I don’t turn my back, I got used to the fact that problems are faced and conflicts are faced

In this world with its back turned, we need people who act head on, face to face, without fear, without hesitation. Therefore, when it comes to giving your indifference to someone, it is better to do it without hesitation and with the firm and calm gaze of someone who knows how to say “enough,” of someone who is not afraid to set limits on what they do not want or that disturbs their balance.

We all know that few components are as essential in human relationships as the recognition of the other. Thanks to that interaction, to that almost always meaningful and authentic deference, we exist, we learn and grow as people.

However, When a specific bond hurts us or causes us unhappiness, it is also necessary to know how to “recognize” the offense and react. before her instead of running away, of turning away.

Something that we cannot forget is that always It will be preferable to lose a relationship with a person than to lose one’s own health.. Now, to “get rid” of that problematic bond or relationship we must act with maturity, congruence and with adequate emotional intelligence. Because Those who simply choose to turn their backs do not know how to act face-to-face.

It is necessary to equip ourselves with adequate skills to manage these types of situations. We will feel more competent, satisfied and we will also enjoy a better quality of life and mental health.

Choose not to turn your back, choose to act intelligently

If we think about it, We live in a world filled with people accustomed to turning their backs on many of the things that surround them.. Sometimes, they don’t do it maliciously or intentionally.

It’s just a matter of ego, of that invented identity that we build over time until we are suspended on an island of loneliness, where we only care about what happens within the limits of our small psychic and emotional plot.

Perhaps for this reason, Those who are not used to treating the people they love with empathy and with adequate recognition will not know how to correctly manage their conflicts. Because if we don’t like something, it doesn’t do much good to run away, nor to assume that childish attitude capable of leaving invisibility those who don’t like it, those who don’t fit into their scores or who are simply contrary to them.

The problems are faced. Conflicts are faced. Because, at the end of the day, our existence is not a straight line without potholes, nor an aseptic scenario where we advance as beings immune to differences or clashes.

Sometimes, it’s not just the grievance that bothers us. We are also affected by the way we ourselves react to what happens to us. Therefore, doing it with maturity and intelligence will allow us to build a more valid, firmer and enriching self-concept.

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Learn to manage your differences and conflicts

We all like people who get involved, who take sides, who have a voice and opinion on things and who also dare to defend them. This vital energy is in turn linked to an almost magical commitment to oneself. Because every personality endowed with good self-esteem does not hide or turn its backbut will use appropriate assertiveness to clearly say what he or she doesn’t like and why he or she doesn’t like it.

Next, we suggest you evaluate the following strategies to better deal with your differences with the people around you.

Keys to bravely face what bothers you

Gestalt therapy is always a good strategy to treat these types of situations. Its holistic approach allows us to assume such important principles as self-responsibility, honesty and self-respect.

Let’s reflect on the following questions.

Focus on the “here and now” when facing that conflict. It doesn’t matter if in the past that person or that specific situation brought you balance and happiness. If what you receive now is a harsh insult or a sharp offense, react. All pain experienced in the present does not accept conditional tenses: “Maybe this is something temporary, if I held on a little longer, maybe…”Stay calm at all times, anger is a runaway horse that takes us to places we do not want. Whoever turns his back flees, acts with fear or cowardice. Whoever attacks with rage and contempt does not always find the well-being that he seeks. On the other hand, the person who is brave and acts with emotional intelligence has learned to build a palace of temperance in his mind to act head-on, to look with serenity at what troubles him without ever reaching aggression or contempt.Speak assertively. You must make it clear what bothers you and what you are not willing to tolerate. If we do not speak clearly, the person in front of you will initiate new attempts to cross your personal boundaries again and again. If you do not make it clear and opt only for avoidance behavior, it is likely that new attempts to attack or offend will be generated.

To conclude, in this world where there are already too many backs, let’s learn to always act head-on. Even if it is to give a silence, even if it is to offer an elegant look where the wisest indifference shines.

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