How to survive the pit of despair

When depression takes over our lives we sink into a pit in which it is difficult to see the light.

In the well of despair live loneliness, isolation, fear, frustration and pain. It is the last stop before reaching the station of suicidal thinking, where the train of the mind can sometimes lead.

Inside the well, nothing matters. There is no place for others: friends or enemies. You, with your fears and insecurities, have been delving little by little into its depths. Your mind doesn’t see a way out, it finds in that dark place the only solution to its problems.

How does a person immersed in the pit of despair behave?

Those who find themselves in this situation do not allow people to help them. No matter how much the people around them try to console them, they resist it. They believe that they are a burden to others or that they cannot do anything to help them.

They feel as if they have crossed the line of salvation or help. They may even look at their loved ones and give them a fake or shy smile to prevent them from worrying. They are completely stunned, shocked, and confused.

The well does not allow any beam of light to enter. It is the place where the person finds themselves, apparently, in the most absolute nothingness. Failure and disappointment have taken him to the depths and brought him face to face with depression. His reasoning abilities are impaired, he becomes inflexible, he finds himself blinded.

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How to get out of the pit of despair?

Acceptance

First of all, accept your negative emotions. Look them in the face, welcome them and listen to their message. They are there for a reason. They are showing you the wounds that you never healed, they are shouting at you the needs that you never heard. They are the last resource within you to force you to take care of yourself, to love yourself, to prioritize yourself.

If the pain is strong now it is because when it was weak it received no response.. Take care of it. Face all the painful experiences you have experienced. Abandonment, rejection, shame, guilt. They are part of your history and it is necessary to integrate them and give them their rightful place.

It is necessary to understand that the pain is not you, it is a temporary and passing situation.. Remember that it will end, that there is a way out if you decide to cross the path. That at the end of it you will find yourself.

Change mental habits

Start loving yourself above all things. Surely you have been forgetting about yourself for years, leaving yourself in last place. You are the most important person in your life and the one who needs you the most. Make the decision to start taking care of your body and mind. Nourish yourself every day with positive thoughts and force yourself to be grateful for what you do have.

Gratitude brings abundance and the habit of thinking positively brings us closer to looking at life with another perspective. Surely you won’t find reasons now, but look for them. Get your brain used to looking for possibilities and not problems. The thought pattern is a habit, it can be modified with constant work.

Seek help

Ask for help. To your closest ones and qualified professionals. Doing so does not make you a weak person but rather a brave one. You don’t have to be perfect or have the answers to everything, lean on those around you and allow yourself to receive the support and resources you need.

Do not underestimate the healing power of people, of friendship, of human contact. Having a social support network protects us from stress and helps us cope with pain. Surround yourself with people you feel good with and be open to sharing with them. Isolation is the worst enemy when our interior screams for help.