• 20 Ways to Talk to Women Without Boring Them – [Aunque Seas Serio]

There are many tips for approaching a woman, capturing her interest and starting a conversation. That always seems to be the hardest part and where you need the most help, but that’s not the case. The real difficulty is not starting to talk, it is keeping the conversation interesting so that the girl agrees to continue in it.

Usually an average guy manages to start a conversation with the woman he likes, but if the topic is not interesting, after a few minutes she will begin to make long silences, or stick to monosyllables like “ummh,” “yaaa,” or the fateful “ok”, which indicate that she is totally bored and wants to leave.

When this happens, it is evident that the attempts to have a pleasant conversation were a failure.

If you feel identified, you have come to the right article, because we bring you some tips and tactics precisely to help you have a good, deep and interesting conversation, that goes beyond the superficial greeting.

Conversing is vital to getting to know a woman and, at the same time, it is the resource that they use to recognize if it is worth giving you future opportunities, because nobody likes boring, egomaniacal or uninteresting guys.

Check out these 20 tips to keep her engaged and interested in your conversation:

1. Talk to him about things that interest him

This may be very basic, but it’s really all you should always keep in mind: no one likes to be bored.

You should always be prepared to talk about various topics, interesting and for many types of women. And don’t be afraid to bring your anecdotes into the conversation. A well-told story is always interesting and keeps anyone interested in its development.

You must learn to listen more, remember that conversation requires two voices, and also recognize their ideas. Many times the attitude that women take during the talk expresses more than their words. If you listen to her and pay attention, you can see how she responds to the topics and know when it is time to vary the ideas.

But forget, at least on the first dates, to talk about your previous conquests or focus too much on yourself, you can end up sounding egotistical.

Also, don’t focus on the stereotype of women that assumes they only care about gossip, showbiz, and celebrities. Maybe many are interested, but there will be others who simply do not follow or do not like that news.

To do this, the best defense weapon you have are questions. If you dare to first explore what interests her, she will lead you to her favorite topics and you will have good common ground to talk about.

2. Ask him about his tastes

You will never find out if she is right for you, or if she will at least give you a chance, unless you talk to her. That’s clear. The point is to talk about topics that matter to both of you and allow you to see what points you have in common. That is, just talking about the weather will not be enough.

The simplest option, as we mentioned before, is to dare to ask questions. About her, her tastes and interests, where she studied, what she does. These are a good start to understand a little about her interests and personality.

In this way she will have the opportunity to express herself and will talk much more than you do, you will be able to get to know her better, listen to her carefully and remain an interested interlocutor and respectful of her ideas.

If at any point in the conversation you get stuck, try a simple or trivial question, such as their thoughts on a popular movie or an interesting book you’ve read.

Don’t take his answers personally, maybe he tells you that he hasn’t seen the movie because he doesn’t like movies, for example. That does not mean that he is closed to talking to you, but it is an indicator that this topic is not a good idea to pursue. Correct the course of the conversation and move on.

Trying to change your style of asking will also make a difference in the way they see you. If you ask generic, or very open-ended questions, you are less likely to get elaborate answers that lead to a conversation.

For example, it is not the same to ask “what do you like to do?” to say “how do you keep your life from feeling stagnant?” The first question is so open, that he will probably tell you that he works a lot or that he likes to eat, something simple; the second forces her to think and expose more of herself. It will help you get to know her.

Remember that sometimes it’s not what you say, but the way you say it.

3. Don’t get stuck on a single topic

It is extremely uncomfortable and tedious to try to converse with someone who only talks about the same thing over and over again. Maybe the topic interests you, maybe it worked for you on another date, maybe you feel like there is a lot to talk about, but spending too much time on the same topic is never a good idea.

Some time ago I went out with a sports narrator, he was very prominent in his area and knew perfectly the technical vocabulary of his profession and the world of football mainly, but he had also practiced a sport similar to the American rodeo, so he also knew about bulls and horses.

On our first outings he decided to take me to the two places where he could exhibit his qualities to perfection, that is, we went to a professional soccer field for lunch and on another occasion he took me to the place where they raised breed bulls.

Both appointments were interesting, I learned a lot from him and enjoyed the experiences. But the problem came later. All the outings became routine, because he just raised the same issues over and over again. I like sports, but I have other interests, and talking about football and bullfighting is not exactly the most interesting thing in the world.

