How to make a man who does not want commitments fall in love: 25 keys

I know what you’re thinking: I don’t want to make a man fall in love with a job of tactics and strategy. Neither have an eternal list of “tasks” to conquer it.

If you are here it is because you are surely wanting to have a special connection with someone. And that someone might be a bit averse to commitments.

Perhaps you already know someone you are interested in and you want to get them interested in a serious relationship with you.

Today it is not difficult to come across men who are afraid to commit. There are so many options at the swipe of your finger that settling down isn’t one of your priorities.

But I have good news for you, no matter how much you fear commitment, it is still possible to make a man fall in love.

It has more to do with understanding certain variables of your nature and acting intelligently. You don’t have to be a perfect goddess or have a body for a heart attack.

Men are much more complicated than women think. Most believe that they are only interested in getting you into their bed. But that’s only half the story.

Read this guide carefully, with some keys that you have never been told before.

And if you take them into account when it comes to making that special boy fall in love, you will see how you will feel that you magically drive him crazy.

Even if you have heard the typical: “I am not serious at all”, here you will see how with simple attitudes you can reverse it.

But first, there are some key points that as a woman I want you to consider before you dive into the illusion of perfect love. The majority of women I know (including myself), are infatuated and hopeless romantics.

What you should know before falling in love with a man:

1) Don’t fall in love with the 10%

Many times it happens that you meet a boy and suddenly you see that he has certain qualities that you love. And then suddenly, effortlessly, he earns the top spot on your podium of ideal men.

But watch out! That if you only know its 10%, there is a 90% that you still have to discover. Instead of projecting your ideal man and falling for those ideas, take the time to get to know him.

2) That his yes does not imply yours

Nowadays relationships have changed a lot. I don’t know if you’ve felt it, but there is a lightness and fluidity that is sometimes difficult to carry if you want to create a close bond with a man.

Today it is so easy to meet someone how to open the cell phone and give a match. This is why I believe that more than ever we must learn to value ourselves and not jump headlong into any opportunity that appears.

Many times we are waiting to see if a guy likes us and automatically if we see interest we already take it as a yes.

But have you taken the time to decide if he is a yes for you?

May his yes not be yours, you must choose him too and he must earn your love as well as you his.

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Like everything in life, a good balance is ideal.

3) The most dangerous moment: when you find out that you really like him

It has happened to you that you go out with a boy, everything is going great, you like it but you are calm and have a great time.

Suddenly the day comes when you realize: you like it a lot. And from then on things get complicated.

You start to have fears, of not liking him enough, of him meeting someone else, of losing him when you’ve just found him.

This is the crucial moment where you should turn off your mind and trust that everything will take its course.

Stop worrying about the idea of loss and enjoy what you are experiencing.

Thoughts sometimes play tricks on us and make us act in a way that ends up ruining the moment or fulfilling what we fear the most.

Have you heard the term: self-fulfilling prophecy? It is when we begin to act according to an idea in our mind (fear of losing it) and in this way we create that reality that we fear through our action.

4) Do not forget that he is not the only man on earth

I think this never hurts to repeat it. There are many more fish in the sea.

Did you know that of the nearly 8 billion inhabitants of the earth, 50.5% are men. That?

It is so, according to data from the United Nations. So now you know, you can forget about what they told us about there being 1 man for every 7 women.

Do you really think that among almost 4 billion men, only he is the only one compatible with you? Don’t worry, I’m sure there are many guys who would be happy to have you by their side.

Now yes, with the accommodated ideas. If you are clear that you want to make this man fall in love, let’s go to the keys that I have promised you.

How to fall in love with a man who does not want commitments: my 25 top keys, some will surprise you

1) Listen actively

I know, you hear it, but if all you do is think about how cute her smile is or the way her eyes have a blinding sparkle, you’re not paying attention.

You tune out and the next thing you know you’re frantically trying to remember what he just said.

You can’t help it, to truly get closer to him you need to start actively listening to him.

