7 attitudes to bring brothers closer

They talk with their eyes. They understand each other with just one word and have an enviable complicity. That’s what every mother wants for her children. But it’s no use dreaming of a united group on one side, and, on the other, taking actions that keep them apart. “The relationship between the brothers, the complicity and even the fights help people discover themselves and learn how to behave in adult life. This relationship is very valuable”, advises Olga Tessari, psychologist and writer of the book Direct your Life without Fear (Ed. Letras Jurídicas).

Therefore, do not think that your role is less important. You can – and should – help your children to be friends🇧🇷 In a while, you will see them grown and you will be proud of the result.

Know what to do to bring the brothers closer:

1. Don’t say fighting is ugly. Arguments and disagreements affirm their personalities.

2. Respect individualities. It is normal for them to have different ideas. Listen to them.

3. Don’t always protect the minor. The youngest ends up getting along with it. And, in adult life, he suffers more than the other when he sees that he cannot do everything.

4. Don’t compare! Thus, parents encourage an unhealthy rivalry between their children. One scored high, deserves to be congratulated. The other did badly on the test, he has to study more. And that’s all, you don’t have to compare!

5. Don’t use one to watch the other It can push them away. Who likes to be glued to a spy?

6. Don’t buy everything the same Clothes should be at least different colors. “Gifts should only be given to children on special dates. They must say what they would like to win and the parents must respect their wishes, according to their purchasing power”, says Olga. Now, if one asked for a green cart and, upon seeing his brother’s fire truck, changes his mind and wants one like it, wait until the next date to order.

7. Set an example It’s no use telling your children not to beat each other if every time you lose your temper you hit them.

How to act in times of major conflicts

The younger sister borrows the older sister’s favorite lipstick without asking. They argue badly. The youngest was wrong. It is necessary to show her that she must borrow her sister’s objects, because she has the right to borrow (or not borrow) whatever she wants.

The brother discovers that the other was scolded by the teacher at school because he was making a mess and runs to tell him. Call the brother who took the scolding for a conversation with everyone gathered, ask him to tell the truth and let what he deduced watch. He will be embarrassed and learn that actions have consequences.

They complain during a fight. Encourage them to resolve conflicts. If you haven’t seen it, you can’t define who’s right. They need to understand that they have more advantage working with each other than turning to their mother.