Does dreaming about someone mean THAT THAT PERSON MISSES US?

Does dreaming about someone mean THAT THAT PERSON MISSES US?

The topic of dreams, in addition to being exciting, is also fertile ground for all kinds of interpretations and clichés. Today we will analyze one that many surely already know, since it belongs to popular wisdom, which postulates the following: dreaming about someone means that that person misses us.

There are several theories regarding the characters that appear in the dream, and how they relate to the dreamer. One of these theories belongs to none other than Sigmund Freud, who in 1922 published a little-known work called: Dreams and telepathy (Traum und Telepathie), where he examines the possibility of telepathic dreams.

Does dreaming about an ex-partner mean that they miss us?

Not necessarily.

Sigmund Freud’s theory of dreams—The Interpretation of Dreams (Die Traumdeutung)—suggests that dreams are ultimately representations of unconscious DESIRES. Due to their, let’s say, underground nature, these desires cannot be expressed consciously while we are awake, so they only have one way to ascend to the surface and be realized symbolically: dreams.

Carl Jung, on the other hand, in his work On the Essence of Dreams (Vom Wesen der Träume), analyzes the hypothesis that, under certain circumstances, it is possible to communicate with someone through dreams.

This type of communication occurs spontaneously, although under the same foundations proposed by Sigmund Freud: DESIRE.

Thinking about someone is not going to make that person dream about us, precisely because it is a conscious DESIRE, which manages to express itself during wakefulness. In any case, to make someone dream of you, that DESIRE must be fueled by a kind of underground tension, on a psychic level. If the unconscious does not contribute its energy flow, there is no dream projection possible.

Dreaming about someone does not mean that that person misses us, at least not necessarily, since their appearance in the dream could come from the dreamer’s own unconscious DESIRE.

However, there are other extremely interesting conjectures about it.

Many researchers support the hypothesis that there are different planes of consciousness that we can access through dreams on the physical, etheric and astral planes.

According to this theory, the former correspond to our psyche, that is, to our concerns and repressed desires. The latter provide us with access to the collective unconscious, for example, through Lucid Dreams. And third parties, for their part, allow us to communicate with other dreamers; and even enter another person’s dreams.

Missing someone for a long time, but above all REPRESSING THE DESIRE to see that person again, are the fuel for this type of phenomenon to occur.

Recently we asked ourselves the following question: if two people have the same dream, is it still just a dream? The answer, in part, would be YES: it is still a dream, but a dream understood as an experience that goes beyond the limits of our psyche.

It may happen that someone we miss a lot, or who misses us, appears in our dreams, or that we have a shared dream with them, that is, when two people dream the same thing. The phenomenon can also manifest itself through recurring dreams, basically when someone always dreams of the same person.

But returning to the initial question: does dreaming about someone mean that that person misses us? The answer should be NO, for certain cases, and MAYBE, for others. It all depends on what type of dream it is, that is, on what level it develops.

In Man and His Symbols, Carl Jung accepts that a good part of the interpretation of dreams must be carried out according to the analysis of the REPRESSED DESIRES of the dreamer, but he also admits other possibilities.

Leaving aside the Mental Plane and the Astral Plane – which could ultimately be explained based on Jung’s theory of archetypes – the dreams that we dream night after night are built on a structure that has two levels: the MANIFEST CONTENT and the LATENT CONTENT.

MANIFEST CONTENT consists of the images, sounds and textures that occur during sleep; That is, everything we see, hear and touch when dreaming.

The LATENT CONTENT, for its part, is the support that gives structure to the MANIFEST CONTENT; in other words: the psychological meaning of the dream.

We can think of it as a kind of server where everything that manifestly appears in the dream is housed.

This means that someone appears in your dreams because of your emotional connection with that person. If it appears within the MANIFEST CONTENT, that is, under its normal physical appearance, it is much easier to recognize it. But it can also appear within the LATENT CONTENT, that is, symbolically through other characters with whom it shares certain less recognizable characteristics.

In fact, you could be dreaming about a friend without him appearing MANIFESTLY in the dream, but rather LATENTLY. And these are the dreams that excite us the most, the dreams that make us cry, and the nightmares that make us wake up suddenly; That is, the most intense dream experiences but which are then difficult to understand when waking up.

But if we accept the possibility that dreaming about someone means that that person misses us, what happens when dreaming about someone who is dead?

Do the dead communicate with us through dreams?

Speculation aside, the truth is that we currently know very little about dreams, both from a scientific perspective and from a subjective perspective. We can’t even really be sure how our dreams really begin and end!

We do have conjectures, working hypotheses, theories, which over time will be duly corroborated or not.

In fact, some currents speculate that the people who appear in our dreams never symbolize external aspects of our personality, that is, people in real life with whom we maintain an emotional and sentimental bond. According to this vision, our dreams are something like an exclusive view of ourselves, with no room for secondary representations.

According to this interpretation, dreaming about someone does not mean that that person misses you; on the contrary. All the people who appear in your dreams are representations of fundamental aspects of your own being.

By aspects we do not mean your own thoughts, emotions, feelings, and even the way in which you express yourself and interact with others.

When we dream of someone of our same gender, that person symbolizes an aspect of our consciousness. For example, dreaming about our father, in the case of men, or about our mother, in the case of women, expresses the aspects in which we feel identified with them.

This type of identification is not necessarily positive, since we can come to hate the traits of other close people with whom we identify, whether consciously or not.

On the other hand, when we dream of a person of the opposite gender to ours, it symbolizes the aspects of our subconscious.

We can think of this worldview in the following way:

Suppose you had to describe to someone who doesn’t know you an essential aspect of your personality.

Let’s also assume that the aspect with which you best identify is generosity.

Now, this conscious aspect of your personality may appear in your dreams represented in the figure of someone you know, and of the same gender as yours, with whom you identify in this sense.

Let’s imagine that you dream about a coworker. According to this theory, it could represent your most industrious, hardworking and generous aspect; that is, yourself projected onto someone who shares those virtues.

If we take this hypothesis as true, dreaming about someone does not mean that they miss you, but rather the opposite: we dream about someone to project onto that person what we already feel internally towards them. If in dreams she misses us, it is because we miss her.

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