Does the 7-year crisis exist in love? |

Have you ever heard of the seven year crisis? According to this belief, every couple tends to go through a troubled moment in their life as a couple when the relationship completes this duration. But does the thought have any validity? Opinions are controversial – while some confirm this hypothesis, others say that major or minor conflicts can occur at any time.

In astrology, this truth has coherence and correlation with the cycles of Saturn. Astrologer Marcia Fervienza explains that when a relationship begins, an Astral Map is generated for this union. After about seven years Saturn will make its first square aspect (which occurs on average every seven years) to where it was in the chart at the beginning of the relationship. As Saturn is associated with cycles of individual maturation and the passage of time, with each aspect of this type the relationship will undergo a “test”, which will lead to a reassessment of the functioning of the parties as a couple.

As Saturn is associated with cycles of individual maturation and the passage of time, with each aspect of this type the relationship will undergo a “test”, which will lead to a reassessment of the functioning of the parties as a couple.

“This crisis brought by Saturn, every seven years, can be triggered by external factors (relocation of one of the spouses, family difficulties that require dedication from one of the parties, financial difficulties, etc.) or by internal factors (voluntary reassessment of the couple about how far they have come and whether they are where they would like to be, their routine, etc.). I usually say that when the couple is not aware of the cycles of the relationship or is not very attentive to what is happening on a psychological and emotional level, external events are the triggers for reassessment, whereas when there is self-awareness, things happen on a more subjective”, suggests the astrologer.

However, Marcia Fervienza warns that, in addition to Saturn’s cycles, it is necessary to consider that each person has a different Astral Chart and, consequently, individual astrological transits, which signal possible love directions.

“The couple can go through crises after or even before the age of seven. This is because, although we are discussing the transits of Saturn on the Astral Chart generated at the beginning of the relationship, it is necessary to consider that each of the parts of the couple is in a different moment of their individual maturation cycle. Therefore, transits of Pluto, Saturn, Neptune or Uranus in relationship houses (5th and 7th in this case) or on personal planets (Sun, Moon, Venus and Mars) will directly affect the relationship – not because the relationship itself is in a moment of reassessment, but because the individual experiencing the transit will be in a transition phase, which tends to affect the life of the couple”, explains the astrologer.

Despite this, Marcia emphasizes that, under no circumstances, the crises symbolized by astrological transits should be avoided. “Every cycle has a beginning, a middle and an end. And although every end represents a death, it also symbolizes a new beginning, which can be much better than the one experienced previously. From an astrological perspective, the worst thing we can do is avoid transits that indicate crises and changes.

although every end represents a death, it also symbolizes a new beginning, which can be much better than the one experienced previously.

On the contrary, it is necessary to anticipate them. For example, if we are going to enter a Uranus transit, it is important to start opening up to the idea that the relationship will need more space and freedom to continue to grow; if we are going to experience a Saturn transit, it is good to start reassessing the foundations of the relationship beforehand. When we align ourselves with the planet’s energy on a psychological level, the physical impact of the transit is usually much less, because its objective is being achieved, which is to create awareness for that particular area or aspect of our life. Human beings naturally tend to fear changes, but without them there is no growth”, concludes the astrologer.

Biographical Therapy: milestones in life occur every 7 years

Doctor Marcelo Guerra clarifies that from the point of view of Biographical Therapy, every seven years – also called “seven years” – people go through physical, mental and spiritual processes, which drive change. “Although we are in constant evolution, these transition periods from one septenium to the next are crucial moments in which we invest a lot of energy and, sometimes, this transformation can lead to conflicts between a couple, since relationships also follow this flow”, explains the expert.

Marcelo Guerra also clarifies that, from the point of view of this Therapy, crises in a relationship occur due to the difference in the stage of biographical development. “For example, one partner may be in a very intense material seeking stage, while the other is interested in spiritual growth, and this can lead to conflicts. Note that the driver of conflict is not necessarily the difference between what people are looking for, but intolerance and arrogance, if one or both of you consider your interests and pursuits to be more relevant than those of your partner. That is why the crisis arises”, observes Marcelo.

