Have you dreamed of another man? what it really means

You woke up all sweaty, guilty and confused, because you dreamed of another man and you think…

Is it a sign that you want to cheat on your partner?

Or is your boyfriend not really your soul mate?

Or do you have deep-seated issues in your relationship that you need to resolve?

It is possible that it was a sensual and even erotic dream that awakens all these concerns in your head.

But before putting your relationship under the magnifying glass, here I share several reasons why you might be dreaming of another man.

You will be surprised to learn that many of them are not really related to your relationship!

So without further ado, here are the meanings of dreaming with other men

If you dream that you have sex with another man

Do you want to know if you are subconsciously sexually attracted to the man in your dream?

The truth is that you do not need a dream interpreter to know exactly if you are attracted to another man or not.

Just ask yourself the question:

Do you find this guy sexually attractive?

And be honest.

If the answer is no, then stop worrying!

And even if the answer is yes, as long as you don’t go out and do things with that guy in real life, you don’t have to think too much about it either. It is possible to be attracted to someone who is not your partner, and this does not mean that you no longer love them.

According to the renowned Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Carl Jung, a dream does not necessarily reveal repressed desires.

It can be a kind of reflection of what is happening with your life and your feelings.

So, if you dream that you are cheating, perhaps the only thing you need to decode is the feeling of cheating or betrayal.

How did you feel when you cheated in your dream?

Guilty? Free? anxious?

Look for that feeling in some other bond you have.

Maybe you promised your mother that you would take care of your brother but you don’t want to. Maybe you have a new job and you feel like you already want to quit.

The important thing is not to take dreams literally.

Look for the feeling and assess where that can be applied in your life.

If you dream of a man you admire in real life

Suppose you dreamed that you were on a road trip with your mentor.

You laugh and flirt as the wind blows through your hair like you’re in a Hollywood road movie.

Does this mean that you like him?

That you were suppressing your feelings and they came to light in your subconscious?

Hmm…not really.

Dreaming of someone superior to you like your boss, a teacher or coach, your uncle or your mentor can mean many things.

The most reasonable interpretation is that you idealize this man.

He may have the qualities you want in a guy or yourself and it has touched your subconscious.

Maybe he was a good driver or a charming person, in your dream.

That is probably what you want to be.

This is a great opportunity to evaluate what you want for yourself so that you can grow.

It has nothing to do with the question of whether your boyfriend is really who you should be with.

As long as you can honestly say that your relationship is good (and that you’re not really in love with this man), dreaming of a superior or role model is definitely not because you’re falling for him.

You can make a list of traits that this person had in your dream.

Was it direct and frontal? Funny? Intelligent?

Really think about this, because maybe those are the traits you want to develop.

Our dreams are like maps that can help us improve our lives. Now you can start working on what you want to be.

If you dream of someone you’ve never seen before

If you dreamed of a man you do not know, it does not automatically mean that he is your soul or twin flame and that you have to break up with your current boyfriend in order to find this man.

It may not even exist.

Carl Jung said that if you dream of a stranger of the opposite sex, it usually means that your psyche is connecting with your inner man or inner woman.

In Jung’s theory, the anima constitutes the totality of the unconscious feminine psychological qualities that a man possesses and the animus the masculine qualities that a woman possesses.

You need to recognize and honor your masculine side in order to be a whole person.

Maybe you want to be more determined.

Perhaps you want to embark on more daring adventures and overcome your fears.

Maybe you want to hang out with other men without being looked at as a fragile girl.

This stranger could show you the clues in your dream.

What traits did he display? What was her status?

As a woman, we are expected to walk, talk, and think like a woman.

Maybe deep down inside you want to break free from this mold by being like this stranger in your dream.

Perhaps this stranger is you in male form.

If you dream of a man you trust

If you’re always with your boss, colleague, or office mate, it’s a bit inevitable that they’ll slip into your subconscious, even romantically.

Before you start pushing them away in real life because you’re afraid you really want them on a subconscious level, I repeat, dreams are rarely literal.

Don’t ruin your friendship!

What this probably means is that you are becoming a bit dependent on this man.

Maybe it’s your colleague who helps you a lot or your brother who sends you money.

