5 considerations that every older person deserves

The intolerance facing old age is another of those contemporary evils that settled in the world gradually and without knowing at what time. From being a loving source of wisdom, older people began to become beings with whom many do not know what to do. After passing a certain number of years, many face rejection, forgetfulness or contempt when becoming an older person.

The contemporary ideal focuses on youth as the source of all well-being. Although this is false, many take it as true and act accordingly. Physical strength is now more or less a fetish. A person Elderly doesn’t fit into that equation and their vulnerability is not something you want to deal with..

The most fragile people are often left behind. This is what happens with children, the elderly and the sick, among others. Young adults, healthy, strong and in full use of their potential, are always looking for someone to whom they can delegate the attention and care that is their responsibility. Whether we are talking about your own children, or your own parents or family members, it seems that there is no time for them.

That is why we want to dedicate this article to them, because with their struggle in life they have earned at least these five considerations that we are going to detail below.

Don’t try to change an older person

In itself, trying to change someone borders on disrespect. Who tells you that you have the truth, the reason or the power to try something like that? Only those who believe they are better than others try to change others. And the concept of “better” or “worse” is extremely relative and also very dangerous when we use it in the first person.

Regardless of who we talk about, an older person has already “fighted in many bullrings.” He has formed his own criteria, right or wrong. He has acquired his own habits, tastes and customs. Nobody has the right to try to convince her that she should think or act differently. And, in fact, it is very likely that no matter how hard you try, you will not be able to change his mind. By accepting them you avoid them and avoid unnecessary bad times.

Don’t get into arguments with them

Your father or grandfather may be convinced of something that may seem absurd to you. Their religious or political beliefs could be very different from yours. Older people, in good faith sometimes they want to try to convince you that they are right.

Do not forget that an older person has accumulated a lot of baggage, which is not at all insignificant. If he thinks the way he thinks, it is not the result of chance, but of experiences and acquired knowledge. It is not a good idea to get involved in useless discussions so that he or she can understand your point of view.. Give him an affectionate and respectful listen: he deserves it.

Support them in their interests and hobbies

Many times older people are shy or afraid of their own interests or hobbies.. In today’s world, their word is not taken into account, unless they occupy positions of power. Although many may seem bored or apathetic, there are many others who still feel that they have messages to convey and those messages are important.

It could be reading, or gardening, or even sports. It would be nice if you tried to discover those orphan interests. And if you know them, or have found out what they are, it is worth supporting that person to go beyond interest. In the twilight of life, having a hobby or applied interest can be an extraordinary balm..

Accept your physical and cognitive limitations without criticizing them

They say there is a test we should all take. Cover our ears with cotton, apply Vaseline over our eyes and tie two bricks to our legs. Then, try to live like this for an hour. That way we would know what it feels like to be at an advanced age. Perhaps this way we would also learn to be more tolerant of the limitations of older people..

If you walk with an older person, walk at their pace and don’t ask them for more than they can give. If he doesn’t listen to you when you speak, make an effort to speak louder and clearer, instead of berating him for not hearing you. Listen to his health complaints without getting upset and Treat him as you would like to be treated at his age.

Ignore his manias

Some older people can be quite capricious and stubborn.. They can even be mischievous or defiant. In truth, there is a moment when they behave like children again. And in the midst of this late infantilism there are a few who develop extravagant behaviors.

Remember that there is a reason behind the way an older person acts. They are experiencing very big changes and are faced with the idea that they are going to die in a few years. Their stubbornness and whims help them compensate for their feeling of vulnerability or fear.. Don’t give these behaviors more importance than they have.

Older parents or grandparents are also a source of wisdom, even if they have not learned to read and write. Listening to them and spending time with them can nourish your heart in surprising ways.. Embracing your vulnerability makes you a better person and gives your life deeper meaning.

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