength to impose your own conditions on life, you must accept what it offers you.”

-S. Eliot –

Need to understand

Our tendency towards what is beyond our control is to try to give it an answer, to get an explanation that relieves us. We need to understand everything that happens in our lives.

We forget that everything we try to understand is going to be the result of our interpretations and experienceof explanations to which we want to give meaning to finally convince ourselves and make us believe that that is our reality.

We get lost in reason, in words, when all truth, all reality is within us; It is in what we feel, it is in the emotion we experience. Going towards that feeling that our own body is responsible for showing us is accepting the reality of what happens to us..

The tendency to go towards reasoning to explain certain issues such as those related to love; are impediments and barriers What we put on ourselves to not accept reality.

What happens when we do not accept what happens to us?

When we bury those feelings that we don’t want to attend toso as not to remain mired in sadness, or have fear of being caught and they do us too much harm; a damage that we believe we are not capable of sustaining and facing; We are denying our experience, our existence.

We are burying our essencewe leave many of the emotions stuck that need to be released, need to be lived and experienced.

When we do this we are forgetting an essential part of our humanity, not accepting our vulnerabilitiesbelieving that we are above them.

The body is responsible for giving us the pertinent signals in the form of an alert. so that at some point we decide to get out everything that we have stagnated (rage, sadness, anger, anger, etc.), by not doing so our energy in turn remains stagnant and as a result illness and disconnection appear with ourselves and our happiness.

Learning to accept

Personal development and learning occurs when we are willing to accept our feelings and emotions as they appearwithout passing them through the filter of reason in a way that modifies them, represses them and turns them off.

We can take into account that reason will need to offer an explanation for what is happening, but by staying anchored there we are diverting attention to what we experience.

He true learning It happens when we are willing to accept, letting ourselves feel each of the emotions that arise in each of the circumstances we go through.

That is how we transform following the flow of life. Since everything that we deny and are not willing to accept we will subject to disengagement with ourselves, with everything that this implies.

When we accept inevitable facts in our lives We can feel sadness with great intensity, but feeling it is precisely what frees us from it.to continue moving forward and give rise to new emotions, experiences and experiences.

The moment we begin to accept what happens to us, we begin to accept ourselves. We are thus prepared for forgive and forgive ourselvesto continue flowing towards new experiences, letting energy flow, letting us feel alive.

“Reason has taught me nothing. Everything I know has been given to me from the heart.”

-Leon Tolstoy-

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