Learn to recognize when you’ve exhausted a topic that was interesting to both of you, instead of plowing through a conversation that gave what it could give.

Think about it, it’s not just about you. Even if she doesn’t say it out of respect, she will get tired of hearing you always talk about the same thing.

4. Put aside egomania

This is the worst way to try to impress a woman. A brave man does not publish his exploits, because he knows that they will speak for themselves. It is one thing to be aware of your value and have self-esteem, another is to be conceited and self-indulgent.

Speak with humility, with a positive attitude and appear spontaneous and confident, without exaggerating.

Most guys think bragging is a good strategy, and they’re wrong, so running into someone who’s the exception to the norm is surprising to a girl’s eyes and ears.

Focus on interesting topics that you know how to handle, without falling into lies or exaggerations. Remember that the best way to get your attention is to highlight your attributes naturally, without needing to praise yourself. Take care of your tone of voice, body posture, personal hygiene, eye contact.

You will notice a positive change in how you are perceived when you are sensual and respectful at the same time.

5. Let her express everything

Talking is one of the activities that most women enjoy. It’s something that comes naturally to us and amuses us, so if you ask the right questions your girl will surely be entertained by the topic for a while.

Take advantage of this quality to listen carefully to her ideas – in them you will find other topics to follow later – to get to know her better as a person and learn a little more about her way of being.

Some men are not very attentive listeners, but if you really feel something more, start practicing “active listening”: rather than being passive in the conversation, intervene, ask more questions and comment on their ideas. You will see that she will be flattered to feel heard.

6. Make your interest clear

Many men underestimate women when they think that we are all emotional and that is why our conversations should revolve around this.

When they talk or go out on dates, they probably prefer to talk to their conquests about various topics before directly stating what their interest is. In essence that is not bad, but the problem is that most women are practical and want to know the objective of the conversation before continuing with it.

If you approach a girl you don’t know by asking generic questions, going around before getting to the point, or with an attitude that doesn’t make it clear whether you’re flirting or just having a normal conversation, she’s sure to avoid you right away.

When you start dating a man there is nothing “emotionally deep” that forces you to pay more attention to him than you should.

Get to the point, look for interesting topics and make it clear that if you approached her to talk to her it is because you have a goal beyond just asking her how the weather is. If you flirt, she will understand why you approached her and she will know what ground she is treading on.

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7. Ask interesting questions

Crafting worthwhile questions takes practice. It’s like when you start cooking, the first few times you will surely make mistakes and your food will even burn, but then you will be surprised at how well you do it.

Nothing like trial and error to exercise social skills.

To do this try:

a.- Read more often.

b.- Listen carefully to get clues about her interests and ideas.

8. Curiosity killed the cat

Or in this case, the “cat”. If you propose a topic but don’t conclude it immediately, you increase its intrigue.

Women like to fill gaps, so she will insist until you satisfy her curiosity about the story or ideas you started to bring up.

Asking unique and interesting questions is a good way to pique their curiosity. Instead of asking simple questions that they expect, try, “If you could buy something that no one else in the world has, what would it be?” It’s a question that will make her think, but it will also surprise her and she will wonder where you are going with these ideas.

The point is that you also have to answer it, or at least follow the topic so that the question does not die just with its answer, but rather is the beginning of an excellent conversation.

9. Use extraordinary language

Beyond the question, another way to gain her attention and be more interesting is to use different words, striking expressions, to address her.

Having a broad lexicon will help you have more and better words to verbalize what you want to express. This is what writers do to captivate their readers.

The ordinary can sound extraordinary, colorful and enjoyable when you take the trouble to memorize words different from the ones everyone uses.

10. Look a little bored

It may sound counterintuitive, but expressing disinterest can be a great way to appear more interesting to a woman.

You should appear 50% bored and 50% interested and active in the conversation. This confuses them a little, but it gives them the feeling of being in front of a boy who knows what he wants and whom they must impress in some way.

Simulate some amusement in your features, and even smile, but then wrinkle your face a little or show a neutral expression for a few seconds.

It is an excellent tactic that men apply with their conquests. Convince them – without words involved – to try harder to keep the conversation going….