If They Don’t Appreciate You, Walk Away: 18 Honest Signs He Looks Down On You

No relationship is perfect and all couples have difficult times.

If you’re with a guy who means a lot to you, but you feel like he might be losing interest, it’s normal to ask yourself: What the hell is going on?

If his attitude towards you has changed a lot since you first got together, you may need to take a step back and reevaluate if this is something you want.

Something you should never forget is that no one can hurt you if you don’t allow it. It is important to know where you stand but then you must make the decision for what is best for you.

Many articles on this topic tell you that all the reasons why your guy might ignore you or treat you badly is actually due to his own problems…

They list the various things that may not be your fault but cause him to treat you badly, as a side effect.

We won’t do that here. This article will be completely honest:

These are signs that he doesn’t value you. It is not a psychoanalysis of his deep and dark problems or the supposed excuses for his behavior.

If he doesn’t behave as he should with you, then you have a big problem on your hands.

Spot.

These are the 18 main signs that he does not value you

1) You are not their choice, you are just an option

If you notice that your guy or partner treats you as one of many options, then there is a serious problem.

Signs of this include

frequent last-minute cancellations before a date joking or commenting on other women around you making it clear that spending time with you “isn’t a big deal” and that it’s not that special to him

Remember that if a guy treats you as an alternative, leave him as an option.

2) He belittles your beliefs and values

Another of the biggest signs that he doesn’t value you is when he undermines your beliefs and values.

This is very different from respectfully disagreeing or presenting your own point of view and accepting that you don’t share it.

That’s really healthy and it’s a kind of honesty that leaves room for the relationship to grow.

Disparaging your beliefs and values is a toxic power dynamic. In it, consciously or unconsciously, he is trying to take advantage of you and let you know that you are “not good enough.”

You should never change who you are and what you want because of what someone else thinks.

Here is an interesting article, if you want to know more about how to forget someone who doesn’t suit you.

3) He never defends you

One of the clearest signs that he doesn’t value you is when he never stands up for you in front of others.

Or he never takes your side.

This can include family, friends, or even strangers.

If one of his friends makes an unhappy comment about something you’ve said, he’ll just laugh and say, “You know how women are.”

You don’t have to put up with it.

Read Also: How does a narcissist react to indifference?

4) He cancels at the last minute

Sometimes last minute things come up and your guy has to cancel.

He could be real, he could even tell you that you should give him the benefit of the doubt…

… The first couple of times.

But when last-minute canceling becomes a regular thing, you can be sure of one of three things:

He’s dumping you for another girl, friend, or event He changed his mind and only told you at the last minute because he knows you’ll put up with it He doesn’t value you

And none of those three things is something you want in a guy you’re interested in.

So my most sincere advice is to let him know that what he offers you is not enough. Make it clear to him that he can change that attitude or continue on his way.

5) Does not introduce you to family and friends

If a guy doesn’t value you, one of the things he will often do is not even introduce you to his family and friends.

And if you run into them, he’ll pretend you don’t mean much to him.

He may introduce you as “a friend,” by name, or in any other way that allows him to avoid actually talking about whether you’re his girlfriend.

The other side of the coin here is when he loves to show you off in public and to friends and family but because of your appearance. He never really cares if you want to go out, or meet his inner circle, etc.

Yes, in that case, he’s open to seeing you, but he also treats you like a trophy, not a human being, and trust me, that’s not valuing you properly.

6) Does not answer

He doesn’t answer the phone, even if you call him several times or ask him if he’s okay or wants to meet up.

And sure, you’ll get the usual excuses, who knows, there might be some truth to them:

He is very busy at work;

You have been feeling bad;

You have a family situation;

Etc…

But the truth is that when he is distant and only talks to you when he decides that he wants to and unilaterally, it is not a sign that he values you.

It’s a sign that he treats you like a disposable object that he turns to when he’s lonely or horny.

And well, I’m sure that’s not how you want someone to feel about you.

7) Teases you in private and in public

The thing about jokes is…they’re funny. Or at least they should be.

In fact, humor is one of the greatest aphrodisiacs.

But if this guy goes too far, that is, he makes fun of you in private and in public to the point of making you uncomfortable, things are different.

In my opinion, it’s okay to tease someone in a very light and well-meaning way. More if there is a round trip and it is a way they have to bond.

