Emotional verbs: how can they help us?

Emotional verbs contain our affections, fears, feelings and needs. Using them appropriately they can change our personal reality, helping us, for example, to reduce anxiety and improving the quality of our relationships. Thus, within the keys to correct emotional communication, the good use of these elements is basic and essential.

“ IM feeling exhausted because of the situation I live in at work, I feel like I’m giving everything I can, but what I do is not recognized.” “Being with you makes me Happy, I feel that with you things are always easy and life is more exciting.” We could give a thousand examples of how to use those terms in our language that express states of mind, as well as emotions and feelings.

However, there are several interesting details about them. There are those who do not use them, who avoid stepping into the world of emotions in their communications.. Others, for their part, misuse them by using them to harm, to violate the emotions of others.

Language, as we well know, has power, it is the most significant and valuable channel we have to promote our connections or to generate distances. Let’s delve a little deeper into this topic.

Emotional verbs as regulators of behavior and well-being

Much of our development as people is nourished by language. We see this clearly in children and how a good communication style, in which affection, recognition and appreciation are not lacking, gives them security, good self-esteem and even their ease when communicating.

Thus, An aspect that we often neglect is the great potential of early verbalization of emotions.. Bringing them from the age of three and four to that universe where affections and moods can be printed in words will help them in an exceptional way to mature on all or almost all levels.

So, phrases like “I am angry because”, “I feel scared when”, “I am happy because”, “I worry about this and that” They act as authentic integrative processes. That is, your thoughts, emotions and communication are in balance, in tune, and all of this favors the regulation of behavior.

In this way, the child who at 5 years old can already say out loud what he wants, what frustrates him or bothers him, can avoid (or reduce) the appearance of tantrums or many of those behaviors that are out of place.

What’s more, experts in child development, such as psychiatrist Daniel Stern, point out that Nothing is as important as emotional language in the education of the little ones.

This determines, whether we like it or not, the adult of tomorrow, the one who will be able to recognize their internal states and transmit them in words or simply proceed to block and maladaptive behavior.

An example of the latter could be frequent anger, attacks of anger or those states of anxiety or depression where there is no management of emotions.

Emotions and behaviors, what neuroscience says

The good use of “emotional verbs” not only improves our relationshipsFurthermore, it can change our behavior. How? Promoting self-confidence, reducing aggressive behaviors, helping us to integrate better in any context.

Studies as interesting as those of Dr. Jeanine Vivona show us that Good emotional communication heals and improves our behaviors.

From the field of neuroscience they remind us that regions such as the amygdala are the seat of emotions as complex as fear or anger. If we develop good emotional language, we will strengthen the connection between it and the prefrontal cortex so that these states will be regulated much better and our behavior will be more adjusted and less impulsive.

Thus, Something that Dr. Vivona recommends is conversation therapy, the one that provides so many benefits in approaches such as cognitive-behavioral or acceptance and commitment therapy. In these contexts, we are able to help the person become aware of their emotions and verbalize them appropriately.

What emotional verbs should you use on a daily basis?

There are no emotional verbs more powerful or advisable than others. Each situation will demand the use of some, each need forces us to conjugate specific verbs.. Be that as it may, they reflect what pumps inside us.

Good use of emotional communication takes time and practice. Even more, it requires a certain courage and assertiveness from us to understand that It is not enough to just say what we feel; it must be said well, with respect and good empathy. Therefore, let’s work on this tool of life and coexistence.

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