How does a narcissist react to indifference?

Who has not been attracted to a narcissist at some time?

They are charming, accommodating, and so self-assured that it’s almost impossible not to.

The problem is when you are indifferent or want to end the relationship with them.

Because? Because they hate it!

By feeling ignored, a narcissist will have negative feelings towards you.

And his way of reacting will depend a lot on how important you are to him.

They are people who believe they are superior to others.

And they try to surround themselves with those who feed this and give them even more power.

So if he doesn’t get anything in return for being with you, he may just cut you out of his life.

But if he still wants to keep you around, he will try to stay by your side by manipulating you in various ways.

For this reason, it is important that you know how he might react to your indifference.

And what strategies will he use to prevent you from ignoring him.

How does a narcissist feel about being ignored?

According to psychologist Laura Palomares, the narcissistic personality:

“It is characterized by an excess of confidence and overestimation of one’s own abilities, underestimating the worth and abilities of the people around them.”

Palomares also indicates that they have a need for constant admiration.

And they lack their own identity.

Rather, they build it from the reaction of others when they show their greatness.

This causes them to have an emotional dependence on others that contrasts with the arrogant and self-sufficient appearance they show.

So, being emotionally dependent, they may feel anger or resentment towards others.

Since they will not understand why they are ignored and will get frustrated.

Reactions to indifference

Disappointment: they usually want to associate with interesting, useful or high-level people. If they don’t make it, they become disillusioned thinking that they have failed and that they are not perfect.

Fear: Although they appear safe and confident, it is usually a facade for others. If this image weakens, they fear being “discovered.”

Anger/Indignation: when they are rejected, they tend to be aggressive and angry, because they realize that they cannot control that person. This generates indignation for them, because it is difficult for them to believe that they are not important or recognized.

What annoys a narcissist the most?

When a narcissist is rejected by someone close to them, they feel frustrated.

Any type of exclusion, demonstration of lack of interest in him or even signs that he is “invisible” to you will be difficult for him to accept and may even hurt him.

They need excessive attention that makes them feel superior.

Meeting someone who rejects them or does not give them the importance they think they deserve will bother them a lot.

Above all, if you seem happy or better to be without him.

This will drive him crazy, since you are confirming that you don’t care about him.

And, most importantly, that he has no control over you.

So, if you are a strong person who can set limits, you will attract him, but at the same time, you will annoy him.

Because you will be something new for him, that is, he will not be able to use you at will like the others.

But also, you will be a challenge for him to apply all his strategies to manipulate you.

And thus manage to have you at your disposal.

What does a narcissist do if you ignore him?

The narcissistic person believes that they must direct the lives of those around them.

For this reason, they try to control their attention and believe they deserve their admiration.

If a narcissist feels ignored, they won’t enjoy it.

But your reaction can take two different paths.

It all depends on the type of bond he has with you.

If the narcissist does not want to maintain contact with you:

If you reject a narcissist and he already showed disinterest in you, nothing will happen.

Since it means that he already knew that bonding with you would not provide anything in favor for his life.

Therefore, it will turn the page.

If the narcissist wants to have you in his life:

Noticing your indifference, he may not do anything at first.

He is probably convinced that you will come to him again soon, because he thinks you care.

But if after a while, he notices that you continue to ignore him, you no longer write, talk or ignore him, he will take action, because his ego will be threatened.

As?

He will look for a way to contact you. If he is very proud, it will be in a stealthy way.

For example: if you have blocked him on social networks, he may ask your best friend for friendship.

That way, they can find out about you and how to find you “by chance”.

If you continue to talk to each other, it may make you feel guilty for ignoring it.

Or that he tries to make you feel insecure, unworthy, or manages to make you doubt yourself.

If you have a close relationship with him, but you no longer give him your usual attention, he may try to show you that you “need” him in your life.

Consequences of ignoring a narcissist

You already know that a narcissist will use all means not to lose you.

Here I leave you in detail what else you can do if they had a close or loving relationship.

LIE: if he feels hurt, he may make your circle of friends/family believe that he was the one who walked away from you. He is protecting his image and ego.

DEFAMATE: his lies will be to protect himself from what others think and to prevent them from knowing that you have rejected him. He may try to dirty your image to achieve this, even though his desire is to win you back. Think of it like this, if they come back, in the eyes of others, he will be the one who “has forgiven” you. His strategy has a double objective.

HARASSMENT: At first, they may try to contact you in a traditional way. Calling you, sending messages via Whatsapp, etc. But if he can’t reach you, he will try to contact you through your friends, frequenting the places you usually go or insisting on his calls/visits.

How to make a narcissist reflect

If a narcissist sees that you understand how to set boundaries in your relationships, it will be difficult for them to manipulate you.

Remember that they focus on themselves.

This means that they are not empathetic and do not pay attention to others or their feelings.

So if you still want to keep this person in your life, try talking to him.

This is how he understands your point of view and how it makes you feel.

Keep in mind that they do not easily accept constructive criticism.

So, follow these tips to make your talk a success.

Be specific: clear words, bluntly and concisely. Otherwise you will lose interest. Provide solutions: try to explain what is bothering you and what would help improve it. If you highlight some of his qualities by praising him to change his attitude, it will be easier for him to accept you. Give him time: If you’re really interested, be patient and try to remind him of this talk when you notice that he is about to behave in a nasty way towards you. Changing habits in a relationship is hard, don’t give up.

And most importantly, listen to yourself. If when trying everything, you can’t move forward. It’s time to let it go.

There will always be a new opportunity to meet someone who will give you the attention you deserve. Be strong!