Be very careful what you say to your child.

Many parents insist on highlighting their children’s negative traits in front of their siblings, other relatives, and even their friends. According to psychologist Martha Daud, this behavior has a negative impact on the upbringing of the child. Therefore, the ideal is to reverse this idea with a positive thought. “Although my father thinks so, I will show who I am, because I can determine who I am and what I will do”, she teaches.

Mel Aitak, holistic therapist and Reiki master, agrees with Daud and says that, also energetically, this attitude contributes to the insecurity of the children and for them to get closer to bad company. “Children grow up not thinking they deserve good things and they attract people who also feel inferior”, he explains.

She highlights the importance of setting good examples, as children look up to their parents. In addition, she teaches a series of phrases to combat the traumas that are generated by inappropriate comments. Even insecure adults can resort to these thoughts, which work as a kind of neurolinguistic reprogramming (which studies the relationship between mind and behavior). Now you can use this example to see what not to say to your children! “Words can build or destroy. Hurt or forgive. And what is repeated becomes your reality”, concludes Aitak.

Reprogram the mind and eliminate trauma!

See the phrases that the therapist proposes…

If you hear – “You are stupid”

Rebut, thinking: No one has the power to determine or restrict my intelligence.

If you hear – “You are bad”

Reflect by thinking, I am a kind person and I strive to spread good around me.

If you hear – “You are ugly”

Counter this by thinking: I have physical attributes and a personality that make me unique.

If you hear – “You are fat”

Rebut, thinking: The fact of being outside the standards of beauty does not affect or harm me. I like myself the way I am and value myself for it.

If you hear – “You are slow”

Rebut, thinking: I do things at my pace and I’m happy that way.

If you hear – “You are scared”

Rebut by thinking, I’m careful. I take risks when I feel safe to do so. Taking risks for the sake of taking risks is stupidity. If I make a mistake, I have the ability to start over…

If you hear – “You can’t”

Rebut, thinking: I set my goals and I have the potential to achieve them.