Another important factor is how each partner went through the seven years, that is, the passages of life that occur every seven years. “A person may not have digested a seven-year period well and keep repeating that pattern, while the partner went on. For example, the 4th septenium, which occurs from 21 to 28 years old, is characterized by experimentation with our abilities and limits. Suppose that in a couple over 40 years of age, one of the partners keeps repeating this phase, that is, always changing jobs or jobs, seeking sensory stimuli. If the partner has already overcome this tendency, it is very possible that he feels tired of the other’s experimentation. This can lead to misunderstandings in the relationship, or make her assume a position of caring for her partner and directing him, becoming codependent on his love”, compares Marcelo.

Numerology and Tarot do not consider 7-year crisis

Contrary to these theories, numerologist Yubertson Miranda informs that there is nothing in Numerology that confirms or suggests that after seven years together the couple tends to go through some kind of crisis. According to him, it is interesting to observe the Personal Year (calculate your Personal Year for free here) of each person in the love relationship, to identify individual moments and how the couple can manage or even avoid possible conflicts.

“Honestly, I have never observed a more troubled moment in the couple’s life when they reach seven years together. In Numerology, when a person goes through a Cycle 7 (such as the Personal Year or some Personal Quarter or Month), their love life passes the test of deepening. That is, it is an opportunity to acquire greater intimacy in life as a couple. This can lead to a greater fear of being betrayed, rejected or abandoned by the partner. In fact, a fear of surrendering more deeply to the other and suffering”, details Yubertson.

Still according to the numerologist, the cycles that most suggest crises in married life are those symbolized by the Numbers 2 and 6. But he clarifies that these numbers are not related to the years that the couple has been together, but to the individual cycles by which each person goes through. “When we are in a Personal Year 2 or 6, as well as a Personal Quarter or Month symbolized by these numbers, the tendency to experience a more acute crisis in life together is greater. These cycles bring to light disagreements and incompatibilities in a relationship, suggesting more fights and arguments, as well as breakups, separations and divorces.

In this case, it takes a lot of patience, dialogue and an emotionally more mature attitude so that each person who forms the couple knows how to understand the other, give in a little and improve their way of loving”, guides Yubertson Miranda.

From the Tarot point of view (click here to learn more about this oracle), there is no theory about the seven year crisis either. However, tarologist Leo Chioda clarifies that troubled moments in a relationship exist and should be taken seriously, regardless of how long the couple has been together. Although not all crises can be avoided or handled, the specialist says that the oracle helps to take prudent actions in the name of a harmonious and structured coexistence.

“Just as the cards symbolize the intrinsic processes of human evolution – both emotional and mental and historical and social –, crises are opportunities to review yearnings, feelings and one’s own attitude towards people. It can be quite constructive, depending on a humble position and willingness to learn from personal relationships. When someone is going through a challenging time in their life as a couple, one of the suggested guidelines is to consult a Tarot professional to assess the relationship. A reading of these archetypal images clarifies important issues of loving involvement, which is now seen as a meaningful experience. The oracle is not based only on the famous predictions. The Tarot is an instrument of analysis and inspiration to enhance what is best in a relationship or marriage, without forgetting the duties, which are also highlighted through the arcana”, teaches Leo Chioda.

Theories aside, how to deal with relationship crises?

The crisis – whether with yourself or with the other – is a natural part of life. After all, it is usually the one that leverages the improvements and indicates the moment to stop, reflect and promote adjustments inside and outside of oneself. This is what energy therapist Ceci Akamatsu guarantees. According to her, just as physical pain indicates that there is something wrong in the body, as a warning sign for the person to take care of what is unbalanced, love crises signal that there are disagreements in relationships, so that the couple can act in the right direction. to harmonize them.

love crises indicate that there are disagreements in relationships, so that the couple can act to harmonize them

“Just as it would be unhealthy for us to live in pain most of the time, we don’t need to be in crisis permanently. However, taking painkillers so as not to feel pain and not looking for its cause to cure it can generate the silent worsening of some serious illness. Likewise, we cannot run away from crises, as we will bear the consequences of such an act sooner or later. Each person is unique, as well as a relationship and the crisis dynamics of each case. It is only up to us to work on awareness about ourselves and our relationships, so that we can live our interactions – and even the inevitable moments of crisis – with more serenity. Working on self-knowledge, seeking our paths by ourselves or with therapeutic help, becomes essential for us to achieve more and more harmony with ourselves and with the other”, advises Ceci.