How to write a love letter? |

“One day, within us, the feeling arises. A light is revealed that, even if weak, is already warm and comforting. With each look, with each phone call and with each hug, this light intensifies and illuminates what was previously taken by darkness, filling the space so absolutely that it spills over, surpasses all possible limits. By chance, it will light up everything around, but its only objective is to reach the loved one, enveloping them with the most beautiful emotion that a human being can be taken by“.

if love is so beautiful, or at least it is beautiful most of the time, why not talk about it?

The text above is an example of content that could be used in a love letter. But because it is so far from reality today, the habit of writing this type of statement, at first glance, can be seen as tiresome and exaggerated. Some may complain about the lack of time, others about the shame of showing love with such courtesy… And there are still those who simply cannot understand, organize and put on paper everything they feel for the other.

But if love is so beautiful, or at least it is beautiful most of the time, why not talk about it? Why not give it to the other in the form of words, written in your own handwriting? Psychotherapist Celia Lima, energy therapist Ceci Akamatsu and writer and tarologist Leo Chioda explain in detail what this practice means, give tips for writing a letter and talk about all the meanings of writing or receiving a love letter .

Love letter is symbol of romanticism

According to psychotherapist Celia Lima, the love letter symbolizes the desire to be close to the loved one, living the feeling and fully realizing it.

“This letter is crowned with romanticism. In it, feelings are talked about, about longing, the important moments of the relationship are remembered and plans and desires are revealed”, says the specialist.

According to Celia, in an attempt to write, people not only materialize their own feelings, but reflect on their nature. “Many people love self-love and end up just transferring the desire to love someone else. When writing calmly and reflectively, one may find that what one feels for the other half really doesn’t match all the intensity that was put on paper. Or the opposite may occur: in the process of choosing the words, the awareness may arise that the feeling is much greater than previously thought. One of the positive points of this type of writing is that a letter can be polished before being sent”, explains Celia.

Who writes manifests desires and afflictions

Energy therapist Ceci Akamatsu believes that it’s not just about writing a love letter. The influences it can exert on the person who makes it, on the love relationship and also on the person receiving it are very significant. “I often say that words are like “trolleys”, which carry the emotions and thoughts of those who pronounce or write them. Therefore, letters, e-mails or even everything we say and write carry the energy of our emotional and mental impressions, which reach the other”, says therapist Ceci Akamatsu.

For the writer and tarologist Leo Chioda, speech, like writing, is a form of power. All of these practices are actually manifestations of one’s desires, wants and fears. “A declaration of love influences a relationship to the extent that the purest honesty is employed. It’s not just the tricks present throughout the romance prose that enchant the loved one, but, above all, the clarity of intentions and the strength with which they are placed. The firmer the person takes a stand, sure about what they feel and how much they want the other, the greater the chance of convincing them”, evaluates the specialist.

The firmer the person takes a stand, sure about what they feel and how much they want the other, the greater the chance of convincing them.

According to Celia Lima, despite the impact of love letters being quite strong in the relationship, attention is needed to the frequency with which the couple communicates through writing.

“A love letter between couples can be the icing on the cake. Letters do not dispense with dialogues or live declarations of love, but they are a way of being present, even in physical absence. Between couples, letters can be shorter, more objective, without ceasing to be romantic. They perpetuate the loving climate in the relationship, as long as they are not a constant: daily letters to those who already live together denotes some difficulty in expressing love, whether through attitudes or words”, warns the psychotherapist.

Preparing to write is essential

Before writing a letter to your significant other, preparation is key and can even make the person aware of how they feel.

Ceci recommends that you close your eyes and relax, however quickly, so that the quieter, calmer feelings can be brought to the fore. “It is not very constructive to write something to send to the other person if the person writing the letter is in the throes of anger, irritation, sadness or any other negative feeling. It is positive to write to vent, but I recommend that this text be saved and reread. When we have balanced emotions, facing less aggressive or defensive attitudes, we can use that outburst content to understand how our wounds and emotional pain are manifested. This gives us clues on how to cure them”, teaches Ceci.

Leo Chioda also warns about the need to know and understand one’s feelings when writing a love letter. “First of all, there must be sincerity. Nothing can work out or achieve the desired results if there is no clarity and transparency in the face of feelings. The person has to recognize that he loves or desires the other, and then dedicates himself to the art of conquest. Doubts create impasses, which, in turn, lead to disappointment and even hatred. The deeper the clarification in relation to the affection itself, the clearer the circumstances that make up the entire construction of the letter will be”, guides the specialist.

On the other hand, writing can also be free, flowing according to the intuition of the writer, according to Celia. “One should write the way emotions arise, even if it seems a little messy or cluttered. Whoever writes, reads and rereads what he has produced and can take advantage of it to organize and better develop his thinking. This is the moment to reflect, change one word or another, perceive and rescue the romanticism in oneself and evaluate how much one can be kinder or less sentimental, for example. This exercise is a good way to get to know and evaluate yourself better”, says the therapist.

Examples of sentences for a love letter

Some love affirmations are quite symbolic and are often used in love letters. Leo Chioda gives some examples of which ones can be used or avoided, relating them to their meanings.

According to the writer, phrases like “I never loved anyone the way I love you” are very strong, if taken literally. In addition to denoting an exclusive feeling, they end up placing the person in question in a much higher position than those of all others who have already passed through the life of those who want to conquer them. It is convenient to be careful not to have too much melodrama or sensitivity. Saying “I’m nobody without you” or “I love you more than anyone will ever love” are examples of exaggerated despair or anxiety. It is favorable to opt for something lighter and still vehement, such as “The love I feel for you makes me stronger” or “Your existence gives increasingly stronger meanings and reasons for me to remain firm by your side“. Leo Chioda also teaches that messages in which the person affirms himself next to the other are a good request, because in addition to not being charged, the words give meaning, meaning and strength to love.

Delivery of the letter must be done with creativity

The delivery of a love letter is also a decisive moment, about which Celia Lima provides some tips. According to her, the surprise delivery makes love letters even more special, and can vary in different ways. “Surprising your loved one is always better than being obvious or predictable. This letter can be left in a jacket pocket, in the woman’s purse, under the saucer at breakfast or on the pillow, for example. It can come along with flowers, tied to a toothbrush or even attached to the bathroom mirror. The importance lies in rekindling feelings when you least expect it, always strengthening the bonds of affection”, teaches the psychotherapist.

Ceci Akamatsu, on the other hand, suggests that giving the letter should be done in a very personal way. “The delivery of a love letter must be done with the maximum of authenticity and creativity, so that the loved one realizes that he is receiving a part of ourselves”, reflects the energetic therapist.

For those who receive a letter, the idea is not to keep it indefinitely, nor to throw it away immediately. The need for renewal is important, which indicates that the person must discard the letter he received after a certain period.

Ceci Akamatsu gives the tip on what to do. “I like the idea of ​​receiving a love letter, keeping it for a while and then discarding it or even burning it. Burning refers to the tradition of transmutation, symbolizing detachment and the freedom to let things come and go. The most important thing is not the letter itself, but what it brings us. And as everything in life is fleeting, it’s healthy to let go of that letter so that new ones can come, renewing your energies, without “getting in the way”. Thus, we can keep the good memories and open physical, emotional, mental and spiritual spaces so that new memories continue to be created, at every moment”, concludes the therapist.