What is the hero instinct and how can it help you in your relationship?

The hero instinct is an increasingly popular concept in relationship psychology.

But what exactly does the hero instinct mean?

And most importantly, can it help you with your relationship? Does it hold the key to better understanding men and what drives them?

In this article, I’m going to tell you everything you need to know about the hero instinct.

I will reveal to you:

What really is the hero instinct? Exactly why men need to feel like heroes. 5 Easy Ways To Activate The Hero Instinct In Your Man

Read on if you want to improve your existing relationship. Or if a new man appears, be armed with the right knowledge.

Let us begin!

What is the hero instinct?

The idea behind the hero instinct is the following:

Men want to be heroes in their everyday lives. Especially, in the eyes of the woman they are in a relationship with, or are attracted to.

This urge isn’t some silly desire born from watching too many Hollywood movies. Men want to be YOUR hero. Not an action hero.

The hero instinct is supported by a growing body of scientific and psychological research.

These say that men are biologically motivated to protect and defend the woman they love, displaying traits of strength, courage, and dominance.

Protecting women is embedded in the male DNA, both in the past and today.

While society may have changed, the biological makeup of men has not.

The hero’s instinct may not play out as dramatically as it did when we were hunters and gatherers. However, it is shown in his daily actions.

A man can help you cross a busy street, verbally defend yourself in a heated argument with another person, or try to solve a problem in your life. Or he’ll just put his arm around you, when you’re feeling vulnerable.

In essence, men need to feel loved and respected by their female partner.

They need to feel that they are providing something essential, instead of always being treated as a “best friend” or a “confidant”.

Men are more likely to be in long-term romantic relationships if their hero instincts kick in.

Where does the hero instinct come from?

James Bauer coined the term “hero’s instinct” in his popular relationship guide, “His Secret Obsession.” He is a widely acclaimed psychologist and relationship expert.

The downloadable PDF and audiobook in English teaches women the secrets of how to get inside a man’s head by harnessing his full masculinity.

James claims that men are guided by three main psychological drives:

Provide those who love Live meaningful lives and be appreciated for their efforts. Earn the respect of those around you

You probably already know through your own experiences with men that these three impulses are true.

Your guy may not feel the need to be a hero to the masses. But he sure wants to be a hero to you.

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It is not much different from hunger, which drives you to eat or drink.

And the best part?

The hero instinct is something a woman can really unleash. This advantage will set your relationship up for lasting success.

For over a decade, James Bauer has been helping many people resolve and settle their romantic relationships. His experience as a relationship therapist, as well as his considerable research on the psychology of relationships, have provided him with unique insight. This makes him make relationships work in the real world.

What else do you need to know about the hero instinct?

All men are fundamentally driven by the hero instinct.

Understanding this will forever change the way you approach your romantic relationships.

To reinforce what I mentioned above. Men are less likely to fall in love and stay in a long-term relationship if the hero instinct hasn’t been activated in them.

Allowing your guy to take the reins from time to time will trigger something deep within him. This will make you feel more empowered.

Don’t get me wrong, no doubt your guy loves your strength and your ability to be independent. But he still wants to feel loved and useful. Not expendable!

If you’re currently with a guy you want a future with or are hoping to be with a guy you want to have one with, is it worth it to remain unconditionally self-sufficient and lose the relationship with him?

The answer is obviously no.

And for the record, you don’t have to transform into something you’re not.

No consistent man would want you to do that. He’s going to love you for who you really are.

You don’t have to dilute your strength or independence in any way. You just have to let your guy take the helm once in a while.

True, women probably don’t need a hero…

But that doesn’t eradicate the fact that your guy wants to be a hero to you! Whether you think you need it or not.

In this era of radical feminism and political correctness, gender stereotypes are not only considered discriminatory, but also considered passé.

But no matter how awake the world becomes.

We are incapable of annihilating thousands of years of biological information.

