How to stop being shy and quiet: 12 steps to overcome shyness –

Shyness is a characteristic that nullifies the freedom of many people. Yes, that’s right, unfortunately intellectually talented and even good-looking people are limited from emerging the way they want due to the fear of speaking in front of others.

Are you tired of being the quiet one in the group? Would you like to stand in front of everyone and give an excellent presentation in class? Do you long for conversations with that person you like and that you observe daily with fear, and who you want to meet?

Learn how to overcome shyness and be quiet all the time at social events:

1. Increase your confidence

Everything is in the mind, the good you think of yourself, and also the negative remains in your mind and expands to the outside of you.

So if you change the way you perceive your inner reality, you will be opening the doors to being a much more confident person and others will notice.

Believe in yourself, and when shyness tries to make a scene, control it by remembering all those moments in which you have been in charge of an uncomfortable situation and have come out well.

Find purpose in what you do, in every achievement, and this will help make you less vulnerable to fear.

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2. Visualize yourself daily

Find a comfortable place, where no one will bother you and you can have enough silence to meditate.

If you can, get a mirror and put it in front of you. Think about that moment that you have to face with other people, and from which you cannot escape (an exhibition, job interview, thesis defense) and give your presentation in your mind.

Even rehearse it in front of the mirror. You will see that there is no fear, stuttering, paleness, sweating, or anything that generally makes you uncomfortable in real life.

If you practice a little in front of the mirror every day and reinforce it with meditation, you will be able to greatly control the nervousness you suffer from.

3. You are a winner!

Neurolinguistic programming helps build self-confidence.

When a person understands that most of the daily speech he directs at himself is negative (I can’t, I won’t make it, I’m not good for this, I’m going to be scared) and changes each aggressive phrase for words that motivate him to recognize his skills, you are one step closer to freeing yourself from shyness.

Instead of saying you won’t be able to, use this phrase: “I am a winner! I can speak in public, and I do it very well!

Say it confidently, out loud, and your brain will take it as an order that it must follow.

4. Imitate your interlocutor

Imitating the postures of the person or people who are speaking to you makes you become a reflection of themselves and that generates trust and security in you, and in the other.

Imitate not only the posture, but the tone of voice, and use some phrases from the other’s speech among your answers.

This will make it easier for you to remain calm, and respond firmly to others. This strategy has been used by orators and great lecturers to make their speeches credible and keep their audience always attentive.

5. Force yourself into uncomfortable situations

If you don’t face your fears, they will haunt you and haunt you forever. If instead of sneaking out of every situation in which you are allowed to speak, you face it; You can learn to handle yourself better and better.

Just as you conditioned your fears, you can unlearn these behaviors by forcing yourself to stay in uncomfortable situations.

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6. Start a conversation

This is the litmus test for the vast majority of shy people. The act of starting conversations with strangers and even with people from the same work environment can be quite an odyssey.

Try to start a simple conversation with someone you like, maybe you can start by complimenting the way they are dressed, or about the book you saw on their desk.

This will make the other person respond to you and you have started a conversation effortlessly. It’s not that difficult, is it?

7. Know yourself

This phrase is famous among philosophers because it is totally true. You must discover where your fear of people came from. Maybe you had a very bad experience as a child and you internalized it so much that you completely believed it.

If you can evoke your memory, you are on the right path to confronting your fear. But if you have no idea when your shyness arose, it wouldn’t hurt to see a psychologist to explore where your false limiting beliefs come from.

8. If you believe it, others will believe it

If you think your speech is good, others will perceive it this way. So even if you doubt the totality of certain parts of your speech, try to pretend that you are on the right track.

In fact, this is a very effective way to overcome shyness is to study theater. You will learn to characterize others and discover the impact of expressions and voice on the psyche of others. Try it!

9. Surround yourself with people with good speaking skills

Good things are transmitted! If you surround yourself with friends with good skills in conversing and influencing others, you will learn from their attitudes and little by little (without falling into imitations) you will become like them.

10. Change comes from within

Do you want to improve yourself? If the answer is a resounding yes, you must be firm, since change is an option that comes from within each person.

If you start out strong, and at the slightest slight you retreat and hide from people, you haven’t made any real progress.

Work steadily until you reach the goal.

11. Don’t confuse

Don’t confuse every quiet person with a shy person. Some love silence because it is part of their nature, and they only make their opinions known when it is totally necessary.

They are simply reserved. Suddenly you belong to this category and not to that of shy people.

If you have the initiative to participate in classes and socialize, you are not shy, just somewhat introverted and relaxed.

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12. Don’t worry about the opinions of others

You cannot assume that every murmur or giggle is due to a mockery against you.

If you have thought this way, you have surely lost the opportunity to stand out more because of your own prejudices.

Express yourself without giving so much importance to the opinions of others. Living thinking that you are judged permanently attacks your self-esteem.

The information that I presented to you is not a guide to cure your fears, it is just some simple steps so that you can identify them and learn to manage them.

This way you can be more aware of how other people perceive you and what your behavior is in public. It is up to you to slowly improve or completely change the notion you have of yourself and that you have projected.

Finally, I can advise you that, as far as possible, you create “an ego library”, this is nothing more than a billboard with positive affirmations and photos of your achievements.

You can also design it based on photos of successful people accompanied by phrases like: “That’s who I am!”, “I’m confident!”, “I’m confident and optimistic!”

If you put each of these strategies into practice, there will come a time when you will not remember that you were afraid in the past.

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