When you are in a dynamic where you need them more than they need you, you will have a lot of pent up feelings towards this person.

You may feel guilty for “using” them, or you may feel mild anger or annoyance towards them, you may feel indebted.

And maybe you can’t express yourself openly in real life because you just can’t lose them.

If you dream of an ex

Dreaming about an ex is pretty confusing and might be the hardest to figure out on this list.

These dreams can rekindle that loving feeling, especially if you and your ex broke up on good terms.

It can seem so real that it will make you question your current relationship. Or if you’re single it can make you question whether you should get back together with him.

If your relationship with your current partner is still new, dreaming about an ex could mean that your old self is after you.

Since your ex represents the aspect of you that deals with relationships, it could mean that you are worried that you will not be a good girlfriend for your current partner… perhaps you are afraid of repeating the same mistakes.

What is certain is that it could also mean that you have unresolved feelings towards your ex in a romantic or non-romantic way.

There is a chance that your subconscious is trying to come to terms with the past and is finally saying goodbye to that old version of you. That person who was once in love with your ex.

Ask yourself what you were like in your previous relationship. Did you like that version of you? Do you want to be better this time? As?

If you have recurring dreams about the same man

Sure, it could mean that this man is subconsciously trying to connect with you through your dreams because he misses you so much and you feel his vibe.

But the most reasonable explanation is that you have unresolved problems that have become chronic.

Visualize this man again and without thinking too much, try to find the five words that best describe him.

If you know him in real life, think about the scenarios in which you usually meet him.

Again, ask yourself: what do you think it represents?

You need to face this problem or aspect of yourself that you keep running from.

If you’re in a relationship and you can’t say you’re really happy, maybe this man is the clue.

Think: Is there something you’ve been avoiding?

Maybe the man is very playful and fun in your dreams and your current boyfriend is very serious and what you really want is some more fun.

So yes, repeatedly dreaming about the same guy can mean that you have to ask yourself deeper questions about yourself and your relationship.

Once you solve your problems or improve yourself, you will notice that you will not dream of him again.

If you dream of your first love

Dreaming about your childhood sweetheart does not automatically mean that you miss him.

Who you are now is totally different from the innocent girl you once were.

It could mean that in one way or another you miss your youth.

First loves are often very intense, but at the same time pure and simple.

Most likely, your soul longs for that innocence and simplicity that is long gone.

Perhaps there is something going on in your relationship right now that is making it more complicated than you would like. You want it to be as simple as your old love.

But here one thing is clear: it is not a sign that you should get rid of your current boyfriend.

If you dream about your coworkers

You might be surprised if you find yourself dreaming about the people you know from work; maybe it’s your boss or your partner at the desk next to you.

Rest assured that your dreams are probably not trying to tell you that you really want them.

If anything, it means you probably think too much at work.

Some people leave their job at the office. However, others love their work so much that they take it home with them.

And you, on the other hand, care so much about your work that you not only take it home with you, but also take it with you to your dreams.

Seriously, this can mean that you have become so focused on your work that it has taken you away from your relationships, including the one you have with your partner.

It is as if the work has become a third person that gets into the relationship with your boyfriend. And the best thing your unconscious mind can do to make you understand this is to choose a colleague of yours at random.

You probably want to get your priorities back in order.

On the other hand, it could also mean that there is something important at work that you have been putting off.

You should work on it soon if you don’t want problems.

So check your organizers and notes to make sure you’re not forgetting anything important…and then tackle work-life balance right after!

If you dream of yourself as a man

The first time you see him, you may not immediately realize who that man is.

But with every dream he appears in, you can’t help but feel this strange sense of familiarity in his ways and appearance.

You look too much alike.

It’s almost like you’re the same person. So, boom! You are the same person, you have been dreaming of meeting a male version of yourself.

You may even feel horrified and deny it when you first realize it. Even worse if you have been attracted to “him” in your dreams.

But let’s say you get over the initial shock. What does it mean to keep dreaming of yourself as a man?

The simplest explanation is that you are a bit more masculine than you think or have been forcing yourself to behave.

It could be anything from being a little bolder than the average girl, to being an intimidating woman, to being dominated by your masculine side. Think about it a bit.

Regardless of what you learn about yourself, the most important thing is…