As long as you have more good days than bad, you’ll be fine.

As long as you have more good days than bad, you’ll be fine. So take a deep breath, because you are effectively managing those occasional knots that, from time to time, oppress your calm. It’s hard to achieve, it’s true, and sometimes you even break down for a few seconds, but over time you learn your own resources that are useful to you, ways to deal with gray days, and even storms.

After so many experiences you have undoubtedly discovered that the classic messages of popular – and non-scientific – psychology are not very useful. Because the “if you want you can” It doesn’t always work, and because bad times don’t always leave us with valuable learning. Sometimes they are just that, complicated moments that you have to go through, and that’s it…

The important thing is to remember that suffering will not last forever. On the other hand, there is also another no less fascinating fact:: Every time an experience doesn’t destroy you or make you fall, the brain will process it as a victory. That internal perception will improve the vision you have of yourself. So admit it, you have already overcome infinite battles and here you are still. Standing.

Bad days can come from external effects and changes in our mood.

As long as you have more good days than bad, your life will be fine.

People have a socially ingrained habit: we evaluate days as good or bad. We are like this, we have the unique habit of getting up in the morning and having a series of proposed objectives. In this way, when things do not happen as planned, we do not hesitate to label that day as terrible, disappointing or catastrophic.

Human beings process their reality through expectations and when these are not met, discouragement and frustration arise. This is basically explained by our inevitable need to want to have everything under control. When the truth is that life is also defined by the chaotic and by those “black swans” that Nassim Taleb told us about and that symbolize the uncertain.

They are those negative events that sometimes happen and that not even the most brainy mind had ever foreseen or suspected. Nobody likes bad days, because we are rarely prepared to deal with the twists of fate, with failures, mistakes, arguments, losses and even downpours. Happiness is for us to find all the traffic lights green and to have only good days.

What do we do, then, with the “bad ones”?

Sometimes doing nothing is the best option: accept and let it go

The philosophical practice of Taoism extols a very basic principle: sometimes doing nothing is the best response to life’s problems. The mentality wu-wei It is a mental approach that starts from calm and non-action. In a society that constantly urges us to strive, to perform to the maximum of our abilities, this perspective may seem contradictory to us.

However, there are times when the most important thing is to slow down, calm our emotions and understand that few things are more useful than having serenity. As long as you have more good days than bad, everything will be fine. The unpleasant moments and gray moments are part of life: let them pass. Tomorrow will be another day.

In moments of storm and darkness, love yourself more than ever

There is a fact that we must consider. Many of our bad days are not a consequence of external events, but of our state of mind.. We see and process reality as we feel. And indeed, we cannot always be 100%. There are days in which everything weighs, nothing is desired, motivation fails and even our internal dialogue turns against us.

For this to happen is normal. We all deal with those moments when the storm is not outside, but inside. What can we do?

Research from the University of California indicates that self-compassion is key. Only when we speak to ourselves with respect and practice self-empathy, giving ourselves what we need, do we overcome those moments of discouragement with greater worth.

The good days are taken advantage of, the bad ones are sorted

Our daily lives are so uncertain that we only have one option: take advantage of the good days as much as we can.. It is true that for some time now the flow of the river of restlessness has increased. However, we cannot get overwhelmed or let ourselves be carried away by that current.

Fears and catastrophic thinking create tunnel vision and then we only see trains coming in front of us.

We must accept that bad days exist, but that they are not the usual trend. Furthermore, we can all have a first aid kit of strategies on hand, a mental lifeboat that allows us to face those difficult moments with courage and adjustment. Sorting out, navigating through difficulties is something we end up learning.

The essential thing is to take advantage of those seasons of calm and balance. Because Moments of light are always there for those who know how to look well and, above all, for those who know how to promote them.

It doesn’t matter what you are experiencing now; Keep this in mind: it will pass.

Focus your mind on what has a solution and the rest, accept it.

If there is something that we have been taught since we were children, every problem has a solution. Perhaps that is why we have always been obsessed with looking for ways out, options, resolutions and strategies to solve every challenge and face any difficulty. Nobody has told us that, in reality, there are things that cannot be changed or improved.

Bad days are always made up of crossroads that we can avoid and problems that have no solution. Accepting that there are things that we cannot control is the first thing for well-being. Let’s face it. Only in this way will we continue to give greater meaning to the good moments, those that give us life, meaning and even happiness.

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