“Do I Really Love My Girlfriend?” 7 YES (and 7 NO!)

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I love my girlfriend, at least I think I do!

She’s amazing, and our time together so far has been fantastic.

Here’s how I know I really love my girlfriend and the warning signs that could put my relationship in jeopardy.

“Do I really love my girlfriend?” – 7 signs that yes

1. She’s the only girl you want to be with

Let’s face this fact…

If you’re with a girl, but you still have other girls on your mind, it’s not a good sign.

If you’re in love with your girlfriend, she’s the one you want—and should—be with.

I’m not saying you won’t notice a nice set of legs or a pretty face when you’re walking down the street.

But you won’t feel any genuine temptation to leave your girlfriend or cheat on her.

You will be secure in what you have and satisfied.

And the temptations and problems that arise will be things you are determined to overcome and will never use as an excuse to covet your neighbor’s grass.

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2. She makes you smile even on a bad day

One of the top signs that you really love your girlfriend is that she can bring a smile to your face no matter how bad your day is.

I’m not saying you should laugh like a cheshire cat just because you have such a cute and affectionate girlfriend.

But she’s the only person who can make you smile even when it’s the last thing you expected.

And even if it’s just for a moment.

There’s something natural about her that makes your lips curl from corner to corner.

And this is a sign…

…that you love her!

3. You want her around but aren’t dependent on her

There is a big difference between wanting and valuing someone and being dependent on that person.

Codependency often breaks down into a pattern of one person being the needy recipient and one person being the great savior.

It’s toxic and even when a relationship lasts for years, codependency poisons the good.

That’s why truly loving your girlfriend means that you value and care about her a lot, but don’t depend on her in a dysfunctional or needy way.

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4. You have a strong emotional connection with her

One of the strongest signs that you are truly in love is that there are multiple layers to your relationship.

Specifically, you connect on an emotional, intellectual and physical level.

Some levels may be stronger than others or may have faded to a greater extent.

But what defines love is not so much perfection, but the fact that you relate to and are attracted to someone by:

• Your body
• Your mind
• Your heart

If one of them is missing, the strongest attraction can still fall…

What makes love so different from lust and passion is that it doesn’t have to start from any certain layer of intimacy; Love can start from any of the three, the first bond being physical, emotional or intellectual.

5. The idea of ​​a future together with her fills you with joy

If you love your girlfriend, you love the idea of ​​growing old alongside her.

Having children, buying a house, living together somehow fills you with joy.

But it can give you a little shock of fear as well.

But the basic idea is that you look forward to a future with her in some way.

And instead of being intimidated or horrified by the idea, you feel like it could be a very good thing…

Because when you love someone, spending your life with that person becomes a natural thing.

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6. You step out of your comfort zone to see her happy

One of the signs that you love your girlfriend is that you are willing to commit to her.

When she wants to do something that’s not really your style, sometimes you just put in the effort and go for it because you love her.

That doesn’t mean you’re a hotshot who does what your girlfriend wants or lets her ride you.

It just means that sometimes you put her first and see things from her point of view, just as she does the same for you.

7. You don’t think about giving up on her if things get tough

Every relationship goes through difficult times, but that’s not all.

It’s not about little things like your girlfriend criticizing your diet or having a stressful time at university.

I’m talking about big things like her going through a severe depression where it’s hard to deal with.

Or an illness you’re not even sure she’ll recover from.

Will you stick with her or will you find a new person to spend your time with?

Love is proven in these moments.

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“Do I really love my girlfriend?” – 7 signs that NO

1. Do you often think about being with other women?

One of the main signs that you don’t love your girlfriend is that you often think about being with other women.

Your girlfriend is not someone you’ve decided to commit to and who you have deep feelings for.

She is an option.

She is “good enough for now”.

She’s fun, until you find someone better.

It’s a little brutal to read this, but the shock is good if it makes you seriously reflect on how you really feel about your girlfriend.

2. You’re only with her because you’re afraid of being alone

It’s easy for relationship coaches or “enlightened” gurus to criticize someone for being afraid of being alone…

However, the fact is that being afraid of being alone is a very human and very understandable emotion.

And there’s a way to ensure that fear stops controlling your life.

You might be surprised to learn that there is a very important connection that you are probably ignoring:

The relationship you have with yourself.

And once you start doing that, there’s no telling how much happiness and fulfillment you can find within yourself and with your relationships.

Make the change today and cultivate the love and respect you know you deserve.

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3. You are very attracted to your girlfriend, but you don’t really love her

One of the most surprising signs that you don’t love your girlfriend anymore is that you’re very attracted to her, but you don’t actually love her.

Let me explain…

Just thinking about her turns you on, you find her charming and very sensual.

But you also feel deep down that she’s a stranger and you don’t like her very much as a person.

The way she treats people, treats you, treats everything, feels like she’s not your soul mate.

You guys have good chemistry, but it also feels like you’re not yourself around her.

As if you were playing a role of a character.

You feel like you have something special about her.

But you can’t imagine spending the rest of your life with her.

4. You’d rather be with your friends than with her

If you’ve ever been in a relationship that you couldn’t wait to get out of, then you’ll relate to this point…

Time away from your girlfriend seems like the best thing in the world.

Even if you haven’t faced that you might not be that into her yet, you can’t hide the sigh of relief when you have a few days alone.

It’s like a gift. Not only do you feel freer and happier, you now have a chance to meet your friends and finally enjoy…

…and vent to them about how hell your life is.

About all the problems and frustrations of dating a woman as your girlfriend.

It doesn’t sound like love to me, and if it does, it’s a very toxic, codependent type that you probably need to get out of ASAP.

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5. You don’t really care when you haven’t heard from her for a long time

Part of being in a relationship is loving talking to your other half.

You enjoy listening to her, knowing what she is up to, and being in regular contact.

Obviously, if this goes too far into codependency or possessiveness, it’s not a good thing.

But on a certain level, if you don’t think about your girlfriend when she’s not around, then you don’t love her.

As psychologist Kataleya Vides has pointed out, “When you’re okay with not hearing from your partner for several days, it usually means you’re not really in love with them.”

And it usually also means he’s not in love with you.

6. You get a feeling of unease when you see other happy couples

Does it seem like other couples are exotic animals in a nature park that have no relationship with you and your girlfriend?

Do you feel like you’re missing out on something that should be special and fulfilling?

That’s because you don’t love your girlfriend, and seeing happy people makes you nauseous.

As psychotherapist Carlos Hasues puts it:

“Seeing other couples being so happy is like a slap in the face. You two were like that, right? You start to question whether they are as happy as they should be together.”

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7. Her views and behavior annoy you

If your girlfriend’s ideas and actions simply bother you, it can be tempting to pick one or two specific things you’d like her to change.

But I have friends who have gotten to the point where it’s not about one or two things…

But everything.

The way your girlfriend chews makes them crazy.

The way she laughs fills them with rage.

They were closer to hate than love.

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