How to find love? |

“How to find love?” this is one of the issues most addressed by women in the therapeutic sessions I perform.

Because they believe they are open and prepared to relate, some people don’t understand why they only attract men who are committed, problematic, or who don’t give them due value.

Within the therapeutic vision that I follow, I believe that everything that happens in our lives results from the quality of our physical, emotional, mental and spiritual energies.

Even if on a physical level there is nothing that justifies us attracting disharmonious relationships – that is, we can be beautiful and well resolved, we do everything “right” and we hear that we are “a woman to marry” – even so, the experience of loneliness or frustrated relationships it shows us that something in ourselves is out of harmony.

One of the energies that get out of balance without us realizing it is our feminine energy of sensuality and involvement.

Historically, women carry memories of involvement as submission and dependence on the male, in the sense that their identity and fullness are conditioned to the existence of a partner and the family that he must provide and provide for us. Feminine sensuality is generally associated with sexuality and is seen as something vulgar, dirty and reprehensible.

Although rationally we know and agree that it doesn’t have to be like this, our unconscious memories (our way of experiencing the feminine, passed down by our mothers, grandmothers, great-grandmothers, and the way these memories collectively remain impregnated in our society and the way we everything works) are still present in our energetic set, that is, our physical, emotional, mental and spiritual bodies, and it is with them that we interact with the world and with our partners.

I need a love to be happy. It will be?

The very pain of not having a partner already shows an imbalance. This pain is closely linked to the belief that only with a better half will we be complete.

But it’s important to note that this pain actually has nothing to do with wanting to have a partner. For will and want do not generate pain, but openness to live experiences without attachment to results.

However, most women cannot perceive this difference and refuse to give up the belief that we will only be complete if there is a partner, thus opting for the pattern of negative relationships.

Of course, it’s healthy to want to be in a relationship and share your life with someone else. However, if we cannot imagine ourselves happy in any other way, this shows that there are issues to be harmonized within us.

External pressure, whether from family, friends, the professional environment, or any other type, just crush us with the belief in happiness conditioned to an affective partner.

Although we do not suffer direct pressure from the people closest to us, the circumstances themselves, the media and the way the world works are constantly reminding us of this belief, which is still prevalent, making it difficult for those who seek to break with this pattern by choice. , or is challenged to leave it when experiencing affective frustrations.

When we allow ourselves to be carried away by belief, even without being aware of it, we create the energy of need – often almost despair – in our energy pool. Many times we even notice this tendency, but we are so ashamed of feeling it, that we resist and hide this excessive desire even from ourselves.

We may try to behave as if we aren’t even calling our partners, and we get upset and irritated, condemning men as if they are the only irresponsible and uncommitted ones.

We use the saying “men are no good” as an excuse for our unpleasant love experiences, but we keep waiting for some man to show up in our lives to prove us wrong.

We hand the responsibility and commitment for our happiness to the other, and we put ourselves in the comfortable position of waiting for Prince Charming, without doing anything that truly contributes to that happening, but rather acting in a way that, on the contrary, feeds the following energies, that only take us further away from the harmonious relationship:

Dependence – because we are still waiting for the one who will make us happy. Denial – we don’t accept our exaggerated need for a partner. Lack of hope – we begin to doubt that it is possible to be happy in love.

We don’t realize that in this energy of needing a partner we can also act in a manipulative way, usually through the energy of excessive donation or the misuse of sexual and seduction power.

We do everything we can for the partner – we miss every step of the ball, we are understanding, helpful and considerate – not because we truly are, but by using our energy of subtle manipulation.

Even if unconsciously, we think that by pleasing our partner he will strive to reciprocate all our effort at the height. Thus, we judge the partner ungrateful and bad character when he frustrates the expectations and illusions that we ourselves create.

Sexuality in the right measure

Another way of trying to manipulate the partner is to use and abuse the power of seduction and sexuality, which can happen in a very subtle way or in a more physical and visual way.

We have distorted one of the most beautiful feminine energies, and we don’t understand why we couldn’t “arrest” the partner this time.

Realize that we repress our sensuality, behaving like a mother and not a woman. Or, at the other extreme, we exacerbate this energy into distorted sexuality, helping to reinforce the general negative belief that sensuality is vulgar.

In none of these situations described above are we being ourselves. We don’t even believe that we can be ourselves, because since childhood we are conditioned and educated to be what others expect of us, or what others call right and that – consequently – we also come to believe we are the best.

After all, only those who are “nice” will deserve happiness or, on the other hand, only those who know how to be seductive and powerful can capture a partner.

And as long as we don’t open up to the true woman we really are, we will continue to attract relationships that don’t match our truth.

And when there is a lack of involvement?

The creator of the Acquântica vibrational system, Ideny Ianez, points out that a major affective problem for women is the lack of involvement in relationships.

This may seem contradictory at first, when women appear wanting to date and make a commitment, while men apparently resist or run away. We usually hear: “ah, today’s men don’t want to get involved…”.

However, if we take into account all of the above, do women really want to get involved? Or do they want to control situations and have a man who meets their expectations and beliefs, someone who makes them “happy”?

Does the energy of needing someone to be happy match the energy of emotional involvement? Or would it be more of a strangulation vibe and subtle manipulation of the partner?

How about allowing yourself to discover the strength of sensuality and involvement of the true woman you are? To do this, start thinking about:

When you think about letting go of the belief that you need a partner to feel complete, does that make you afraid of being alone? Do you feel incomplete for not having a partner? Are you very unhappy in your relationship, but don’t have the courage to change or end the relationship? Do you think that what your partner does to you is unfair, and do you think that only he is the one who has to change?

If you said yes to any of these questions, try to work better on your feminine energy of involvement. How about starting with small changes in your thoughts and attitudes? Be more attentive to yourself and notice when you are using your feminine energy in a negative way, so that you can then do these small redirections of ideas and actions.

To continue reflecting on the topic “How to find love?”

The distortion of sensuality and involvement energies was one of the reasons that led Ideny to create the Liquid Intimacy kit, from the Acquântica Beauty line.

The vibrational bath kit is a tool that helps us to take care of the awakening and the contact with this woman that exists within us, so that we can abandon these beliefs and behaviors, and thus live truer relationships.

This kit is used only by women and works on the presence in the purity of feminine energy as a woman – men also have a feminine energy within themselves, but it is different from the one worked on by the Liquid Intimacy kit.

If you wish to go even deeper into this care, you can use the Nature Discovery kit, which will help to awaken all the strength and potential of this woman, and/or the Onda de Energia kit, which will help in the care of self-esteem and joy.

To purchase the kits, go to the Acquântica website