If I enjoy the way I am, why change to please others?

Maturing is, among other things, realizing that not everyone has to like you to be happy. In fact, it is enough to love and respect ourselves. We reflect on this below.

My way of being is authentic and I don’t need to pretend to be what I’m not to please everyone.. I have long practiced the value of personal dignity, I am not a slave to anyone, and I do not need other people’s approval to be happy.

It is vital that we reach this conclusion as soon as possible in our life cycle. It is an aspect that every adolescent should assume, and that every person should practice to achieve adequate inner balance and emotional well-being.

I am not what you expect me to be, accept me for what defines me, for my way of being, for my way of making you happy: let’s build a world where neither you nor I force ourselves to stop being “you and me.”

We know that it is not always easy to act this way. Inside us, We have the feeling that if everyone doesn’t like us we won’t be accepted. However, life is not built with the need to have to be liked: it is enough for us to know how to respect ourselves.

One feels the need to be liked by our partner’s family, to get along with their friends, to fit in with all our co-workers and the people who are part of our social circles. However, The first thing that every person should keep in mind is that it is impossible to please everyone. Each person is unique, we all have our own way of being, of seeing the world, of living life.

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If you don’t like me, at least accept me, respect me. Most likely, there is some aspect of me that unites us; most likely, despite our differences, we can enrich each other in some way. And if this doesn’t happen, nothing will happen either. The essential thing is that we accept ourselves: Self-love is a relationship that should last a lifetime.

I am me, and I accept myself in my way of being: I am a gift

You are a gift to yourself, and no one can tell you otherwise.

I am who I am, I do not pretend to be a version of anyone or a puppet guided by other people’s strings: I have a voice, a heart and I know what I deserve in this life to be happy.

Our way of being is not defined just by saying that we are extroverted, shy or introverted.. It is an amalgamation of nuances where experiences, thoughts and vital learning are inscribed. They are failures and they are wounds, but they are also triumphs and paths traveled with happiness.

The bad teaches and the good guides, Every experience builds our way of being, there where educational styles, values that we assume or renounce, and the essence of each person who passes through our life are also integrated.

Your way of being is the energy that pushes you and that must put barriers to what you do not want in your life, to what does not define you. People who try to fit in with everyone need approval above all. That’s when they feel integrated, but If we limit ourselves to seeking approval on a daily basis, we will stop being ourselves.Psychologist and writer Wayne Dyer used to say that 50% of the people we meet every day will bepossiblycontrary to our opinions. If on any occasion you encounter someone who doesn’t like what you say or what you do, don’t worry: there is another 50% who will support you.When we are little we are educated in the need to please everyone: smile, shake hands, sit well, don’t do this, don’t do that… We spend a good part of our lives “seeking approval,” until one day, suddenly, we realize that pleasing everyone is impossible.You might be interested…

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Trying to please everyone will make you unhappy

Buddhism has already told us since ancient times: If you insist on pleasing everyone, the only thing you will find is suffering and unhappiness. It is not worth it, it is not necessary to like those who have a selfish heart, those who do not recognize you, those who lack nobility and those who simply do not fit with your way of understanding the world.

I am a part of everything that I have found on my path, my way of being is my essence and my identity. It’s taken me a long time to get to where I am and I can’t allow myself to pretend to be something I’m not just to make you happy.

If we think about it, nothing could bring us greater stress and emotional suffering than trying to please everyone. However, also We know that “not liking” can cause us more than one criticism and reproach.

Understand that The criticism you receive is more related to who directs it than to who receives it.. They do not define you, sometimes it is nothing more than a reflection of the frustration of those who criticize you.It is not hygienic to live life pending the opinions of othersnor under the yoke of finding approval from others: you will become a slave to the world instead of being the owner of your heart.

Life is diversity, and people have so many nuances that it is worth being unique, being authentic and always maintaining adequate dignity. Love yourself for who you are, love yourself for who you are.