21 tips to do when he doesn’t answer your WhatsApp messages –

Few things are as frustrating in life as starting to get excited about someone and then seeing how that person walks away for no apparent reason. Why does this happen if everything was going so well?

You’re not the only person this happens to. Recently, a patient told me who had gone out with a friend to a meeting at a boy’s house. The chemistry was immediate. They spent the entire night dancing and she felt a true connection.

The next day, he sent her a beautiful message thanking her for the night and asking her to agree to meet again. Then, something strange happened. He stopped looking for her.

What is one supposed to do when something like this happens?

It’s very difficult to know how to react to something like that. And the reality is that we almost always react in the worst way.

We also walk away because we feel hurt and offended, and we miss the opportunity to find out what really happened. We want to see the obvious and we end up harassing the person in question.

And when it comes to emotions, it is very difficult to act with a cool head, we know it! So don’t feel bad if you don’t know how to act either.

When we really like someone and are excited about them, our brain begins to produce an enormous amount of hormones that can cloud our judgment. It is a biological question. It doesn’t mean you’re stupid or desperate.

But then, that part of your brain that hates the feeling of rejection seems to lose control. Don’t throw yourself into drama, try one of these seven tips instead.

1. Don’t fall into the trap

The main trap that women fall into when they don’t respond to a message is falling into fear. When you fall into fear it manifests itself as insecurity: what did I do wrong? Why do I stop messaging? what did I say? What I can do?

You start thinking that there is something wrong with you or you start thinking about the best message you can send him to get him to respond to you, or the best approach you can take to make yourself look interesting and attractive, and this is manipulative and controlling, and you don’t. You deserve that, you deserve much more than to be in that situation, when you come from a place of fear it is because you feel that you did something wrong or you don’t feel attractive enough or you think that another man will no longer see you, you come from a place of lack of abundance, and that is not attractive for men, if a man is not responding to you that is below your level, you at least deserve a man who responds to you, if at the beginning of the relationship he behaves like this, what It is when the man and the woman behave better, imagine what that relationship is going to be like, you don’t deserve that.

2. Identify the person’s behavioral response pattern

Something very important when we are in the process of establishing a relationship with someone (or it has already been leveled up) is to get used to certain behavior patterns in terms of their response time through SMS or messages via WhatsApp, Telegram or other networks. social.

It is essential that, with the time you have known each other, you know how long it takes on average to respond to messages or what their daily routine is to know that at certain times of the day they are less likely to respond quickly, because they are at work or in class. , etc.

For example, there are men who almost always read messages 2 hours later; others forget to answer; A few do not open them because they receive so many messages daily that the oldest ones are left at the bottom, well… there is certain information that you must manage about their day-to-day life in order to detect when a behavior of “non-response on their part” is really due to anything else.

3. Don’t act based on what you think

Although many thoughts flutter in your brain about what may be happening, don’t even think about reacting impulsively because of the pressure they exert on your emotions!

By now you should know that the dynamic of that person’s life is changing or that it is conditioned by many factors that affect whether he is not glued to his phone all day or, simply, if he is, whether for work reasons, For example.

So the best thing in this case is that you stay calm and wait a little to see how the situation ends. Forget about sending offensive messages or demanding attention or a response. That won’t work if the person is no longer interested in you, but it won’t have a positive effect if they do like you, since your attitude would leave a lot to be desired.

4. Don’t write to him again the same day

A big mistake that undermines the image you project and your own self-esteem is writing to him over and over again trying to get a response.

First of all, the image you will project will be that of a desperate woman in need of attention. Secondly, if the time frame is short and anxiety has taken over, you may be tempted to send an offensive message that, far from attracting a response, will delay it even more and, in the worst case, cause them to definitely I DID NOT ANSWER YOU.

So remember the first tip: BE PATIENT! And don’t let anxiety and assumptions win the battle.

5. If you decide to write to him, wait at least 48 hours between one message and another

Let’s suppose that you have analyzed all the possible scenarios and you consider that the first message you sent was not very clear or did not merit a response as such. So, it’s time to consider sending a second text.

Wait! Don’t do it the same day you sent the first one! The most advisable thing is that you wait at least a day or better 48 hours and do not allow anxiety to win the game; although the ideal is that you last two to three days.

