A good person always has a bit of innocence

A good person usually has a bit of innocence. His looks are magical and his smiles are honest, but his hearts sometimes hide secret defeats. Silent wounds for having expected too much from someone who never gave her anything and tears swallowed by someone who played at will with her noble, immense, but innocent soul.

In an interesting study carried out at Stanford University (United States), they showed that kindness is perceived as a wonderful and exceptional way to connect with people. Now, despite being a highly valued trait socially, There are those who see in the good person that style of character that can be easily manipulated for their own benefit.

Something curious to keep in mind is that He who always acts with his heart first without paying attention to costs or expecting benefits, does not usually change over time.. It is not so easy to tear out our essences just like that, because although the slights, disappointments or small betrayals hurt, no one can escape from their identity.

Good people are, above all, authentic and to be authentic is to be yourself, always guided by inner sincerity.. There where pretenses, lies or selfishness have no place.

The good person and compassion

If until not long ago when defining good people people used to talk about empathy, reciprocity, altruism or respect, the Stanford University of Psychology tells us that It is necessary to include one more dimension that would actually thread each piece, each nuance and each heartbeat of these noblest souls: compassion.

This psychological construct connects directly with the most intimate of our emotions, even structuring many parts of that social brain in which a clear concern for another being underlies. Compassion is therefore an emotional response to perceiving the suffering of others in others. and about which we in turn experience a genuine desire to help.

If the good person sometimes shows a subtle but endearing veneer of innocence, it is not at all due to naivety or not knowing how to assess the risk of said personal investment to the point of giving everything in exchange for nothing.

That innocence is therefore something genetic, a wonderful trait, which according to what the scientists at the “Max Planck Institute” tell us, babies and even many animals also show. When a little child, For example, you see another baby crying and perceive a situation as painful or threatening, your heart rate rises and your pupils dilate. However, when they notice that the other child is receiving comfort and help, they too calm down.

We could say that we all come into the world with that natural instinct for compassion.. Our brain exercises a sophisticated reward mechanism when the suffering of others disappears, because this ultimately guarantees the survival of the species.

Now, as we grow and perhaps due to the influence of certain contexts, that natural compassion disappears or weakens. To the point that sometimes, there are those who, when seeing others practice certain compassionate acts, far from empathizing, ironize or despise.

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Never regret being a good person

Life is not going to treat us better just for being good people, for acting according to what our heart tells us or that compassionate instinct integrated in our brain. Sometimes, those who sow kindness do not always reap respectand that is something that we are going to have to learn the hard way, but without ever losing our dignity and even less our essence.

As neuroscientist Jordan Grafman tells us from the National Institutes of Health, Acting with compassion and altruism brings us exceptional intrinsic benefitsto the point that the brain encodes those actions as something rewarding, something to reward with a good rush of endorphins.

Positive psychology has always valued kindness, respect and compassion as ways to invest in psychological well-being and the opportunity to foster happier environments. and of course, more respectful.

Now, the good person must be aware that to remain a strong and beautiful tree, they must nourish their roots every day and, to do this, it is necessary that we put these simple actions into practice:

Listen to your intuition, it is possible that your personality has that touch of wonderful innocence with which to always see people’s virtues before their defects. However, allow your past experiences to put you on alert, pay attention to your instincts so that a “no” in time is the best wall to protect your self-esteem.May disappointments not extinguish the light of your heart, may they not stain your soul with bitterness. spontaneous, your authentic self. Failure is nothing more than an experience that requires knowing how to assume, accept and let go. Continue to be brave every day of your life, because bravery is nothing more than clinging to our noble roots again to continue growing, without fear, without doubts…You might be interested…