The truth is that gender differences exist.

Whether the social justice warriors agree or not.

Men develop naturally, when they are allowed to step up, for the woman in their life.

But when it is taken away, they are made to feel that they are not essential. As a consequence, they will lose interest in the relationship they are in.

Even in 2021, men want to sexually satisfy women. They want to keep and protect them. And they want to feel wanted, needed, and appreciated for doing so.

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When you narrow it down to the male perspective, the hero instinct makes a lot of sense. He just wants to be there for you. And you have to allow it. In this way everyone will benefit.

It is possible that today your man no longer needs to protect you from being eaten by a bear or a tribe of cannibals.

However, there are still ways to activate the hero instinct in a modern man. Next we will show you some of the best alternatives.

5 Easy Ways To Make Your Man Feel Like A Hero

Do you want to activate the hero instinct in your man starting today?

Here are five very easy ways you can do it:

1) Ask for their help

Have you ever wanted a guy to just listen to your problems and instead decided to give you a real solution? Frustrating I know!

That’s because men feel fulfilled by solving women’s problems.

It makes them feel useful and yes, it makes them feel like a real man.

Today, many women hate asking the men in their lives for help. They don’t like to be seen as needy, incompetent, or dependent.

But what women don’t understand is that men want to help them overcome their problems.

They feel that they fulfill their mission with this type of thing.

Whether it’s asking your opinion on a personal matter, seeking your advice on a financial matter, or sending you on an errand.

They love being able to do these things for you.

Asking your guy for help from time to time will show him that you trust him.

It will show him that you still need him in your life. This is a surefire way to activate your hero instinct and bring you closer together as a couple.

2) Support their interests

Men need space.

The hero instinct is not always about women and their desires.

This means that you should give him time to hang out with his friends.

Time to be alone and time for your hobbies and personal interests.

Being on top of him all the time and bombarding him with numerous texts or calls won’t make him feel like a hero. It will only scare him away.

Give your boy space.

Trust him and allow him to have his own identity and life apart from you. And like a magnet, you will end up drawing him even closer, because this will also make him miss you. Remember that being with his friends is not the same as being in your arms.

3) Verbally express your gratitude

Men are not mind readers, although women would like them to be.

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If your guy does serious things for you, don’t assume he knows how grateful you are.

Be sure to verbally express your appreciation.

Receiving gratitude from your romantic partner is like receiving a reward itself.

Men need to feel recognized and know that they are not taken for granted. The more you verbalize your appreciation for him, the more he will want to be with you.

4) Don’t infantilize your man in public (or in private either…)

Nobody wants to be treated like a child by their romantic partner in public or in private, because it is humiliating.

Also, men want to be respected by those around them.

This is not helped when you put them down or scold them in front of others.

Support your guy when he’s surrounded by his friends and colleagues.

Make him proud to have a girl like you by his side.

The people around him will notice how happy he is when he is with you and will undoubtedly want to be in constant contact with him.

If your presence helps him shine in front of his family and friends, it will greatly activate his hero instinct and benefit both of you in the long run.

5) Compliment him

Women love compliments. Just look at social media like Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook.

However, women often forget that men also enjoy receiving compliments.

Unfortunately, men do not express their need for external validation from women.

And what can be worse is that when they try to address the issue, what they really mean is misunderstood or lost.

Complimenting your guy on his looks, style, body, strength, success, kindness, or sexual prowess will make him feel powerful and wanted.

Everyone wants to feel desired and men are often not left out of this.

Don’t feel embarrassed to compliment him.

A little pat to the ego of the person you love is never a bad thing.

Give that hero instinct a big activation.

Everything you need to know about the hero instinct and how to activate it in your man is explained in detail in the English program, “His Secret Obsession”. Created by James Bauer to help women create that deep, connected bond with their special man.

If you want to go the fast way and learn to be an expert in awakening your partner’s sighs, I recommend that you take a look at her free video in English.