5 Stereotypes About Men and Women That Prevent Us from Living Fully

A woman’s place is no longer in the kitchen, and men are increasingly participating in childbirth and child care. However, the question of who has to pay for dinner in a restaurant, to this day, remains unanswered. People of both sexes are not very different: neither by intellectual abilities, nor by emotional perception, and this is confirmed by more than 2 thousand scientific research.

When we are asked to describe a ‘real man’ and a ‘real woman’, it is possible that we use a series of stereotypes that were passed down to us by our parents and grandparents and that today do not necessarily make more sense.

O awesome.club decided to talk about these stereotypes that, in the end, can prevent us from making the best decisions.

Children, in general, have no idea how they should behave, but adults quickly make them understand. Boys are ashamed of their tears, girls of a torn dress. Psychologist Christia Spears Brown, in the book Parenting Beyond Pink & Blue: How to Raise Your Kids Free of Gender Stereotypes (Parenting Beyond Pink and Blue: How to Raise Your Children Free of Gender Stereotypes) reports that, in conversation with children, boys often mentioned numbers and natural phenomena, while in conversations with girls, physical appearance was mentioned. . Guess who cares about their nose shape and being overweight in the end?

Christia writes that any child, regardless of gender, should have 3 types of toys: for the intellect, body and emotions🇧🇷 Puzzles and blocks build intelligence, bicycles and balls are for physical activity, and playing with dolls or stuffed animals teaches kindness and caring for others.

Don’t stop a boy from playing with kitchen utensils or the doll’s cart, or a girl from playing with a truck or carts. Everyone makes their own decisions, but the recommendation is not to use phrases like “don’t fight, you’re a girl”, “don’t get discouraged, you’re a boy”. Teach your son to feed the doll and your daughter to handle a screwdriver and hammer. So, possibly, men in the future will not feel ashamed of wanting to ask for a vacation because of the birth of a child and girls, in a freer way, will be able to choose a profession without caring whether it is a teacher, pilot or engineer.

Recently, the American Ashleigh Bradley complained on Twitter that she went on a romantic date where, after telling the guy it didn’t go beyond dinner, he asked her to pay half the bill. This provoked a heated debate on the network: Does the man have to pay for women during romantic encounters? And if so, what things does he pay for precisely?

Psychologists are certain that small acts of chivalry, such as sending a bouquet of flowers, handing over a coat, asking on a date or opening the door for a woman, are just that: gestures of chivalry. Or, at most, a romantic ritual. This isn’t necessarily about paying the bills once you’re married.

Dating means that the man is interested and that’s good, but if the woman wants to be respected and have her opinion, she doesn’t need to be totally dependent.

Of course, when a woman really needs help, she can ask for it and the man can help her, but that doesn’t mean she’s incapable of taking care of herself.

Actress Emma Watson, in one of her speeches dedicated to the topic of feminism, said: “I like when they open the door for me, or when they invite me to dinner. Would it be offensive to the man if, on my turn, I opened the door for him? If it isn’t, then it’s okay as we are behaving like polite people.”

Research figures vary, but scientists have concluded that men cheat on their permanent partners more often than women.

But Doesn’t make one think that men have an “infidelity gene”is that jumping the fence is something that is out of your control.

Fidelity is a conscious choice, and it must be on both partners. Infidelity is a reason to think about whether it is worth continuing the relationship. Even if you don’t want to break up, it’s best to keep your distance from each other for a while.

And it is important that those who cheated demonstrate, unequivocally, that they want to preserve the union.

Research shows that, here in Brazil, women occupy less than 40% of management positions in companies. Because of stereotypes such as women not doing as well as men in these types of roles, many companies do not give women opportunities in more strategic or managerial roles. Worse for the companies themselves, which often end up losing talent that could make a huge difference in their results.

But, as is known, there is also a difference in wages, because, for the same job, with the same assignments, women end up earning less than men.

An emblematic case in this sense is that of actress Jennifer Lawrence, who, upon learning that her male colleagues in the production of a film were being paid more than her, made it clear that the difference in fees was probably due to the fact that male actors were more insistent with management to charge higher fees. She, afraid of appearing to be a ‘difficult’ person, insisted less. Since then, Jennifer and many other Hollywood actresses have been fighting for the same fees as their peers, and they can serve as an example for other women who are ready to defend their rights.

It doesn’t take research to know that men feel anger, sadness and fear as often as women, but yes, there are scientific studies in this sense. The fact is that men express their anger and hide their sadness, unlike women who tend to hide their anger and express sadness and fear. Men do not consider themselves inclined to compassion and empathy, but the dimension of physiological and facial reactions shows that the ability of men and women to feel empathy is the same.

Both men and women feel the burden of the gender stereotypes just mentioned. What happens to men is that the ideal of masculinity makes them not reveal their emotions and not show that they too can have difficulties. But doesn’t that perfect image work against them?

Emma Watson expressed her views this way: “It offends me that men don’t have the right to cry. They can’t express their emotions, they can’t talk about what they feel. What could be sadder? Being able to express themselves will not turn them into girls, but on the contrary, it will make them feel alive. If your heart beats and you are not indifferent, then it’s wonderful! 🇧🇷

What do you think about the differences between men and women?