The problem is when the mockery only goes one way and has an undercurrent of judgment and mean vibes.

Read Also: How to make a man who does not want commitments fall in love: 25 keys

The list of examples I could give you is almost endless. But I leave you just a few:

make fun of your style or way of dressing your voice friends career
decoration of your home vehicle dreams future values

It doesn’t matter if he read that it was a great strategy to pick up girls in some quite wrong forum.

If this guy does those things, he’s an idiot and doesn’t value you.

8) Dare you to quit and play mind games

One of the quintessential signs that he doesn’t value you is mind games.

Some people, male or female, are very passive-aggressive. Sometimes he will seem like an attractive angel to you and then he will turn into a horrible demon.

It’s almost like he gets stronger just for the pleasure of seeing you fall, get angry or suffer. You don’t have to be a genius to know that this is not healthy.

If he plays mind games like daring you to leave him or holds a threat over you as a blackmail tactic, then you’re in for a tough spot.

You may have fallen for the “good side” of this man. And on the other hand, the indifferent and vindictive side of him frightens you when he hurts you without even feeling a guilty conscience.

My advice is to get out as quickly as possible before it continues to evolve for the worse.

Dawson McAllister explains it well here:

“Some people use mind games to selfishly manipulate others to get what they want, to satisfy their own unmet needs. This can include: sex, always having someone by your side, being adored by someone, needing to control someone, and hoping someone else heals your deepest wounds.”

9) He doesn’t care if you see other guys

No one wants a guy who is ultra jealous and pounces on any text you send him.

But it’s also kind of weird if you’re dating a guy who really doesn’t give a damn if you get flirted with or even see other guys.

Yes, I am aware of so-called “open relationships” and if that is your agreement, then your behavior would make sense.

But in a monogamous relationship, it tends to mean only one thing: He just doesn’t like you that much.

If he respects your privacy and your space, that’s one thing, and that’s great.

But if you notice that he doesn’t care in the least what you do when you’re not with him, that’s a major red flag.

10) You mean nothing special to him

This may seem obvious, but it has its tricky side. This is why:

You may be dating a guy who is generally friendly, outgoing, well-liked, and popular.

You can be an expert at cheering others up and telling jokes that everyone loves and getting the attention of all the girls in the room.

And unfortunately, he may be treating you pretty well. But if he’s treating you exactly the same as everyone else, then you need to be honest with yourself.

If you were special to him, why does he just repeat the same attitude towards others with you?

Read Also: How to know if it is your soul mate, 20 signs that confirm it

It’s enough to start asking you some serious questions…

11) There’s Just No Time For You

This is related to the lack of response. He is only available when he wants.

One of the main signs that he doesn’t value you is that he simply doesn’t make time for you.

For years now when I hear someone say “I don’t have time” I know that it is simply an excuse and that there really are other reasons or priorities behind it.

Do you have time for work, for friends, for fun? But what place does it give you?

As simple as it is, if he doesn’t spend time with you, it’s because he doesn’t value you. There are no hidden reasons.

I almost guarantee it.

And if there is some extreme reason, what could happen. I assure you that she will express a genuine apology and affection for you even if she is not available at the moment.

12) You only give and receive nothing

There are times in every dating and relationship scenario when one party takes the lead.

What isn’t right is when he expects you to put everything into the relationship and just lays back with his hands behind his head or starts playing play.

This applies to many problems in a relationship, including:

Sex (he expects you to do all the work and do it when he wants to); Cooking (he loves your lasagna so much, not that he’s lazy! Sure…) Socializing (when he feels like doing something cool, but if you want to go out… well, maybe another day?) Etc.…

No relationship can survive being this one-sided.

Sorry to break it to you, but you’re headed for a guaranteed breakup.

13) You are invisible and inaudible to him

When a guy values you, he listens to what you say and watches how you behave.

If you’re upset, he asks you what’s wrong.

When you ask him a question, he answers you.

Simple.

You will know that a guy does not value you, because he ignores most of what you say. Unless he gets some benefit. He barely looks at you to check your butt or cleavage.

Sorry I warned you this article would be completely honest!

Don’t be afraid to bring this up if you feel invisible and unheard.

It is true that sometimes guys communicate less and become distant without fully realizing it.

However, this is not an excuse, if this becomes constant you will have to set your limits.