Now, as for the content, it has to be a good message, kind, intelligent, precise, without dramatic attitudes and lightly loaded with that special touch that suggests a response.

You can even pretend that you have not written to him before and do it now as if it were the first time you wrote to him. But be careful with this! Well, that boy can focus on your game and then you would become a “hunted hunter.”

6. Distract yourself

Although it is difficult for you, you cannot focus your life on your cell phone, whether it rings or not, whether it texts you or not.

You have one life and you should take advantage of it. So go out with your friends, read a good book, have a drink, go for a walk, go to the park, walk your pet, dedicate time to your family or studies, concentrate on your work… in short, get away from your cell phone!

If you manage to get rid of the phone for a few hours, you will see that anxiety will go down and as time passes, the less you will care if he texted you or not.

7. Accept that he doesn’t like you

Perhaps this is one of the most difficult pieces of advice to hear, but if a man doesn’t answer your messages, he simply doesn’t like you, he doesn’t love you, or you’re not the girl he needs by his side.

Do you remember the movie “He Just Doesn’t Love You”? If after a date a man doesn’t call you or write to you, he simply doesn’t love you or doesn’t like you that much. It’s that simple!

Do you really think that a man interested in you, no matter how busy he is, won’t take a few minutes at least to tell you “I’m busy”?

So, in this case, the most humiliating thing you can do is lower yourself by writing to him again, searching for him or, worse, waiting like a fool for a response from him. Don’t justify your lack of response. A truly interested man will not spend more than three days without hearing from you.

8. Do not disclose your situation with the boy in question

Although we understand that you have your circle of trusted friends and that you need to vent your sorrows in some way, the most counterproductive thing is for you to tell your friends or acquaintances what is happening and how you are feeling.

Have you not thought that mutual friends do not have such good intentions and can tell that man your feelings and emotions? That can be and will be a situation that will work against you, whether that boy likes you or not.

The reason? It is your image that is in question and surely that boy will not like an insecure woman who does not have good self-esteem.

Remember that gossip will never be a positive complement to any relationship. So be cautious and discreet with your feelings and emotions. Think and analyze very carefully who you tell your things to to avoid being the target of malicious rumors that could reach the ears of the boy you like.

9. Don’t post on your social networks

No matter how much temptation is present and your emotions take away your rationality, don’t even think about posting messages on your social networks that have to do with the “absence” of this boy!

Remember: he has access to your profiles, he will read your posts and will probably realize that they are hints about his attitude towards you.

In the event that you do, the image that he will form of you will be that of an insecure woman, with low self-esteem, immature, in need of affection and attention. Do you think that with this scenario, if he had the slightest interest in you, he will keep it? I don’t believe it!

Your private life and your emotions are things that you must manage in your privacy. Don’t give others arguments to give their opinion about you and use them against you.

10. Don’t wait for him

The worst thing we can do when we like someone and write to them is wait for that person. We have already told you: if someone is interested in you, he will find the moment to make himself present; even more so if he receives a message from you.

If they haven’t responded to a message in hours, maybe days; If you’ve sent him two or three more texts, do you think there’s reason to expect him to make an appearance in your life? I don’t believe it!

So don’t waste your time waiting for someone who hasn’t even taken a minute out of their “busy” schedule to answer a greeting message. Get on with your life! Maybe when he decides to show up, you’ll be the one who doesn’t want to answer his texts.

11. Focus on yourself

You have to work on your self-love, on your self-esteem. Remember that the process always begins with ourselves. Your life cannot depend on a mobile device. In fact, it is not life if you are aware of whether it rings or not.

So do activities that keep you away from your phone and help you find yourself, such as taking a course or workshop, practicing a sport, dedicating time to a hobby, starting to study that career that you are so passionate about, starting a business. your dreams…

For yourself there is a world outside that does not depend on a device or a person. So work on yourself, on your dreams and on your projects… you will see that you will attract interesting people willing to give you the attention you deserve.

12. Never ask him in person why he didn’t reply to your message.

Another of the big mistakes you can make when the guy in question doesn’t respond to your messages is to look for him to talk to him personally and ask him why he didn’t respond to you. Do not do it! That will only show once again that you are desperate and that your self-esteem is not good.

Yes, it is understandable that you want an explanation for his lack of messages, but if he is not able to respond to a text, how do you think he will react if he has you face to face…