How To Tell If a Relationship Is Going Too Fast |

You were interested in each other, talked, touched each other and, instantly, the feeling was born. Does this rhythm scare you? Have you ever had such an accelerated experience or have you ever had a bad experience when everything is too fast? But what changes does this dynamism cause in the way we relate? Is it good and can it work? How do you know if a relationship is going too fast?

Yes, we are experiencing speed, dynamism and contact via the internet, which enhances changeover time in any kind of relationship – and the loving one would not escape unscathed.

Let’s discuss and reflect together on these questions below.

Are we going too fast?

It all depends on the level of interest that the couples have in entering into a relationship.

It also depends on the willingness of both to live a great passion, the kind that change routine quickly, and to fit the couple into your life from one hour to the next.

Have you thought about the essential elements for a relationship to hitch quickly?

In many cases, we find one of the partners with more emotional intensity to experience a relationship of great commitment at a more frenetic pace, without going through the steps that we see happening in other relationships.

While we also find people who demand a little more time to immerse themselves in a loving relationship and actually give themselves affectionately.

Is there a right time to surrender?

Is there a general rule that delimits the “right” time to say “I love you”? And to live under the same roof? For sex?

Of course, even trying to find an average by putting together the experiences of several couples, the answer has to make sense to those involved, and not to people outside the relationship.

One of the points to understand well about the dynamism of relationships is if this time is enough for bothwhether it is convenient for both sides to have a short period to get involved in the relationship and give priority to it.

When the relationship is being very invasive for one of the parties, that is, it is going beyond the limits of what is desired for someone, there needs to be a dialogue between the two to discover the common point (if it exists) between the two involved.

The question of time has to do with the couple’s interest and also with the delivery that both want to live. So, there is no greater rule that must be respected. What needs to be respected is the individuality of each one in the search for harmony between the two.

What starts fast can end fast

People who have great passions tend to start them as quickly as they end them.

Therefore, it is necessary to be aware of this behavior if there is an interest in living a great love.

Find a possibility to build a bridge so that this relationship has not only the intensity of the moment, but a durability built by both parties can be interesting.

I’ve already assisted a person who constantly, when meeting someone, was already in a honeymoon mood. Without her noticing this pattern, she always ended up in disgust. Her partners felt somehow “sucked in”, “too absorbed” by the relationship and could not bear to keep it for more than 3 months.

This analysand ended up discovering what undermined her relationships – a emotional neediness very big and through her, he sought to fill his life with the life of his partner. With that, everyone, simply everyone, somehow ran away from it, disappearing or inventing some reason, even a betrayal, to get away.

In cases of people who can only live in intense relationships, but who cannot keep them for a long time and, moreover, are bothered by this pattern in their relationships, it is essential get to know each other and if you work on analysis to find out how to better deal with your feelings.

There’s no rules

I reaffirm that there is no general rule for knowing whether a relationship will go right or wrong, because every relationship works out while it exists, in some way.

But still, it’s very important to discover yourself to learn to better respect your limits, as well as the limits of those who want to create affective bonds of love and tranquility.

Today, the intensity is increasingly romanticizedbut it is good not to confuse the affective impulses with those of aggressiveness, expressed through crises of jealousy and possessiveness.

It is always good to remember that in order to relate to someone it can be good to know their life story and their interests, so that suffering is not created through so many expectations about that person who is not a prince or princess of an enchanted world.

If you are a person who only manages to experience great passions, but you cannot sustain relationships based on love or you are not able to understand why your relationships are always very intense and, at the same time, complicated, in addition to the fact that in some cases they end in a lot of pain, seek professional help.