According to VeryWellMind, there are some simple ways to actively listen and make him feel heard:

Look him in the eye when he is talking Don’t interrupt him Paraphrase what he said instead of immediately giving advice (“So, what you’re saying is…”) Listen without judging him, silence all the voices in your head that try to rationalize his words Pay attention to nonverbal cues, like facial expressions and body language, while you’re talking.

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If you actively listen to him, he won’t want to stop talking to you.

This will instantly bring you closer because he will feel comfortable talking to you knowing that he has your full attention.

2) Treat him like a hero

I don’t mean a hero like Superman, no, more like the everyday hero.

Because that is essentially what all men need: to be the one who cares for their loved ones, especially their partner, and who is respected, valued and appreciated.

And you can tap into their inner hero very easily.

I am referring to the “hero instinct”, a term coined by James Bauer.

In his book, His Secret Obsession, Bauer explains how every man has a biological drive to live a meaningful life.

They want to feel needed and useful by their family, they want to protect the people they love, and they want to be respected.

Best of all, you can activate Hero Instinct by doing things as simple as:

Let him help you Support him Celebrate his success Mentally challenge him Make him feel like he’s the only guy for you

Once you have activated this in your guy, he will feel a connection with you that will make him completely forget about the fear of commitment.

When the hero instinct is activated in a man, the chances are great that he will fall madly in love with you, because his biological need will be satisfied and it will give meaning to his life.

3) Don’t be afraid to ask questions.

Many people make the big mistake of only talking about themselves.

Do not do it.

Avoid conversations that are just about you, and instead talk about topics you both have in common.

And ask lots of questions.

Men like to be able to show you their virtues and the more they tell you about their life, the more they will open up to you and they will generate that space for the intimacy and connection that you seek to build. Asking open ended questions is the key to getting closer and making him fall in love with you.

(Later on, I’ll share some great questions to keep conversations flowing and interesting, so don’t worry if you’re not the most imaginative when it comes to generating conversation.)

4) Include him in your life

The goal here is to get closer to him so that you can have a deep and meaningful relationship and have him fall deeply in love with you, right?

So an easy way to do this is to simply include it in your life. Do it subtly so he doesn’t freak out too much. Remember that your guy with a fear of commitment is like a distrustful puppy.

If you love to paint, invite him to an art class and have fun together.

Also, there is nothing more attractive than seeing a person doing what they are passionate about with all their heart. You will love it.

You see, making a guy fall in love does not involve any special tricks or magic. Just letting him into your life will naturally cause him to start letting you into his.

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5) Take an interest in his life

And just as letting him into your world will bring you closer, it’s also important that you take an interest in his.

Some of that will come naturally through the questions you’ll ask (the ones below), but getting involved will have an even more profound effect on your relationship.

And how can you get involved?

Well, start by finding out what he likes to do and then casually mention that you’ve never tried that particular activity before and you’d love to. So until he invites you to try it with him.

You may need to get out of your comfort zone a bit.

But not only will he fall in love more and more when he sees you shy trying something new and needing his help, but trying new things always makes us grow and expand.

6) Be trustworthy

It’s no secret that confidence is an incredibly important part of making a man fall in love.

Without trust, you have no chance.

So how can you build trust with him?

Here are some tips:

Don’t make promises you can’t keep Be always there for him Don’t play games Be attentive, let him know if you’ll be late or can’t make it to an appointment Keep his secrets (this means not telling his secrets even to your best friends!)

As you learn to trust each other, you will naturally begin to grow closer and the love will feel stronger and stronger.

7) Be vulnerable

This is connected to what I mentioned at the beginning of this article: be yourself.

The truth is that if you put aside for a moment the fear of being hurt, you can open up to connect from the depths of your being.

Going to the next level of intimacy and connection means being able to fully open up to the other to give him that place too.

You might suddenly find yourself talking about the problems you faced growing up, the difficult relationships you have with your parents, etc. And there is nothing that unites them more than sharing their deepest fears and pains.

It may take guts and courage to be vulnerable and show him parts of yourself that you wouldn’t normally share.

But you should know that a little vulnerability here and there will help you both connect and understand each other better.