How to start a conversation with a woman via chat –

It is perfectly understandable that today there is a lot of concern about how we can assertively start an online conversation with a girl.

We are surrounded by dating sites on the internet and there are even many applications like Tinder that we can have in the comfort of our mobile phone.

A few years ago, it was essential to have social skills to get closer physically and face to face (and that was much more difficult). So you can consider yourself lucky, because today you can meet your ideal girl on one of these platforms that hook you with love.

Today it is the most normal thing in the world. What’s more, it’s now rare for couples to meet in “real life.”

Instead of wondering how you met, when you arrive with your future girlfriend at the next family gathering, the question will most likely be “what social network or dating site did you meet on?”

There are millions of attractive, single women who are looking for a partner on these sites. The equation is simple and you can corroborate it on any population statistics site: there are more women than men in the world. That gives us an advantage, right?

Surely you are the knight in shining armor of one of them. And it could be just a click away. But of course, your only letter of introduction, what will define whether she follows you or “blocks” you, is the way you start a conversation with her. And you don’t want to ruin it, right?

The only problem is that most of these women have requests from a lot of guys, and therefore they can afford to reject all those who make the slightest mistake in their initial approaches.

The competition never stops and while you rest on your laurels, someone else could already be finding a way to approach it in a very original and attractive way.

Therefore, it is very important that you get started now and learn to differentiate yourself from others so that you can get the greatest number of appointments possible.

Saying the same things as everyone else and expecting her to respond by begging to go out with you doesn’t work. The competition is simply too high.

Do you know how many messages a decently pretty girl receives per day on Tinder or a similar app? Well, they can receive dozens of messages every day. And the reality is that there comes a point, and it comes quickly, when they get bored and only answer the most striking ones.

The girl you want to write to probably already has a dozen new messages in her inbox that she hasn’t even bothered to open (you’re definitely not the only one who wants to date her).

But with the tricks that I am going to give you below, you can be sure that you will get their attention in a positive way.

1.- The perfect presentation

How do you start a conversation online? Normally, you first have to go through the entire process of registering in the application, creating a profile, uploading a photo where you look great, and writing one or another interesting thing about yourself. We’ll assume you already did all that.

Whats Next? You look for a girl that catches your attention from among the hundreds of available profiles and you write to her. Telling her exactly the right things is very important, but there is another small detail, one that she will take into account even before reading the entirety of your message. And that’s the theme of it.

The first thing a woman sees when she receives a message is the title line of the message. Overlooking the importance of these first words can represent a serious mistake.

Let’s be honest, you can be more creative than all the other guys who write a boring and unmotivating “hello” “hello beautiful” or “what’s up”. No… forget about it, seriously.

Unless you’re Brad Pitt’s twin in your photo it’s not going to work. What’s more, they may not even open your message.

I’m going to give you some examples of lines to put in the title of your messages that work much better. Some are a bit ridiculous, but at least they will get your attention beyond a simple “hello”:

1) 10 Reasons why you should open this message

2) Do you like sushi? If the answer is yes, we have something in common.

3) In addition to being beautiful, will you be curious enough to open this message?

2.- Forget about standard messages

What do most men write to girls in the first messages they send them?

In fact, many of them use the same generic message for all of them. And believe me, it shows. Those types of messages tend to look a lot like this:

Hello! How are you? You are very pretty and I just wanted to stop by and say hello.

To be honest, it’s the same thing your less intelligent neighbor might say to you. In fact, it is something that is going to demotivate her a lot.

“One more of those” is what they will surely think when they open your message. He’s heard it a million times. No, it’s not the best way to start making sure he eventually dates you.

Do yourself a favor and forget about the standard message altogether. If you don’t personalize the message you send her even a little, she will instantly realize that you are sending the same thing to ten other girls and she won’t feel special or intrigued.

Take as much time as you need to find the perfect first line. For example:

“Did you know that koalas are super aggressive? That’s why I’m not going to propose that we go hug koalas on our first date. But don’t go so fast! What do you like to do other than look cool?”

3.- Give him a personalized compliment

Now that you know you definitely shouldn’t send the same message to everyone, maybe it’s time to find out what you can write to them to make their heart skip a beat.

Giving a girl an honest and respectful compliment is a fantastic thing but also, believe it or not, it is something they are not used to. Make them feel that way and they won’t forget you. But for that you have to be creative.

A girl you approach on the street and tell her directly that she is beautiful may be flattered, but she will most likely run away.

In real life and online you have to know how to approach it in a way that doesn’t make you invasive and scare us. There are many men with bad intentions and they know it.

Therefore, first try something that has nothing to do with your physique. Covering the issue by telling them that their profile is very interesting or that they seem different from the others will be something quite new for them and will create a different connection immediately.

Women, even if they are actively looking for a partner online, are not going to pay attention to standard compliments. They want something different because they want to be sure that you are not the same as everyone. Otherwise they would hook up at the corner bar.

Take a good look at her photo and carefully analyze her profile so you can say something that she knows you wouldn’t say to another girl. If she has a particularly cute smile, tell her.

Or if you have read her favorite book according to her profile, surprise her with a quote from it. Seek to generate a connection beyond simply saying empty compliments. Make her feel special once and you can be sure she’ll come back for more.

4.- Use all the information she gives you

There is nothing more demotivating for a woman than starting to talk to a guy who only talks about himself. He’s the typical guy who insists on telling them how beautiful they are and trying to get them on a date, but she never bothers to ask what they like, what they do, or what their interests are.

Furthermore, if you don’t start getting relevant information about her, very soon you will reach the sterile terrain of not having anything interesting to say to her and having nothing to emotionally connect with her.

Use the fact that she will be flattered if you show genuine interest in her to your advantage. Don’t ask her where she lives or things that might scare her. Ask her if she likes to read, the music she listens to, what she does, what she would like to do, etc. Things that really help you get to know her well.

If, for example, she tells you that she has just traveled to a strange country, you can tell her that you think she is a very bold girl because many people would not dare to do that alone. And that you would love to know more about her journey.

5.- Give a real reason to answer

You’ve already made it clear that you’re not just attracted to her because she’s pretty, but also because you think she’s an interesting person. But how could you verify that you are truly interested?

You have to find a way to link the characteristics you already told her you like about her to something about yourself. Show her that you have many points in common to awaken real expectations in her.

Following the same example of traveling, don’t just tell him that you think he’s very brave, attack him with a tricky anecdote from your last vacation so he knows that you are also an adventurous traveler and, who knows, maybe he’ll start fantasizing in his head about go on a trip with you.

That is exactly what will give you a reason to answer. And not just answer with monosyllables. If not with questions that show you that you have already generated interest and now she wants to know more. Lastly, don’t jump right into an invitation. She continues with that dynamic, generates complicity, lets a few days pass and then yes, ask her out.

You can be sure that they will not reject you.

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